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The First Year Of The New Job Should Be Careful Not To Take These Detours.

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> enter a href= "http://www.91se91.com" > workplace < /a >, the new environment will become an amplifier, magnifying the small problems of your psychological and behavioral mode, so many problems that have not been encountered on campus have appeared.

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Wang Tian .

serving in the world's top 500 largest American machinery manufacturing company

Less than P, in her first year of age, her treatment and prospects are enviable, and she is generally satisfied.

But as a newcomer, there are always some embarrassments that she can not avoid, which has become her plagued.

Yin Dynasty .

Assistant Manager of credit industry project

has its own career planning, self evaluation is a "special new situation", willing to solve problems and actively solve them.

Liu Ying .

Assistant Customer director of a well-known local public relations company

the family condition is superior. Her master's degree in communication studies at University of Heidelberg, Germany, is also good enough for her to work in the workplace. In her opinion, the new person must have a new look, and the eyes are alive.

Angelsigh

Sino Japanese joint venture software company plation

a cheerful personality and a positive attitude. In her opinion, as a new person in the workplace, there must be a lot of hard work.

professional expert

Zhou Wanliang .

"P", consultant of Rui Shi management consultant, and Deputy Secretary General of Beijing Association of human resources managers.

has worked as a trainer and human resource management in many top 500 foreign companies, and has been a teacher at Peking University.

psychological specialist

Zhang Meichun .

served as the director of human resources of Kailai group. After that, he studied psychoanalysis on his own interest in psychology, and founded Chunxiao psychological studio as chief psychologist.

almost every successful person in the workplace is fond of remembering the hard times of early work: living in the basement, being bullied by colleagues, and working silently with humiliation.

A new person is good at having the courage to be willing to cut, and always comforting himself. These are all successful embellishment in the future.

in the movie "swordsman", Donnie Yen once said, "one person makes mistakes, all creatures make mistakes, and heaven and earth conspire."

In fact, everything is related to cause and effect.

In order to save money, rent a house away from the company's two hour commuter ride, is there any relationship with the promotion in the future?

in fact, everyone's character, interpersonal relationship and emotional expression are developing and changing continuously. The 4 year of university is the best exercise opportunity.

Once entering the workplace, the environment and interpersonal relationships will become complex in a short time.

The new environment will become an amplifier to magnify the problem several times.

Q first question: is there any relationship between location and promotion?

for the cities such as North Shang Guang, the company always concentrates on all kinds of business centers.

And the rent in that neighborhood is enough to make the average monthly income of a new job in the workplace less than half.

In addition, children who have just left school generally have a "love school" complex. Therefore, workplace newcomers tend to rent less expensive suburban or alma maters nearby, and then run on the road every day.

Then, is it worth paying a little more rent to earn more time and enjoy more conveniences? Is the increase in rent input a potential investment in career development?

Angelsigh: remember a program interview with Fan Bingbing. She said that when he first came to Beijing, more than half of her salary was used for renting, and those who could spend were often more profitable.

As a ten thousand year old person, I rent the house very close to the company, and the characteristics of the Japanese do not work, which is more conducive to the response to the temporary emergency work.

If comrades who are renting far away because they are afraid of being overworked, I can only say that as a new member of the society, you have not yet done the first thing to strive for.

In fact, you can choose to share the rent with your colleagues to lighten the financial burden, and there is also an additional benefit: more than one person, there is much more discussion and reference to the work.

Liu Ying: to rent a house must live near the unit. How much it costs is worth it!

When I first arrived in Beijing, I shared with my classmates and lived closer to my classmates. It took me about an hour to go to work and even take the subway.

For many office workers in Beijing, it's normal to travel two hours a day, but it's a bit far away for a new employee who is often busy, working overtime, and wants to use his spare time to recharge.

In June last year, I moved to my present house and walked two blocks with the company for 15 minutes.

Shortly after moving in, Beijing was caught up in a torrential rain. Traffic was almost paralyzed. Not only was the loop blocked, but many subway stations were temporarily closed because of the rain.

At that time, I rejoiced in my heart: Fortunately, I moved here or I didn't know if I could get home in the middle of the night.

Living close to the company, not only did not get up early in the morning, but also saved the energy and strength of the subway and bus, and returned home to read books and do housework.

Most of my colleagues also choose to live near the company. I want to be similar to my consideration.

Living near the company will surely help the long-term career development.

expert interpretation

Zhou Wanliang: the most difficult part of the choice of renting houses is the beginning of this period.

