How Do We Get Closer To Strangers?

To see somebody for the first time,

Narrowing the distance through relatives and fellow townships

Such intimate relationships as relatives and townships will give people a warm feeling, making it easy for both parties to establish trust.

In particular, it is a pleasant surprise to learn that strangers in front of them are somehow related to themselves.

Therefore, if you know that you have such a relationship with your partner, you may as well tell them directly that you can easily narrow the distance between the two people and let people see you at the same time.

In many universities, there are some organizations such as villagers' associations, sorority associations and so on.

At the same time, we can help each other, communicate with each other and enhance communication through the townsman Association.

From the psychological point of view, everyone has a kind of "exclusiveness" in their subconscious mind. They often show more interest and enthusiasm to their own things or things related to themselves.

So the point of such relationship in conversation makes the other party realize that the two are actually very close.

In this way, you can better form a frank and frank atmosphere in the direction of the position or on your side, so as to get rid of the psychological fortification caused by the first meeting.

Comrade Mao Zedong often used this technique of "pulling ties".

When he met with democratic personages after the founding of the people's Republic of China, any relationship with him and some connections between teachers and students and his old friends were often seen at the first meeting and without two or three sentences. He gave a frank account of the relationship between them. In the hearty laughter of "we are a family", the atmosphere was much more intimate, which made the interviewees feel more cordial.

Thank you for enhancing your feelings.

When one of my classmates contacted a senior student, he said, "when you started school, you set up the bed for me.

"Is it?" the classmate said with surprise.

Then the two people's topic opened, and the atmosphere suddenly became hot.

That senior student really helped many of us, but he could not remember when he started school.

And my classmate just came out of the right place, giving the other party a big surprise. It also brought the relationship between the two people to a level.

Generally speaking, everyone is pleased with his great help to others in his unconscious.

If you can make the best use of time and place, you will undoubtedly arouse the interest of the other party.

Therefore, when I first saw someone who helped me, I might as well say it to my face. On the one hand, I would like to express my thanks to the other person, and it also deepens the feelings of the two people.

Talking about the appearance of the other person

Everyone is more or less interested in his appearance. It is a good way to communicate from the appearance.

A sociable friend skillfully brings the topic to the face of a new friend when he knows a new friend who doesn't like to talk.

"You are so much like a cousin of mine. I almost thought of you as him. You two are tall, white and clean. You have a steady air... The clothes you wear are very similar. The dark blue suit... I really can't tell you two.

"Really?" the new friend's eyes sparkle with surprise.

Of course, their talkboxes were all open.

We have to admire the flexibility of this friend's talk.

He put the other side and his cousin together, virtually shortened the distance between the two, and then in the description of the two faces, and clever to give each other a lot of praise, so that the new friends who do not like to talk also moved, willing to talk with their hearts.

Analyze the other person's name to arouse the interest of the other person.

Name is not only a code name, but also a symbol of a person.

When you first meet, you can say the other person's name is good. If you analyze the name of the other person properly, you will get to the next level.

For example, a friend named "Jian Ling" can praise you in a homophonic way: "building a strategically advantageous position and going down the river can be invincible and invincible. It means profound." to a friend named "fine life", he can chant "sneak into the night with the wind and moisten things silently."

Or use a fortune teller's tone to dissect his name, which leads to great wealth and great potential.

In short, it is a good idea to praise each other properly by surrounding the other person's name.