Negative Self Talk Will Put You In The Workplace.

One of my girlfriends recently worked in a volunteer program department. What a tall person, no one.

For a long time.

Along with more and more things, there are also some minor problems, such as when she was dealing with a typical rude customer, this is what she said later:

"Are you still in your team?"

"I am in my own team!"

Although my friend handled her guests well, she thought, "this is her fault". Her self talk made the situation worse. How did I miss this? I was embarrassed, how terrible I was here, and I failed.

When we deal with some challenging situations, it is two totally different decisions to accept or accept one thing.

Have you ever accused yourself of being ashamed, guilty and inadequate before knowing the whole story? In my 20 years of consulting and career work, I have seen many of these people, especially those who try their best to please others.

People like to see a girl in trouble.

Do you hate your current job? Maybe you are thinking about this problem, but these thoughts will make you feel worthless and take away your ability to enjoy the fruits of your labor.

Negative self talk may be part of the problem.

Negative self talk has a great impact on all the wrong aspects.

As mentioned above, it can make you feel down, and it can also ignite resentment.

The self - hatred of negative self talk makes things worse.

"Why do I do this way? I don't want it."

"I hate this place," "I can't imagine anyone else among them."

"These assholes."

Occasional anger is understandable, considering that everyone needs to deal with high standards every day.

And personal pressure, to some extent, will happen to everyone.

However, if you are interpreting every scene as an opportunity to hate your company bosses and colleagues, you will have a strong negative energy pressure or even hostility.

The pain of spreading to others will also hurt themselves, and it will become more and more.

So if you don't do something to prevent anger and hostility from you, it will only lead to more and more negative feelings in your life.

Get a new job or change your mind.

At the same time, try to add a positive sentence when you feel negative, to lighten the burden, or to call it "thinking".

On the other hand, negative self talk can make you feel down.

"How did I miss that?"

"I'm too embarrassed."

"I feel very tired about it."

"Why am I here?"

"I am a failure."

It's not your fault, but you will feel that you work alone on an isolated island. You may work in an unhealthy culture, lack of leadership and

In the atmosphere.

Remember, in your team, you have at least one VIP, that is yourself.

No matter how hard you work, mistakes will happen. Problems will still arise.

Neutral statements tend to allow specific challenges and problems to develop in a better direction, such as:

"Before we go further, let's confirm this question first, OK?"

"Wow, this is a clear question. Once I have more information, I will investigate and give you feedback."

"I can see you upset, let's find a solution."

"Here is a way to solve this problem."

Neutral statements are usually useful: for you and for others.

They can form a stable and problem-solving attitude.

Each of us has its own way of dealing with it: some are good, some may not be good.

Our coping styles are determined by our life experiences, including how we grow up.

Once we feel the pressure and are forced to reach our limits, we will eventually end up coping with our abilities, and this will begin to fall apart: hostility, intrigue, gossip and countless other harmful acts.

Think about the unfortunate people you know, what they do, what other people are hurting and negatively affecting.

First of all, if your job is stressful enough to keep you awake at night or unrelentlessly push you to the negative, look at your employee assistance program (EAP).

A EAP can provide you with a professional service, you can talk about what happened, you can also choose to help yourself through consultants.

Second, listen to your support network, trust people around you, and help people who work outside your job.

Third, take care of yourself and give up trying to control what happens at work. In fact, you have controlled a lot.