Reporter Observation, Wish The World Has More "Qualified Parents".

Director Xin Shuang said, "in this story of evil doing in the name of love, there is no black and white opposition between good and evil."

In today's society, everyone is complex and multifaceted. There is no pure goodness or absolute evil. In day to day life, everyone is constantly making choices, choosing what to eat today, choosing to believe or doubting. The net drama will eventually end. The three children end up being a fairy tale like success, or a teenager who experiences all kinds of social Black faces and finally killers. One thousand viewers have one thousand Hamlett. But whether our lives are bright or dark is in our own hands.

A lucky man is cured by his childhood in his life. Satir, an American family therapist, said: "a person's character, life, spirit, way of thinking and habits are all deeply influenced by his native family, many of which are even decisive. In our various thoughts and behaviors after adulthood, we can see our faces like our parents. "

It is true that the three families born in the play have their own misfortunes, but they all belong to the original family. Or can it solve the problem?

"I feel that the core of the problem is not whether the original family is divorced or reorganized. If two people are not in love, quarrel and even family violence every day, even if it is a complete family in marriage, can it have no effect on their children," Zhou Jing, a psychologist, told an economic news reporter in twenty-first Century. So the key point should be whether parents have learned how to guide children and communicate with their children. At the same time, in the process of children's growth, does anyone help children understand their parents and learn to talk with their parents and communicate with each other? This is complementary to each other.

On the influencing factors of adolescent mental health, family integrity is only a part, and more importantly, whether children's emotional expression is correct.

Just like Zhu Zhaoyang's mother loves children, the child is her greatest pride. It is a way for mothers to go to work to express their love. But when love is paranoid and distorted, it makes people feel suffocated. The story of "Mom forcing you to drink milk" resonates countless. You must be stared at drinking. You must not be too hot to drink. Mother's love turns mother and child's warmth and companionship into a mother who is a cruel dictator in the relationship. Even if the children are against it, they can only resist silently.

On the other hand, when we blame our parents, can teenagers stand at the commanding heights of morality? Children's selfishness, self righteous and generalize are not formed in a short time. They also need to learn to think differently and to be more considerate of their parents. Forbearance can not solve the problem, and the child can also be an active proponent of communication.

Zhou pointed out that changing parents is not the only way to solve problems, and is not even the best choice in many specific situations. "Young people are more flexible and have stronger learning ability. So, after learning to identify their parents' character and understand their behavior, to some extent, why can't children make concessions and tolerate their parents?" It is worth noting that Zijin Chen, the author of the original "bad boy", is very close to his character Zhu Zhaoyang. But the difference is that he chooses to make himself strong and eventually reconcile himself with his childhood.

But not every child is like Zijin Chen Jianqiang. At least we can tell them that they are not lonely for those who accept passively, have no place to escape, hurt or neglect. The magnifying effect of film and television shows that there are still many companions in the world, and to some extent tell them the results of different ways of dealing with them.

Perhaps the influence brought by a film and television works is limited, and the ripples of mental health discussions among young people are also limited in time. However, they constantly attract attention and attract attention, hoping that more children can live in a relatively healthy and harmonious family relationship. This trend is rejoicing.

"Film and television drama creation against Facebook, advocating realism, emotions and characters can seize the audience. Parent-child relationship is a common topic in society. It always focuses on the theme of love, and is full of various contradictions. The tension of drama and the resonance of audience are all possessed. This is actually a social concern. Li Qiaoru, editor in chief of the media, said.

There is a saying on the Internet that all the children are waiting for their parents' "sorry", but all the parents are waiting for a "thank you" from their child. In fact, gratitude and reconciliation are not contradictory. Many children will become parents in the future. We are imperfect, we must learn to accept each other's shortcomings. May there be more "qualified parents" in the world, and every child can grow healthily.

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