Teach You How To Be A Good Talker.

When people talk, people usually start by choosing a topic. They focus on this topic and then turn to another topic, so choosing the right topic is very important.

If the topic of choice can be accepted, conversation will proceed smoothly.

If you choose an inappropriate topic, you can't interest everyone, and no one responds, and conversation fails.

Sometimes you may have the power to make others sit down to listen to you. They may pretend to listen to you attentively, but you can not force others to speak.

Inappropriate topics are mainly of the following types:

(1) related

Some people talk about their own lives, always around their lives, people may be interested in listening, for a long time, people lose interest and even avoid such a talker.

(2) taboo topics such as conjugal relations, conflicts among family members, and diseases that are reluctant to talk about.

If some people do not want others to inquire about their economic sources or economic conditions, etc.

So these topics should not be touched unless they mention it voluntarily.

(3)

False topics refer to topics that can not be continued. If you start talking with "good weather today," there is nothing to respond to convenience.

If you find people around you do not want to talk with you, then check whether you have any problems in choosing topics.

The following are the ways of checking: take a week's time limit, and note down all the topics you choose when you talk with people.

If there are recurring topics, note the times behind the topic.

This gives you a list of topics you choose.

Examine the topic with more frequent occurrences and ask yourself two questions: if someone else always talks to you about such a topic, do you want to hear it? If you don't want to hear it, why?

People talk in a certain order, not when they want to say something, when they want to say it.

In conversation, both the speaker and the listener cooperate with each other to smooth the conversation.

Suppose three people, A, B and C, talk together. The ideal way of conversation is as follows:

1.A first began to speak. He chose a topic and spoke a few words around it.

2.A continues to talk about B through some ways.

3.B took the conversation and said a few words along the topic selected by A.

4.B chooses C as the next speaker.

5.C took the B's conversation and talked a few words along the topic.

6.C chooses A as the next speaker.

7. this process has been going on until we feel that there is nothing to say about the topic or time is running out.

In this process, everyone has roughly equal opportunities and time to talk, and when a person speaks, others can only listen.

8. the last person summarizes the topic of the A selection, and this time indicates that the topic is over, and it can lead to another topic.

It's against this speaker and listener.

The rules can only be carried on smoothly.

This rule is similar to traffic rules. Even if there is no police command, everyone will abide by the rules of stopping the green light with red lights, otherwise it will cause traffic jam.

Although the rules of conversation are not as obvious as traffic rules, they are strictly observed.

According to these rules, people who participate in conversation can decide to join in conversation or avoid conversation according to their needs.

If you want to join the conversation, you must wait for the speaker to pick up the time after he stops talking.

If you interrupt someone in the middle, you will be considered impolite.

If you want to hand over the topic to the next person, there will be a pause, implying that you have finished.