Flash Marriage Is Away From &Nbsp; After 80, Marriage Is Urgent!

Nowadays, after 80 is the main force of marriage, but because of this group of people is still in an immature stage, there are many marital problems.

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In recent years, the divorce rate has been rising again and again. Among divorced people, the majority of young people who are divorced because of their emotional incompatibility are the only children born after 1980.

Nowadays, after 80 is the main force of marriage, but because of this group of people is still in an immature stage, bringing a lot of marriage problems.

"Flash marriage flash away" is a significant feature of this crowd. They don't know each other well enough to rush into marriage. After marriage, their temperament and habits are hard to break in.

On the other hand, since most of the 80's are single children, their parents have intervened too much in their children's marital life, which has become an important reason for intensifying the contradictions between the two sides.

Reporters recently visited some marriage registration offices in Nanjing, and the staff told reporters that many young people just quarreled because of trivial matters, and they divorced each other.

"In August last year, a pair of 80 after the registration of marriage on the third day of running for divorce.

Two people are all single children. They may be a little self centred, but they are not very contradictory.

The main reason for the analysis of the staff of the marriage registry is probably that there is a lack of understanding before marriage and a weak marriage foundation.

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Case 1: flashing caused by washing dishes

In early January 2011, Xiao Zhang and Xiaoxia, a married couple who had only been married for two months, went to a marriage registry in Nanjing for divorce proceedings.

Asked about the cause of divorce, the woman said, "every day after work, my husband always sits in front of the computer and plays games, and doesn't cook or wash dishes. I can't go on getting divorced."

It turned out that Xiaoxia and Xiaoxia were both after 80, and also the only child in their family.

After marriage, the two men moved into the new house where their parents were preparing to live alone, and two people could not cook.

When the clothes are piled up, they will bring them back to their parents' homes for washing. After dinner, who will wash the dishes, the two will also use "stone scissors cloth" to decide...

In the end, two people developed anger, abuse and grabbing for small dishes, which eventually led to divorce.

Case two: Flash away due to economic problems

Pan Tingting, who was born in 1986, and Chen Feng, a college student, were in love for 5 years. At the end of 2010, they went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to register for marriage, and began to prepare for the wedding.

Chen Feng's hometown in Northern Jiangsu, the family economic condition is very ordinary, can barely pay the down payment of the house, unable to undertake the huge expense of furniture, bride price and so on.

But Pan Tingting and his parents feel that the man's family is too stingy and has always been unhappy.

In the process of preparing the wedding, the "couple" almost quarrel every day, and both parents join the "war group".

In the end, the contradiction has not been alleviated.

This section talked about 5 years of love, from registration to marriage, and less than a month.

[case three] because of the wedding photo, there is a disagreement.

Li Bo, 29, and Wu Xiaomeng, 26, met with friends only for a month before deciding to register for marriage.

Last November, Li Bo and Wu Xiaomeng finished the formalities from the marriage registration office. Two people came to a wedding photography shop in Nanjing to take wedding photos.

Wu Xiaomeng took a fancy to the special wedding dresses set up by the studio. He could go to a tourist spot to make a location. He also sent a giant wedding poster and three wedding dresses on the wedding day, but the price was as high as 10 thousand yuan.

Li Bo thought it was only a form to take the wedding photo. It was unnecessary to spend so much money.

And in the studio, in front of the staff face Wu Xiaomeng.

But Wu Xiaomeng felt that marriage had such a big thing that the wedding photo had to be the best.

Two people in the studio more noisy, more fierce, even the staff can not persuade.

At 3 p.m., two people went directly from the studio to the marriage registration office for divorce.

Expert: flash marriage is a great danger.

Yan Yao Gang, a lawyer from Nanjing Yan Yao Bang law firm, said: "after 80, young people are too strong in personality and lack patience, tolerance and responsibility in their marriage life. Once the fuse of marriage crisis is accidentally ignited, the" divorce "card will be thrown away by both sides.

Yan lawyer told reporters that he prosecuted divorce cases in the past two years, most of whom were 26 years old and ~35 years old. Especially after the 1980s, most of the young people had stable jobs and good economic foundation. Many of them were unable to mediate prosecution for divorce because of minor matters in their lives. When they divorced, they were very simple, and could not conciliation.

Nowadays, the "flash marriage flash away" is becoming more and more intense. Many people have doubts about the nature of marriage. It can be said that the impact on society is still very negative.

Chen Hong, a famous psychological expert and a member of China marriage Research Association, believes that today's society is a pluralistic society. It is his freedom to choose a flash marriage. However, at the same time, at the same time, when making this decision, we should be prepared to shoulder corresponding responsibilities.

"From a social psychological point of view, it takes one and a half years for both men and women to realize their marriages."

According to Chen Hong analysis, a couple entering the marriage hall needs a running in period of tacit understanding and tolerance.

What are the shortcomings or physiological diseases of both sides? They can also be known in long term contacts.

If the time is too short, the awareness rate will often be greatly reduced.

The two sides of "flash marriage" often do not understand each other enough to get happiness.

After 80, most of them are single children. They are doted on by their elders from childhood, and are accustomed to self centred, strong personality, lack of tolerance and tolerance.

Therefore, the result of "flash marriage" must be the increase of "flash away".

Chen Hong believes that the harm of "flash marriage" is not only harmful to the parties, but also leads to the indifference of the family concept and marriage concept and the social harmony.

Chen Hong suggested that the civil affairs department can guide all aspects of the force to participate actively. If necessary, a marriage guidance institution should be set up to guide the parties to face the marriage cautiously in marriage and divorce.