All Kinds Of Etiquette In American Studying Abroad

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All kinds of etiquette in American studying abroad

Tourists who come to the United States from countries that emphasize class status may feel that the United States does not particularly respect dignitaries.

Americans bow to each other and do not pay special attention due to their different status.

At home or on buses, Americans usually do not ask VIPs to sit on specific seats.

There is very little courtesy, and the courtesy you can see may be to invite the guest to sit on the right side of the host or hostess when you eat.

In some countries, the rear seats of cars are on the top.

But in the United States, the seats next to the driver's seat in the private car are on the upper deck, partly because the driver is often the owner himself, and the other half is sitting on the front seat, which can clearly see the scene outside the car.

Body language

Do you know that the distance between two people's conversations varies from culture to culture.

In some countries, people may stand close to each other when they talk, and two faces tend to get closer to each other.

According to the study, Americans talk uncomfortable if they stand too close to others, and their best distance is about fifty centimeters.

In other countries, people like to stand longer than fifty centimeters and talk a little bit.

You will notice that another social habit of Americans is that they, like many other peoples, tend to gesture when speaking.

When they talk, they may pat each other's shoulders to show friendliness, or pat the child's head to show their love.

This expression may not be popular, especially with left-handed expressions, according to other ethnic customs in other countries.

Many Americans use their left hand. There is no difference between the left and right hands in the US.

However, in such a trifling matter, if your partner uses your hands to make you unhappy in social situations, you have to be slightly hesitant, and your American friends will always understand what you mean.

Live alone

It is often difficult for tourists to understand that Americans do not live alone.

Americans are not citizens with high walls and heavy locks.

Their yards are usually linked together, and the fence is not at all.

They usually visit each other without invitation or without a phone call; they always work in offices and always open their doors.

Their idea of living alone is perhaps the result of their historical development.

The United States is a vast country.

The United States has no wall city, and Americans do not need to prevent their neighbors.

The United States has very few early residents, so neighbors are very important and cannot be excluded from the door.

Neighbors will provide protection and help when they work hard, and they will help each other.

From the early history of the United States, this reluctance to be alone requires only a calm relative desire. Tourists can observe from many small areas that American families may have several rooms without doors or only glass walls.

If you see someone walking out of your room and closing the door, don't think he is rude.

Help them, let them know that you like to close the door, otherwise you will have to adapt to the new way.

In short, you must be patient with each other.

Silence

No one in the us likes silence.

They will talk with great interest, so as not to stop the conversation, even though the pause is not what they want.

If you haven't spoken for a long time, Americans will try to get you to talk.

They may ask you if you are not feeling well, do you want them to help?

However, if Americans do not agree with what you say, they may remain silent.

Their silence does not necessarily mean that they agree with you, but that they think it is impolite to continue arguing with you.

Speak straight

When tourists arrive in the United States, they find Americans do not talk nonsense.

That is to say, when Americans answer, they often simply say "yes", "no", "of course", or a very common "right" word.

But a simple answer does not mean that the Americans are snub, rude or simple minded.

Americans usually rush to haste to greet you, just like a "Hi".

Indeed, you will hear this again and again during your stay in the United States, almost everyone says, regardless of status, age and occupation.

However, people who are accustomed to the long, beautiful words may have to go through a period of time to be untrue to the Americans' "frankly speaking".

When Americans feel embarrassed, tell the truth straight.

Americans may be embarrassed and don't know what to say when they meet with special compliments or thanks.

They didn't mean to be rude. They actually liked others to praise them.

In addition to special holidays such as Christmas, Americans usually do not give gifts.

Therefore, you will find Americans very embarrassed when they receive gifts. If they have nothing to return, they will be even more so.

They are generally a warm and courtesy people.

Introduction

The difference between American social customs and other countries' social customs is the appellation of names.

Americans do not attach importance to "status", especially social status.

Most Americans do not want to be particularly respected for their age or social status, which makes them feel uncomfortable.

Many Americans even feel that the term "Sir", "wife" and "Miss" are too polite.

Regardless of age, everyone likes to call him by his first name.

"Don't call me Mrs. Smith. Call me Sallie."

Calling names often means friendliness and closeness.

However, if you feel bad about calling your name, you can use a more polite term.

You can smile at each other and say that you are used to nature. When you first meet people, you are always more formal and will call your name after a while.

When I introduce, I often have a family name: "Mary Smith, this is John Jones."

In such a situation, you can decide for yourself whether to call the lady "Marie" or "miss Smith".

Sometimes the two of you talk to each other and start by calling each other's surname, but not long after, one of them calls each other's names.

You can make your own choice. If you don't want to call someone's head at once, you will not be rude to call others according to your own customs.

You may notice that when Americans gather together to chat, they hardly mention each other's titles.

If you usually listen to a conversation that is not a title, you will feel that the Americans are rude and unreasonable.

If you are happy, please call others' names according to your habits.

Americans listen to what you say, but feel funny and special.

But don't be unhappy if they don't call titles when they talk.

Title

Social class differences are not valued in the United States, so Americans do not have family hereditary titles, though they are also commensurate with their titles for those who are accustomed to the title.

Americans sometimes use professional titles.

This title is different from the family title because it is earned by itself rather than handed down by ancestors.

The most common professions are judges, senior government officials, military officers, doctors, professors and religious leaders.

