Spare Bullet And Boss "Duel"

Although the boss and the staff can not construct their antonyms from the semantic meaning, once they are mixed into the human behavior, they are absolutely narrow friends.

The boss has the right in his hands. Who is afraid of the staff?

Employees do not have the right to be in their hands, and a little injustice is nothing. They often explain themselves, or imagine that once they get the hang of their power, they will tolerate and endure.

But there are always those hot tempered "Mars hitting the earth" with their bosses. At this time, you feel unbearable when you are hot blooded as employees, and you want to stop being irritated, or even growl and expose yourself to the boss's power, like a bull fighting like a red irritated bull to fight with your sword.

It seems unlikely.

Bloody death, and your head a reward for the matador?

Absolutely possible!

Find out the enemy and strive for a settlement out of court

In fact, face to face to identify the problem, and the boss to work together to find repair mistakes, improve the relationship, is your good original intention, but in practice it is difficult.

If you can't get it right, you are going to die.

A duel with the boss is definitely not a blow away.

So before you duel, you have to at least find out the enemy's situation.

If you know yourself and know your enemy, you will need to ask 6 questions first.

What is the boss doing?

The problem is as simple as insulting the intelligence of the respondent.

But if you think about it, can you tell?

How does he spend his day, does he walk around and make sure that everyone is doing things, how he appraise the work, who is the boss's boss and so on, and what happens every day, you may not notice, do not necessarily realize that this needs to be carefully observed.

What are the habits, work styles, goals and values of the boss?

Believe it or not, the primary purpose of the boss is not to make you whole. You don't have to be so self pity.

So knowing what he wants is absolutely good for you.

Let's start with finding out the boss's work habits and style.

What time does he arrive at the office every morning?

Is he used to arriving early or late?

How did the boss start working when he entered the office?

Some bosses always deliberately arrange meetings at 9 every Monday morning, which is the most painful day of the week, so the boss can distinguish between good employees and lazy employees.

If you think your boss is so, no matter how late you come, and when you arrive early on Monday, you will get a high impression.

What are the objectives and policies of the boss?

Many bosses who have mandatory fixed work habits are perfectionists. They can never tolerate employees who have lazy working habits.

Some bosses are more concerned about the progress of their work, and the most important thing is to expand their performance or catch up with deadlines so as not to be shadowed by their superiors.

How does a boss cope with stress?

Some bosses will be especially friendly when the deadline is approaching.

In other words, the greater the pressure they get, the better they get along.

Other bosses are prone to emotional turmoil in the face of stress.

Look out!

This boss may be looking for a replacement ghost or a punching bag.

What is the boss's management style?

Most of the management style of the boss is less than two.

Spare bullet, wear bullet proof vest to duel.

Well, the east wind is blowing, and the drums are fighting, and you can't walk naked into the duel.

You must first think about what you want to talk to your boss and write a memorandum, and outline the first point you want to talk about. This process will help you sort out your thoughts.

First, make sure your dissatisfaction is related to your work, and you should give proof and give specific cases and events to show your boss's cruelty to you.

But don't go to the boss with a dense copy of it, so that the boss will be ready to take precautions immediately.

It is worth noting that even if you have been preparing for several weeks, you must behave like a normal conversation instead of lowering your head.

These are the bullets you need to prepare.

The time and place of the interview are also important.

Be sure to choose privacy that allows you to speak freely. It's a comfortable place. The conference room will be the best place. You will be here in this place, and no one will think of it.

The boss's office is also a good choice. The boss will feel more comfortable. After all, when he wants to lose his temper, his office is the best place.

However, this is equivalent to losing your place, so if you can get him out of the office, it will reduce his probability of losing temper, and at the same time he will be equal in the "right place".

Time, please pick a lighter time for a week or a month.

Don't be stupid enough to choose a deadline or the last day of a season, because this is the time when tension and stress are at stake.

At noon and after work, there are two less noticeable times worth making use of.

These are equivalent to wearing a bullet proof vest for themselves.

Finally, we will talk about the skills of conversation.

A psychologist once said, "one of the basic principles of human behavior is that people seldom change under threat."

"Under threat, people will automatically generate the psychological trend of refusing to change."

One of the worst ways to talk is that you attack and keep the boss on the defensive.

The best strategy is to take responsibility for yourself and not to the boss.

The wrong demonstration is: I have a big problem.

To be frank with you!

The problem is you.

I don't know if you have noticed that I can hardly work with you.

And if you ask other people in the Department, they will agree with me.

This dialogue violated the basic tenets of psychology, and isolated the boss within 10 seconds.

The correct demonstration is: boss, I want to tell you that I am having problems, please help me.

Yesterday you asked me to attend the staff meeting and put forward two ideas for improving the project plan.

When I started speaking, you interrupted me for three times, and you made me feel very insignificant.

I need you to help me understand the whole story.

Did I do anything wrong?

You have explained the problem succinctly, so you can leave the question to the boss and see what he says.

And his first reaction probably was: "what do you think I should do?"

This is what you have been waiting for.