Therefore, the key lies in balancing economic pressure and psychological endurance.

For some newcomers, even though the economy is not well-off, he feels that he can pay higher rent in the vicinity of the company. He can have time for self-renewal, learning and communication, enrich his spare time life, and is optimistic about the future prospects, and he can bear high rent in psychology.

But for some new a href= "http://www.91se91.com/news/index_c.asp" > economy < /a > worries, if they pay these economic costs, they may worry too much or even affect their working conditions.

It is still realistic to choose a house with less economic pressure. Now the subway in Beijing is very convenient, and it pays some time and cost to exchange for economic space.

Zhang Meichun: where renting is different from person to person, there is no uniform standard and principle, so long as we find the suitable state.

I recently studied in a hospital, surrounded by a large number of interns, listening to their questions about renting. I think everyone's choices are different.

Some people will live in unit dormitories; others will rent houses near their units; others prefer to live far away, because he feels they need to work overtime when they live near the unit.

In psychology, these are not absolutely good or bad, but to see your own acceptance, see whether distance and economic input are in line with your psychological expectations; where you live, you can not cause additional psychological pressure and psychological distress.

Q second question: do you want to take part in the meeting if you have less income, colleagues, or? /p?

colleagues gathering is often a shortcut to quickly integrate into the team, but new people are already nervous about the economy, and often do not go to high for a while. It is unavoidable that they are shy, and sometimes they do not like the events of the gathering, and they go to the "entertainment" at the end of their lives. Finally, they have to get rid of their meals for several days by A.

Yin Dynasty: from my personal principles, I can refuse to respond to the entertainment on the scene, of course, I will definitely be particular about rejection techniques.

But if I work with my colleagues, I will be very happy to attend.

My team is a relatively independent project team.

Sometimes our department will organize some team building activities. I don't have much contact with other team members in my work, nor do I have much energy to make too many friends, so I usually refuse to work on a busy basis.

I would be happy to have dinner with our small group colleagues. When we eat, everyone will exchange their ideas. Sometimes the way of thinking is quite different. We can learn a lot from this table communication.

I belong to those who have very limited life experience and social experience at university. After joining the work, I shared meals with these kindly colleagues, shared their experiences and gained great experience in life experience.

Angelsigh: the necessary cost of interpersonal relationship can not be saved, and making good friends with colleagues in life is more conducive to friendly exchanges in work.

I get my salary every month, and I will make a little plan to reserve two activities for every Monday. Compared with the other things, when I buy things, I will tighten my purse tightly instead of buying things that I have to use now.

Such a colleague less activity that month, but also can save a little money.

In addition, because of the lively character, the master quickly gathered on the top of every party. With the familiarity of all kinds of eating places and the keen interest in online group buying, the Party tried to find a shop with moderate prices and not losing grades.

After several successful gatherings, the head of the team who played with me appreciated my organizational skills. I strongly recommended that I should have the opportunity to talk directly to the boss and participate in the company's activities.

Oh...

Is this an alternative way of promotion?

interpretation by experts:

Zhou Wanliang: I personally feel that if team activities are beneficial to you and valuable, you should try your best to attend.

When participating, you can think of some ways to find some activities that do not cause too much economic pressure to you, rather than having too high a standard of meeting at the beginning, because the purpose of activities is to relax, be happy and communicate. If the parties are too frequent, and the consumption exceeds their capacity, it has actually deviated from the purpose of their initial gathering.

besides, attending every gathering does not mean that there is the best relationship between colleagues or colleagues. It does not mean that they are out of tune with their colleagues. A person can communicate, be friendly and considerate within 8 hours of his work, and let everyone know that he is a gregarious and team oriented person.

Of course, if you don't take part every time, you will be complaining by your colleagues.

Zhang Meichun: for new people, they should be able to feel themselves and feel others.

That is to observe more, and then look for the right opportunity to prove your feelings.

Colleagues get together to talk about how they feel about each other. Such communication is a good knowledge system.

At the same time, in this process of communication, first of all, we can relieve anxiety. Secondly, like looking at a mirror, we can ask the people around us: "what do you think I am, do I have problems with this?"

In such an interactive process, you can make a comparison and correspondence between your thoughts and others' thoughts, so that you can make adjustments. Perhaps you feel that you have done well, and you are in a bit of a rush in others' eyes, then adjust back a bit. Maybe you feel that you are not in the right place, but others feel that they are excellent in some aspects, so that you can regain your confidence.

