The Art Of Saying "No" In The Workplace

Speaking with leaders is an art. The most difficult part of this art is how to say "no".

Refusing to lead is not an easy task. If you refuse to do well, you can show your attitude and let your leader know what your director is short of.

Deadlock.

Scenario 1: about 10 years ago, when I was stationed at the provincial press station, I met a chairman of the literary union of an extra large oilfield.

His article is excellent, young, sunny and elegant, and a good friend in our literary circles.

As a result, the elder brother was led by the oil field leader. When the Minister of publicity of the oil field came to power, he was sent to the oil field propaganda department as a minister.

For others, this is a once in a thousand chance of promotion. It's too late to be happy.

Every man has his ambition, but this man is not willing to act as propaganda minister. He told me that he likes to write articles freely, feel the world and feel his life, and do not want to be tied up by the details and eight articles.

At that time, I told him that there are people who want to be in office. If you don't want to do it, you can tell the leaders clearly and tell your leaders what you think. But he said that he is the most suitable person in the oil field leading group. Even the former propaganda minister thought he was the best successor. If he refused, he would be led by the leadership to be ungrateful.

This is the same. The dear leader has been doing more than half a year's publicity minister in the eagerly anticipated expectations of his leaders, and his work has been good.

But when the leaders agreed that a good publicity minister was available, the man committed suicide at home.

From the remains he left behind, he learned that when he was the Minister of propaganda, he did not like it, but he did not want to live up to the trust of the leaders. He did his best to do his work well and missed his days as chairman of the Literary Federation. Eventually, he led to depression and his mood was despairing every day.

He has come to the leadership office for a number of times to quit his job, but he has been unable to speak for many times in the praise and encouragement of his leaders. His illness is getting worse and worse. He finally chose to leave the world in this way.

This case sounds unbelievable, and it is shortsighted for not wanting to be an official. But this is indeed the fact that I once lived in my life. There are two or three similar cases.

People may ask: how difficult is it to say "no" to leaders? Is it so hard to learn to refuse? Well, let's look at a case of refusal done well.

Case two: Wang Lin has worked for five years in a large public relations firm.

She works hard and has a strong ability. The work done by the leader has never been wrong. She is trusted by the general manager and is very relieved to give her the important tasks.

But what important work had Wang Lin do was making her miserable.

When he saw that other colleagues could take the annual leave, raise the salary and raise their workload, Wang Lin had a lot of thoughts.

She heard from other colleagues that she had been denied by the general manager several times about her promotion, and the general manager felt that she could afford to live, put it down and put it on the front line.

The colleague could not help making fun of her: "if you are promoted, where will the general manager find you so hard working and never making mistakes?"

Wang Lin decided to master his destiny and must learn to say "no" with his leader.

On the second day, when the general manager came to her to tell her about a new project and let her do it, Wang Lin summoned up the courage and said, "manager, I have three big projects and four small projects on hand now. I'm afraid I don't have enough time. Do you see if the project is arranged for others to do it?" the general manager was unhappy at the first hearing: "Wang Lin, you are never afraid of fatigue or fear of hardship, but I trust you to let you do it."

"Well, I'll try my best to catch up.

But it's really time to finish on time. Do you think you can send a few people to help me? "Wang Lin said with a low head and understatement. He thought," be sure to speak out, or you will be really exhausted. "

After listening to the general manager, he looked at Wang Lin first and then looked at him in surprise. After a while, he smiled and said, "yes, the workload is a bit heavy. I'll find a couple of people to help you. After that, they will take care of you."

Case analysis: in this case, the general manager did not know how heavy the workload of Wang Lin was, or he didn't know it. He only knew that Wang Lin had done a good job and never said "no". He used it very smoothly.

When you meet such a leader, don't think that he takes you as a soft persimmon. He should adjust his mind and show his love for this job, but it is difficult to finish it.

Either refuse or ask the leader to find ways to provide you with better working conditions.

As long as you sincerely show your leader that you are not a superman, leadership can be understood and reconsidered most of the time.

Just as a case does not want to do this job, it is necessary to express your ideas as quickly as possible with the leaders. Some things are getting worse and worse.

Show your heart,

It will be understood.

The most feared thing is to be unwilling or disagree with the leader, or to slow down. Or like the man, he is suffering from himself and suffering from illness.

Of course, it is also a matter of learning to say "no" to leaders.

Sometimes it is due to time and energy, and sometimes because of the recognition of one's abilities. We really want to refuse the work assigned by the leader, but because of the leader's face and authority, we dare not say "no".

But the result is not only bad work, but also a lot of confusion, and it will also affect the normal progress of the company.

Therefore, it is very important to say "no" to leaders in a timely and ingenious way.

In fact, as long as we master the following principles, it will not be very bad.

First, affirm "no".

Whether or not

It is still a discussion of the work plan. The affirmative and negative strategies in the workplace are very important.

Whether subordinates are superior or superior to subordinates are equally important.

Here is a question of respect, which will avoid the aversion of the receiver.

When the leader puts forward a work plan or personnel arrangement, he must first affirm the correctness of his strategy and plan, and then put forward his own ideas.

Then, once again, on the basis of affirmative leadership, we can say "no", which is usually easy to be accepted by leaders.

On the other hand, when leaders have other arrangements or dissatisfaction with subordinates, they must first affirm where their subordinates are doing well. After all, there is no credit and hard work.

Then, it puts forward the shortcomings and deficiencies in the work of subordinates, or hopes to improve or otherwise arrange work so that subordinates are more receptive.

All of a sudden negate the subordinates can easily sharpen contradictions, subordinates' dissatisfaction is also to find ways of release, which can easily lead to excesses of subordinates.

Two, do not say "no" in front of colleagues.

In addition to discussing the work plan, in the leadership of the staff work arrangements, must not be in the face of the leadership of colleagues to say "no", such a face refusal will let the leadership feel that you do not put him in the eyes, deliberately provoke, let him face.

At the same time, face to face rejection also exposes his arrogance, which makes it easy for company colleagues to think that you are a lot of people and do not cooperate well, and will deliberately alienate you later.

The most important thing is that this rejection of public faces can easily lead to a rebellious psychology of leaders, so that leaders can not accept or can not listen to your plans or suggestions peacefully, and throw a sentence of "do nothing but do nothing" for you to directly solve the problem.

Three, learn from the leadership point of view of empathy.

If your reasons for the leadership are not very sure, the consequences of saying "no" to you are not very sure. First of all, don't worry. The position of the pposition station thinks from the leadership point of view: why does he want to arrange so? Maybe you should do more work than others? It is trying to test you. Again, if I am a leader, what kind of words or ways do employees refuse me? I think it will be easier to pick up love. After such thinking, it is easier to choose the right language or way to say "no" to the leader, so that such refusal will become effective and harmless.