What Happens After A Conflict With Your Boss?
At work, there are inevitably some unpleasant things between the upper and lower levels, resulting in some friction and collisions, resulting in psychological conflicts.
At this time, if subordinates are mishandled, they will deepen the gap, get into difficulties, and even lead to a complete breakdown of the relationship between the two sides.
So what happens if there is a conflict with the boss?
As the saying goes, "a friend is better than a knot". Under normal circumstances, it is the right way to relax the atmosphere, dredge the relationship and actively resolve it.
Specifically, there are mainly the following ways and means:
1, blame oneself and self criticism.
Psychological quality should be excellent and attitude should be sincere. If responsibility is on your side, you should be brave enough to find it.
Boss
Admit mistakes, apologize and seek forgiveness.
If the important responsibility is on the superior side, as long as it is not a matter of principle, it should be flexible, because the purpose is to reconcile, the subordinates can take the initiative to be flexible, and take the responsibility of conflict to themselves, and give the boss a step.
People's hearts are all meat long, so that the hearts of the people change the hearts of people, half a jin of 82, it is very easy to move the boss, so as to turn hostility into jade and silk.
2, throw away your illusions and take the initiative to answer your questions.
Many people have such an experience that when they quarrel with others, sometimes no one will speak first. In fact, both sides are expecting the other person to speak first.
Therefore, when subordinates encounter their superiors, especially after their estrangement, they should respond promptly and enthusiastically, greet them with enthusiasm, so as to eliminate the shadow caused by the conflict, so that they can leave a impression on their superiors or the public that they do not care for the past and act generosity.
Do not have a fluke, meet with a stubborn force, do not reply, ignore, and head over. After a long time, the old lump will be unresolved and new knots will be formed. Contradictions will roll up as snowballs, which will lead to greater estrangement.
3, not with controversy, cooling treatment
It is when subordinates conflict with their superiors, as subordinates, do not dispute, do not argue, do not spread, but put aside the matter and bury them in the bottom of their hearts. As always, in the work, the report still reports that the request is still requested, as if nothing had happened.
In this way, the old scars and nightmares should not be reclaimed. With the passage of time, the years will fade away and forget the old displeasure. The side effects caused by the conflicts will naturally disappear.
4, please mediate and resolve it.
It is to find some influential "peace envoys" who talk in front of their superiors, take their own apologies, and do some mediation and persuasion work, which is an effective strategy.
In particular, some of the languages that the parties themselves are unable to say or speak inconveniently, through the mouth of the mediator, are very effective.
Mediator mediation is a bridge between the upper and lower levels.
However, the mediator can only play a role as a needle in the general situation, and the decisive role is to rely on the parties themselves to further solve the problem.
5. avoid embarrassing calls
Communicate
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Telephone interpretation can avoid the awkwardness and awkwardness of face-to-face conversation, which is the advantage of telephone.
Telephone
We should pay attention to that the language should be friendly and natural, whether it is due to the collision caused by its recklessness or the conflict caused by the boss's bad mood, whether the "war" caused by the neglect of the boss or the estrangement caused by the thoughtful misconception of the subordinates, can be explained by this modern tool; or, in another way, we should use the way of letter to talk, open up and understand, and form a common understanding. This will create a good start for restoring the relationship and spread the way for the next negotiation.
What needs to be explained here is that this law should be used by people and should not be abused. If the boss usually hates this way of expression, he should disable it.
6. seize the fire and look for opportunities.
It is to choose the right time, grasp the heat and actively resolve the contradiction.
For example, when a boss is commended or promoted when he meets a happy event, he should congratulate Tao Xi as a subordinate. When his boss is cheerful and cheerful, he will not refuse. Instead, he will think that this is a respect for his work achievements and personality.
7. magnanimity, moderate tolerance.
When a conflict happens with one's superiors, it is necessary to have a sense of propriety in applying this method. Generally speaking, in many cases, when things are hard to endure, it reflects a person's mind and knowledge.
However, if we try to avoid contradictions, compromise and tolerance will be a more passive and repressive act of slavery. Moreover, the personality and image of the public will also be damaged to varying degrees. The right way is to be realistic, to have a big stomach, to support a boat in a prime minister, not to have a small belly and to care for each other. Since people are under the eaves, they should pick up their tails and behave themselves, so as to give them a temporary injustice, and to adopt a moderate attitude in moderation, can not only avoid the frontal conflict, but also preserve the dignity and dignity of both sides.
To sum up, from the point of view of subordinates, it is not clear whether the lamp is light or not.
The heart is narrow.
The bossy bosses, who go all the way up and down, see their subordinates as a peremptory opponent. If they want to put them to death, their subordinates in such a high environment are not worth remembering. There is no need for hope. At this point, they should be determined to take the "thirty-six measures to go up" and "good birds to choose trees".
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