New people need to have such interpersonal communication opportunities at parties.

Q third: why is it always looked down upon by the elderly?

that year, after 70, we can not see 80, what selfish, impetuous, high handed and low...

Various labels continue.

Now, the same drama appears on the post-90s. The difference is that the 80's become the accuser. In fact, who has not been criticized in their youth when they recall it carefully? What should we do to deal with prejudice?

Angelsigh: as an ordinary youth, there is always a time when people don't want to see each other. Just entering the company is assigned to a devil boss H to do things, because her plation is sent abroad for further study, so I am going to miss this.

Then fell into the common vicious circle of how hard work is being picked.

They were new employees, others were playing soy sauce, I was studying materials back, they were working overtime after work, they were having a rest at noon, I was scratching my head and writing H daily newspaper.

Even so, the H adult was still unhappy with me, playing with me.

When I was forced to face up to her and had doubts about her value of existence, a new project started, and I was liberated by H's "generosity" to another department for language support.

But H's grumble against me is full of complaints in two departments. The boss's prejudice is the fort on the road of occupation. Wherever you go, you can only shoot Dong Cunrui.

the turnaround appeared on the second Monday in the new department. When I was sleepy on the bus, my new supervisor called L. She asked for sick leave and asked me to stay alone for a day.

This means that in the next 8 hours, I will not only plate Japanese into Chinese, but also have conversations with Japanese customers, mail back, report progress, and arrange work for Members according to customer requirements.

Head back to the office, quickly recall the basic information of previous studies, clarify every link, and make progress communication with customers on the basis of the daily experience of daily writing, and the colleagues in the Department seem to be deterred by my solemn force, and concentrate on the 8 hours smoothly.

On the second day of P, I became one of the hot topics of discussion. When I was having lunch, I heard H ask her temporary interpreter. If I asked for a leave, you wouldn't be able to withstand it. Then I knew that the fort sister took it.

In the third months when I entered the company, I could write plan independently, arrange for people to help me perform, and those who joined me in the company were still doing odd jobs and moving between several departments. P

A group of "old people" in the same group said that I had made rapid progress, but in fact, these were the foundations that H had been forced to do when they first came in.

In the face of prejudice, P must be modest and not to be quick to discern, to wait and grasp the opportunity, to speak with facts.

Liu Ying: we are all very busy at work. The old man has no time to look down upon us.

If the newcomers are criticized, it is mostly because the newcomers are not doing well, and the old man has no time to find fault with us.

Work standards are unified, whether you are 70, 80, 90, do not finish the task will be criticized.

interpretation by experts:

Zhou Wanliang: I think it is best to see dialectically that for a group, such as 60, 70, 80 and 90, people may have different traces in different times, but this is only an angle.

The crux of the matter is whether you have enough professional qualities and talents. As long as you have these, no matter what circumstances, you will not be discriminated against because you are young.

Another reason is that if an old man has no unique qualities and talents, he will not be respected by young people.

Zhang Meichun: first of all, we have to understand the old people. They have gone through these, and now there are new people. They may vent some subconscious emotions and want to guide their new people in their own way.

Therefore, when you are faced with the old man's unwillingness to "master" himself, more understanding and understanding will make you feel better.

Secondly, we must have a zero return mentality.

I am a new person, whether Tsinghua, Peking University or returnees. Now, in this position, the starting point is zero.

In addition, it is to stick to their own boundaries and bottom line, to understand their strengths and characteristics, to make difficulties and excessive demands.

in fact, no matter new or old people, "zero to mind" applies to any new environment. It can start from zero, lower posture, be modest, maintain professional attitude and level, and watch more, listen more and speak less.

Q fourth question: when is it always picking up, when does it come out?

"P", new people will always be assigned some odd jobs. Repetitive and less technical work is always discouraging. Why can't those jobs that can achieve great sense of achievement be allocated to their heads?

Wang Tian: every department wants to distribute the miscellaneous work to the new people. Sometimes everyone is very busy. Many people give me a part of the busy work.

But these jobs will not be given to individuals, because our new employees, though not belonging to the same department, have been assigned to the same group, so every time they are assigned to the 8 groups.

those jobs have nothing to do with themselves. They are purely mechanical repetitive work.

Before the Spring Festival, these extra jobs account for 40% of the total workload.

Though unwilling to do it, there is no way, nor has it ever been refused, unless it is justified.

