How To Be "Good At Asking" When Communicating?

"Those who ask questions can go over the mountains, but not the questioner."

If you don't ask questions in conversation, you often fail to talk. If someone asks your neighbor, "where are you from?"

"How much do you earn?"

"Does your daughter have a boyfriend?"

It is difficult to ask questions and ask people to be annoying.

Some League cadres talked to the young people and asked, "why do you grow a moustache?"

"What's the good of it?

What does it look like? "

The other party was very disgusted and walked away.

However, how can we be "good at asking"?

1, ask this question from one to another.

First, avoid the central question, start with the questions that the other party is familiar with and willing to answer, analyze the reaction of the other side and ask the questions skillfully.

2, ask people differently.

For those who are straightforward, they may be right to the point; for those with a stubborn temper, they must be circuitous; for the younger generation, they should be frank and frank; for those with low culture, they should be popular; for those who are worried about their hearts, they should be considerate and understanding and be kind.

3, ask with assurance.

In a more important conversation, if you want to ask for a good order, ask what, what to ask and what to ask. In general, ask what you want to know.

4, enough to ask.

Q & A is a bilateral activity. It must make the other person happy to answer.

After questioning, you should look at your face and get feedback from each other's expression.

If the other person lowers his head or does not answer questions, it may be that he is not interested or unable to answer. He needs to change his formulation and ask again; if he or she is tired or tired, he can not pursue it, and should stop at the right moment.

Generally do not venture to ask the guest's salary, family property, personal resume and other issues.

5, polite and polite question.

Proper use of honorific words such as "asking", "asking" and "pointing" should be used appropriately. We should use courtesy and courtesy appropriately: "thank you for reminding me", "your words make me suddenly open" and "give you trouble".

When the answer is too far away from the subject, euphemism should be used to control the topic: "please allow me to interrupt..." "these are interesting things, and I would like to ask you later, but I still want to talk about the first question again..." naturally leading the topic.

Don't look up when asking questions.

A smile is your property. Asking questions with a smile makes people happy to answer.