Here are some examples: judge Harry, Senator Smith, general Clark, doctor Brown, Professor Green, Professor White, miss Cohen, honorific terms of the Jews, and bishops.

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As for people engaged in other industries, they are called "Sir", "Miss" and "wife".

"Ms." is suitable for married and unmarried women. It has become popular in the United States in recent years.

If you meet an American for the first time, do not know his title, but also respect him, then you can call him "Sir" or "madam".

People like you may think that you don't know what to call, so they will tell you the correct name.

However, a person's official title is not common unless he is engaged in a particular profession.

Americans focus on friendly, informal relations rather than status titles.

Americans believe that even if they call a person's name, they can still respect him.

Service

Apart from titles, there are other things in American life. Tourists who are usually accustomed to maids, chauffeur and cooks may find that they are quite different from those in their own country.

Some tourists may think of themselves as people of status, but the treatment in the United States is just like that of ordinary people, so they feel that they are being ignored.

However, the United States is a "do it yourself" country.

In general, Americans, whether they are doctors, professors, businessmen or lawyers, cook their own meals, wash clothes, go to the market to buy things or do other jobs.

In the United States, service is money; anyone can buy the service, so long as he can afford it, his status is irrelevant.

No matter what occupation people are doing, if you do housework by yourself, you will never be considered wrong.

In fact, many Americans can afford to cook chef and driver, but they don't do that.

They prefer to enjoy family tranquillity. If there is a helper at home, the sense of tranquility may be lost.

Others prefer to spend money on travel or other aspects rather than paying high American wages to hire people to help with household chores.

Looking for a rinse room.

A new visitor to the United States recently asked him what the most troublesome thing was on the first day in the United States. He answered without hesitation, "let's find a gargle."

In some countries, there are clearly visible public washrooms on the streets or in small buildings.

In the United States, public washrooms are located at gas stations (all clean and free, but they may have to ask the station staff for keys).

There are washrooms in airports, bus stops, railway stations, restaurants, libraries, big shops, theatres, and all places to welcome the public. You can also walk into any hotel to borrow "women's rinse room" or "men's rinse room", even if you are not a guest in this hotel.

Don't be confused by the name on the door of the rinse room.

Sometimes it says "male" or "female" or "Lady" or "madam", or simply called "rinse room".

Some may draw a picture or other sign on the door to show the difference between men and women, especially in restaurants.

Women's mouthwash rooms are sometimes called "dressing rooms".

The "convenience" or "W.C" used by Europeans is of little use in the United States, but most people understand what it means.

Knowledge of your country

You may encounter some Americans who know little about your country.

If this happens, please bear with them.

Unfortunately, American schools rarely teach other countries' cultural customs.

The two sides of the United States are oceans, far apart from other countries.

As a result, Americans are not familiar with the culture and working methods of other countries. This is also common in other countries.

If Americans help you with something you do not know, if they mistake your country for another country thousands of miles away, please forgive me.

Compared with other countries, the United States has developed into a modern country with a very short time, only 300 years.

Americans have been busy with local growth, busy building roads, busy building cities, making free education systems for millions of children, busy inventing, finding themselves busy and developing for the benefit of the whole world.

Over the past 300 years, most of the time, the attention of the whole country focused on the United States itself rather than the world.

Until the two World War (1939-1945), American talent began to take an interest in other parts of the world.

Social customs

American ancestors come from all over the world, so the "recognized" social customs in the United States are much more than those in some countries.

Therefore, people who travel to the United States do not feel embarrassed or wrong if they want to do their own customs.

Although Americans are informal, but if you want to dress formally in social occasions, you can do it in your own way.

The people around you will certainly accept it.

However, it is also helpful for you to have a thorough understanding of the general customs of the United States.

Of course, this topic is too wide to be discussed here. The following are just some common situations you may encounter when you visit the United States.

Some private problems can be raised in a country, but not in B countries.

For example, Americans may ask you, "where do you work?" "how many children do you have?" "how big is your house?" "do you have holidays?" in the eyes of Americans, these problems are not purely personal problems.

They often ask these questions only to understand the common ground between you and him, or as the beginning of conversation.

Please understand that the purpose of asking these questions is friendly. The questioner is concerned about you, not rude to you.

Americans themselves know each other this way.

Because Americans often move in the United States, this kind of problem is a common way for them to meet many new friends every year.

People in some countries have never left a town for a lifetime, so the social customs are quite different.

Visitors to these countries may take a long time to ask him about private issues such as family, occupation and residence.

But in America, everything is fast, and Americans don't have time to be polite.

They must know you today because they may soon move to another distant town.

In some countries, the social relations of residents need to be cultivated for a long time.

Once visitors to the United States are accustomed to this situation, they may feel that the American way is horrible, too personal and rude.

However, Americans believe that something purely personal is avoided in the United States, otherwise it would be rude.

These questions include a person's age, how much money he has, how much his clothes and property are worth, his religious beliefs, and his private life.

If someone asks you anything, and you think it's purely personal, you can't answer it.

You can say "I don't know" or say, "in my country, this is a strange question."

Otherwise, you can turn the topic around and talk about personal matters.

If you do this, Americans will not be rude to you. In fact, he will probably understand that you do not want to answer or do not want to continue talking about these personal problems.