And one answer is that 8 people pick up, I do not answer, it is openly provocative.

At the moment, this problem is really not around. After all, dealing with many departments and asking them questions from time to time will always be disadvantageous to future development.

Liu Ying: there are only three levels in our team, and fewer people, so the competition is not particularly fierce.

The higher authorities have taught me that she can save worry and make our team stronger, and I can not pose a threat to her in the short term.

So there are not many cases of "church apprentice, starving to death".

I have done something about volunteering.

For example, some bosses at the meeting suggested that several new children learn the industry daily. Later I sorted out a month's major events, and made the word document share to everyone. The boss was very happy.

New people always have jobs in their eyes.

In private enterprises, we should try our best to show and be positive.

expert comment:

Zhou Wanliang: when you first came, everyone gave you everything, but it's not very realistic.

We should learn from the most simple mindset and start from scratch. Even if we wipe the table, we must polish the table more brightly.

Second, on this basis, have you gained the trust of others and done more than expected? Third, if you want to get help from others, you need to do your best to help others.

Young people today may feel more likely to be able to help others when I first come, but think carefully, there are still many places to help the elderly and leaders.

Like the story of Zheng Xianglin, the cover figure of the February job market, when he first came to the company, he worked as an assistant, but he worked overtime every day to sort out the market and industry information. After that, he copied it and put it on the director of the market.

Let everyone feel that the company has come to such a young man, it is helpful for everyone's work.

If you do these things, how can the old man still feel relieved to let you try some more important work?

Q fifth Q: what kind of distance should I keep with my colleagues?

the workplace is different from the school. The good friends are close friends, but the old people do not interact with each other.

But colleagues are different. Sometimes, those guys who you hate again have to cooperate.

Angelsigh: one or two friends and a group of partners are my current situation.

To keep what kind of distance does not think so much, along with, the general company has a certain scale, there are all kinds of people, and everyone to become friends is basically impossible.

If you have to cooperate with a person who is disagreeable, the hate is that a person is not a job - I can split it and do it well, and the man is still in touch.

Yin Dynasty: our team is a fast growing entrepreneurial project team. Everyone's age and philosophy are similar. Everyone can easily become a good friend in life.

But with the expansion of team size, potential differences of interest in work are slowly emerging.

For example, a job has great significance for personal growth, who is assigned to it and whose ability is more appropriate, which involves many personal competition and external evaluation factors.

For example, many of my colleagues used to communicate a lot with friends in their lives, but they encountered problems of balancing work and life in their work.

Sometimes the leader asked me what I think of other colleagues, but these colleagues are my good friends. When they express their thoughts, they feel that they have encountered great conflict of principles, whether they are responsible for the leadership or are responsible for their friends, which is a great trade-off.

I think what kind of distance I should keep with my colleagues. Different people have different strategies and have a great relationship with everyone's principles and values. In extreme cases, it is very normal for colleagues to become boyfriend and girlfriend.

Most workplace guides advise that "do not make friends with colleagues" is actually reasonable, because once work and life cross, there will be many conflicting principles and ideas. If you are not a good person to handle all kinds of contradictions, it is best to clearly distinguish the boundaries between colleagues and friends.

expert comment:

Zhou Wanliang: you can have friends in your workplace, but you can't make enemies.

Learn to work with colleagues who you don't appreciate or are not accustomed to.

In addition, it is to grasp the loyalty between friends and not to break the bottom line of the workplace rules.

For example, a friend can complain to you because he is at work, but you can not listen to it.

Listening is based on the understanding of a friend rather than his viewpoint, which is an important way to express his professionalism.

After a long time, your friend will feel that he understands and understands your professionalism.

Zhang Meichun: we call scapegoat all those who are not to be seen. Any group, including at home, will always be a scapegoat. It seems that he has concentrated on the most annoying characteristics of all.

You don't have to force yourself to have a good relationship with him. Just like him, keep boundaries and distance.

If you are interested, you can try to understand him, probably very often. When you really get close to him and really have a chance to communicate with him, you find that he is probably demonized by everyone.

Those faults and annoying things in him are just those parts of us that we can not accept.

We oppose him and think that he is a wicked person and then we become good people.

And you will find the phenomenon of specific meaning. If we assume that the person has been removed or he has been dropped by pass, you will find that the group is experiencing a new repugnant person. So, < a href= "http://www.91se91.com" > team "/a" always needs a scapegoat to play such a role, as to who will see who is unlucky.