Seven Skills Of Checking Workplace Exchanges

　　 (1) should be good at observing each other's eyes.

Nonverbal Communication behavior In the eyes, the eye plays an important role, the eye is the window of the mind, the eye can express the thoughts and feelings the most, and reflect the psychological change of the people. When you are happy, your eyes are bright and bright, your eyes are glazed when you are sad; when you are watching, you can not see eye to eye; when you are surprised, you are dumbfounded.

A person's facial expression, although it can be a smile, but as long as you observe carefully, you will find that your eyes will not "laugh." In other words, people's eyes are hard to fake. Psychological activity Will be revealed through the eyes. For this reason, the interlocutors can understand and master the mental state and changes of people through subtle changes in the eyes. If the speaker gaze at you with your eyes, generally speaking, it is a sign of importance and concern for you; if you do not look at your clothes, it means a scorn; if squint is a sign of unfriendly feelings, if you look at it with anger, it means a hostile mentality; if you tell a lie and go into a guilty conscience, you will often avoid your eyes.

　 (2) stress should be given priority to.

We must be good at overcoming the initial effect of social perception. And this initial effect is known as "preconceived". Some people deliberately create good first impressions as abilities, and hide their original faces. Therefore, we should hold an objective and critical attitude in conversation, rather than just impression.

　　 (3) we must avoid being trained.

A few youngsters got on the bus and did not buy tickets. They said with a glib voice: "we are unemployed young people, no wages, what tickets to buy?" Jiang Yuqin, the excellent conductor, said to them, "buying a ticket by car is five minutes and a corner is a small matter. But if you lose your reputation, how much money do you get?" This remark made several young people blush and finally filled the tickets. Just imagine what happens if we come to the tit for tat quarrel or the cold and hot satire.

　　 (4) eliminate the other's pandering psychology.

In the course of the conversation, the two sides showed some misgivings because of some motives. To do this, we should try to make each other understand their attitude in the process of conversation: they are interested in the real situation, and are disgusted with the words of flattery and flattery so that they can get more authentic and reliable information from the conversation.

　　 (5) yes. Defamatory Conversation should be good at repaying.

It is said that Molotov, the first Soviet Minister of foreign affairs, was born in the aristocracy. Once, at the UN General Assembly, a diplomat of the British Labor party challenged him, "you are a noble, and my family is a miner. Who can we represent the working class?" Molotov said in a hurry: "yes, we both have betrayed their families!" the Soviet foreign minister did not make a long argument to refute, but only in a word, how eloquent eloquence, how wonderful and respectable.

　 (6) be good at choosing conversation opportunities.

A person is more persuasive in his or his own familiar surroundings than in other people's or unfamiliar surroundings. For this reason, he can use his "home advantage" in his spare time or speak in a natural state of mind which is unguarded by others. Even a mere word can yield unexpected gains.

　　 (7) matters needing attention in conversation

Do not use easy to understand words, obsolete words or professional vocabulary. These words do not make a good impression on others, but only annoy others.

Don't do anything offensive. If you do not look at each other's eyes while you are talking, there are more important and more worthwhile characters behind you or around you. Or staring at other people's clothes and talking carelessly.

Don't use slang that is much younger than you. Don't mix it with foreign languages. Don't talk too long about a topic. It's like a room. It needs frequent ventilation. Don't sneer at someone before you laugh at him. "I bet you forget my name." You should also be good at perceiving in conversation. If the other person is anxious and anxious, maybe something else is going on, just out of politeness without interrupting you, you should stop immediately.