Dad, If You Don'T Accompany Me, I Will Grow Up! I Recommend It To Every Father.

"Dad, if you don't accompany me, I will grow up."

This is a WeChat that has been forwarded in countless circles in the circle of friends in recent days. It has aroused countless feelings and even heartaches from countless netizens, especially those who are parents.

A father said, "if you only see this sentence, your chest seems to have been hit by something. Really, I suddenly found that there are too few parent-child days with children."

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Baby, the first cry, the first time.

Have you witnessed the first time you walk and grow your first tooth? Do you share their joys and sorrows when your baby is growing up? When children need you, will you appear in time? In fact, what children need is not just gifts from dad's pocket money, but also your mental impact on children.

Shock: there is no father in the "happy hours" of children's paintings

"Early and late, the moon and the moon, daily work tense and busy, the time to accompany the children is very few..."

Speaking of time with the children, Mr. Wang could not help but sigh.

Mr. Wang, 37, works in a financial institution. He often wakes up before he goes out in the morning and sleeps when he comes home at night.

In his own words, his daughter is almost 6 years old, and is about to ascend to the kindergarten class, but he can send the children in person, with five fingers counted.

It's hard to send the kids to the wrong floor once and find the wrong class.

Every time I saw her daughter's longing for companionship, Mr. Wang felt guilty. I could think of myself fighting for this family, and my guilt was lessen.

But what happened two days ago made Mr. Wang feel calm for a long time.

"61 is coming, and the daughter's kindergarten lets every child draw a picture called" Happy Hour ", that is, this painting has made my heart feel bad for a long time.

He found that in this picture, his daughter painted himself, mother, grandfather, grandmother, grandmother and grandpa, and they stood together happily, but they could not see their father.

"I was very curious, where did I go?" second Mr. Wang postponed the time for work, and waited until his daughter got up.

Unexpectedly, my daughter raised her little face and said firmly, "I am the happiest when I am playing. Usually my mother is playing with me and accompanying me to the playground.

Every weekend I went out to play. My father said he was busy and had to work overtime. There was no dad in my happy hour.

After hearing this, Mr. Wang felt sour in his heart.

From his daughter's tender words, he realized that in the heart of a child, father is a name. From his daughter's birth to now, he has too limited time to accompany her.

Mr. Wang suddenly remembered that her 6 year old daughter often used to sleep late. In fact, she wanted to kiss her after she came back.

Mr. Wang had a dull pain in his heart.

He could not help but begin to reflect: are you really busy enough to spend time with your daughter?

Survey: how long have you not been with your child?

Recently, the reporter conducted a random survey of 30 fathers, the survey content is "do you accompany children every day?"

According to the survey, the number of children who spend less than 5 hours a week with their children is 50%, and only 20% of their fathers are accompanied by their children every day.

Most of the 30 fathers realized that they had too little time to accompany their children, and most of them didn't know what children really needed during their growth.

When asked about the reasons for not being able to accompany the child, some dad said he had no conditions for working in the field; some dad said he always had to work overtime; some dad said he had no time to entertain himself; others said he had worked for a day, and after going home, he had to watch TV and surf the Internet to eliminate fatigue.

50% of fathers spend less than 5 hours a week with their children.

When asked how much time the 30 fathers spend every day with their children, the reporter was surprised to find that 50% of the fathers spend less than 5 hours a week with their children.

Mr. Li is a salesperson. His 6 year old daughter is taken care of by his wife everyday.

"I chose to do it.

It is to make them live better. "

But Mr. Li found that he had too little time to accompany his daughter every week.

Usually you have to be sociable, and sometimes you have to work overtime on weekends. Even if you don't work overtime, you don't want to move at home.

"I have carefully calculated that the time spent together with my daughter is less than 5 hours a week."

Now his daughter seems to be more and more estranged from him.

30% of my father went online after he got home.

What did the 30 fathers do when they came home after a hard day's work? Help cooking, watching TV, surfing the Internet, or taking time to accompany their children? The survey showed that 30% of the most important things that dad did when they came home were watching TV and surfing the Internet.

For them, watching TV at home, playing games online and other recreational activities are more conducive to releasing pressure and regulating emotions.

In addition, very few fathers will take the work home.

For Liu, who has been in junior high school, his family often appears on the Internet and his son reviews homework.

Sometimes, when my son has finished his studies, I hope I can learn some chess skills or chat with myself, but I will often be refused by Mr. Liu impatiently.

"I always feel like working in a unit for a day. I hope to relax on the Internet when I go home. After that, I feel like I should spend more time with my children."

20% of my father came home after work to accompany the children.

Of course, 20% of the people belong to the standard "good dad".

They will choose to go home and patiently accompany their children.

They will play some interactive games during the period after supper, and listen to their interesting stories in kindergarten.

Of course, bedtime stories are also indispensable in parent-child activities.

Mr. Zhang, who works in a bank, usually has many social intercourse.

Although it is not guaranteed to go home on time every day, in Mr. Zhang's mind, the two happiest times of his day are related to his daughter.

"I was on her way to school in the morning, and I was chatting with her during the evening."

In order to abide by her promise, Mr. Zhang will go home before 9:30 in the evening, no matter how important he is, and never miss his precious time with the baby.

Thinking: a father is better than 100 schoolmasters.

According to Chinese tradition, a father in a family has to "feed his family", so men's family pressure, busy work and overtime work have led to the failure to accompany their children at all times.

Mothers in Chinese families have the traditional responsibility of "husband and son", and most of them are accompanied by mothers and children.

But dad really can't be absent in family life. Dad can give boys masculinity and give girls a sense of security.

Once the father is absent from this kind of interaction, he will undoubtedly push the child into a world with only mothers.

Such children will be more dependent on their mothers in their emotional relationships and their mothers as authority. As a matter of fact, they may put their father in a cold haven for a long time.

Therefore, the absence of father education will lead to the imbalance of family relationship.

"A father is better than 100 schoolmasters."

No matter what reason fathers have, they can not be an excuse to ignore children.

When the weather is fine, ask dad to take the child to the countryside. After the rain has cleared up, ask dad to take the child to look for the rainbow in the distance. When the child has something to worry about, ask his father to act as the "intimate brother" of the child. When the child's examination results are not satisfactory, his father is asked to rebuild the lost self-confidence for his children.

Even if you cannot accompany children around the clock because of your work, please use other ways to accompany your child to grow.

For example, give your child a greeting phone call every day, send a message of concern, or even leave a message on the Internet.

The growth of children is fleeting. Fathers must not neglect their company's time easily.

Of course, to accompany children, please try to accompany the children, whether for children or fathers, this is "the happiest time"!