Two Phenomena Of "Dare Not Say" And "Can'T Finish" In Social Interaction

Some people are born clumsy, which is called "golden mouth difficult to open", more serious is suffering from social anxiety disorder; some people are born chatting and endless, so that they are called "TB".

In fact, the functions of these two kinds of mouths are "walking away from the sword" and not using the function of the mouth.

How can we improve the efficiency of mouth speaking?

One, dare not speak to strangers.

You are already suffering from social anxiety when you are faced with strangers who are at a loss, unable to work under public attention or fear of contacting leaders or subordinates.

It is reported that social anxiety disorder has become the third major mental disorder following depression and obsessive compulsive disorder.

That is to say, you are not lonely, not only one of you is suffering from this disease, you have many co travellers.

The main physiological symptoms of this social anxiety disorder are muscle pain, dyspnea, tremor, sweating, stomach cramps and other physical symptoms when facing the crowd, and half of them are suicidal.

Many TV stations replayed the TV drama "do not talk to strangers" before, but "no" and "no" are two concepts.

If you can't even talk to strangers, how will your work go on?

This is the most worrying thing: the disease is rapidly advancing from the young and the less educated to the highly educated and 20 year old white-collar workers.

In the psychological training class for social anxiety disorder, Zhang Xinkai, deputy director of the medical psychology research center of Shanghai mental health center, accounted for most of the patients above the university level.

With the increasing degree of social cooperation, social skills are increasingly becoming indispensable means and abilities for modern people. But people with social anxiety disorder can only shrink from their own space.

Promotion is a dream that many people dream of, but Wang Wei refused to be promoted: once, after graduating from college, he had the opportunity to become a department manager.

That time, he could not sleep for a few days.

Just because the company required a promotion to do a duty report at the office meeting, and speaking on the stage was just like a guillotine for him. Finally, he pushed the opportunity of promotion in the eyes of his colleagues or surprised or puzzled by his reasons for being young.

Two years later, fate once again favored him, but he still could not overcome his fear of speaking on the stage and gave up again.

He could not do anything about his fear. He felt that he could not develop. He even thought of killing himself to end the pain.

Ma Li has been a director of a foreign company for several years, but he can still be nervous, blush or even tremble even when facing men and subordinates.

There was once a man pursuing her, but she blushed several times, always making men mistake, but catching up more vigorously.

As a result, Xiao Sun became more and more worried about his blushes and became more and more afraid to associate with boys.

In the past two years, she has talked about 6 times before and after introduction, and ended up in failure.

The reason why Wang Wei and Ma Li dare not speak to strangers is quite complicated, but one thing in common is that these people are usually perfectionists or suffer some kind of setbacks when they are young.

For this symptom, mild anxiety disorder can be treated by psychotherapy. Moderate or severe patients can be treated with medication plus psychotherapy.

At present, there are also some training courses that allow you to speak.

Two, talking with strangers is endless.

Many people dare not speak to strangers, while others like chatting with strangers.

In fact, this kind of person is to talk to whoever they are talking to, and to pull someone around to talk about it.

Strangers, how to chat more without scruples and more arbitrary.

For this kind of person, we call it "TB".

In most of the impressions, people who like to chatter are mostly elderly, who can catch anyone who says something about education and catch everyone who says something about their children.

Nowadays, the older people have more sustenance, but fewer people suffer from "TB".

Or extremely spiritual emptiness, life is extremely boring, usually no one to speak, catch a personal not to suffocate the words to pour out, tube he knows not familiar, familiar with unfamiliar, willing to not willing, first pleased himself again; or is the occupational disease, such as reporters, old teachers and so on.

Reporters had to contact strangers every day, and had to create many problems, but also to let the other side have a sense of speculation and meeting.

Who can he talk to?

Isn't that how many topics and news points come out?

People who suffer from the symptoms of "TB" can be classified as confidential.

Some people are very good at watching people dish dishes, picking up topics that people are interested in, and the more people they see, the more active they are. They are also known as "people are crazy."

The typical case is Xiang Linsao. "Really, I only know that snow and wolf will run down the mountain, really..."

Compared to the social phobia that has no benefit, there is a lot of benefits for "talkative".

For example, at least you can activate the atmosphere, at least do not need others to dig for the topic, at least not cold, at least some people are willing to be willing to listen to the audience, at least can also make a few friends, at least not because of fear of going to the stage and lose the promotion opportunity, at least not because of communication is not enough missed the good luck.

Of course, the symptoms of "TB" can also cause trouble.

Everything must be stopped, with a ruler.

If you say many words, you may have revealed some secrets. You may have offended a leader by saying something. Maybe you can let a friend get cold feet by saying something.

If you want to overcome this disadvantage, you should try to control your mouth and speak again when you want to speak.

You can take care of a close friend, remind you at a critical moment, hint at you, interrupt your conversation, and you can't stop your mouth with food.

You can also go to the training class to teach you to speak. The purpose is not to learn to speak, but to speak. It is the skill of speaking and the art of speaking.