How To Temper A Leader'S Steady Character

1. don't show your emotions casually. One should learn to control his emotions and do everything in a calm way.

Some people show their emotions very clearly. They quarrel with their wives before they go to work in the morning and fight their husbands with their husbands. People in the whole company will know that because it can't be seen at a glance.

Zhu Geliang's wife, Huang Shi, was a famous ugly woman in the Three Kingdoms period.

She was yellow and ugly, and the young men nearby refused to marry her.

But Huang is ugly, but he is talented and virtues.

One day, Huang's father, Huang Chengyan, saw Zhu Geliang and heard that he wanted to find a daughter-in-law. He said to him, "Wen Jun chooses a woman, has ugly women, and yellow head black face."

I didn't expect Zhu Geliang to be serious and light, and immediately asked for his family. So Huang Chengyan married his daughter to Zhu Geliang.

This incident caused a sensation in the area, and the locals made jokes about it.

But since Huang's help, Zhu Geliang has benefited a lot. Later, he hangs up seals and accomplishments.

In the drama and picture, Zhu Geliang always wears a gossip jacket, a goose feather fan, a strategist and a winner.

The legendary goose feather fan is a gift from Huang's family.

Zhu Geliang went to the mountains to assist Liu Bei. Before the trip, Huang made a fan with his father's gift to her ROC bird wings. He painted eight diagrams on the fan handle. He wanted Zhu Geliang to carry around with him, one did not forget his wife's affection, and the two was of great help to the March, and three told him to stop his anger.

Huang said to Zhu Geliang, "when you talk with your father about the world affairs, I find that when you talk about the ambition in your chest, you are full of air. When it comes to Mr. Liu Bei, he wants to invite you to come out of the mountains, and you will be in a dawning mood. When it comes to Cao Cao, your eyebrows will be locked; when you mention Sun Quan, you will be worried.

A man must be calm in doing things. I will give you this fan for you to cover up your face and block your face.

Zhu Geliang picked up the goose feather fan and shook his head quickly.

Therefore, after Zhu Geliang left the cottage, he never lost his Bagua clothes and his hands did not leave the goose feather fan.

Originally, "covering face" means that we should be calm before we can be calm and calm.

In the Tang Dynasty, Tang Taizong and Li Shimin heard that Wei Zheng would go out for a walk after he was admonishing, because he realized that he was going to lose control of his emotions and tried to make himself "calm". He would not kill Wei Zheng wrongly for a moment of anger.

Sometimes, when we meet people who are angry, crying or spoiled, we may say that such a person is very natural and sincere.

This is actually conniving. People and animals are different. People should be rational and intellectually emotional.

Now let's take a look at a story about "girls don't cry": in 2006, the 77 year old legendary female journalist, Italy, died.

During her lifetime, she interviewed Deng Xiaoping for two times. In 1980, she interviewed Deng Xiaoping's part and was included in Deng Xiaoping's anthology, which made her widely known in China.

When she was 7 years old, she was crying because of a matter.

Dad went over and said to her, "what's the point of crying if your father is right?"

Is crying a grievance?

No, you should look at why they are beaten and how they will not be beaten again.

What's the point of crying if dad is wrong?

Does crying mean that you dare not explain?

Then you tell Dad to make a mistake, so that you will not be mistaken again.

When he was 7 years old, he realized that crying is a kind of helplessness, a helplessness and a wrangle. It can not solve the problem. The conclusion is not to cry.

So from then on, she stopped crying.

This story has made a legend of "girls don't cry", and also recorded in her biography, "2.," do not tell everyone about your difficulties and sufferings. Many people like to tell their company and leaders in front of others. I often hear such complaints: our boss is very cheap; our boss is very petty; the vice president always rebuke us all day long; the director of our company calls us overtime all day long, and doesn't give much to Gabanfi.

Many people have this problem. In fact, they do not understand that anyone who complains about it can not be used anywhere because they dare not use it.

Chen Wugang, a Taiwanese, went bankrupt when he was 50 years old. He borrowed money everywhere and borrowed money.

But his wife said, "even if I have gone bankrupt, I have no money in my pocket. My husband still wears a suit, wears a tie, carries a briefcase and drives to work. Like a chairman, he is not frustrated."

This is a deep impression on me.

Even if you are bankrupt one day, don't tell anyone about your pain and sufferings.

Even if the company door is open, there are only two people -- one is you and the other is a dustman. You have to be like Chen Wugang.

Because people are very strange, you live like a chairman, you are a boss, and soon the opportunity will come.

Chen Wugang did, and soon he had a chance. That's Kristina, short for Kate, which opened the door to the direct selling industry.

Chen Wugang founded Keri Tina in Taiwan in 1989. In the past 17 years, he has made Keri Tina a successful distributor: he has won the Taiwan direct selling Championship for several consecutive years, and has developed from Taiwan to the mainland. Nearly 3000 Keri Tina beauty chain stores have been on the streets of all the major cities in China.

At present, Christina is stepping up the pace of internationalization, and its industry is spread over 13 countries and regions.

It is not easy for ordinary people to live to the age of 50, but Chen Wugang has the ambition to make a comeback and set up a direct selling business at the age of 50.

He has a famous spider Theory: spiders never attack before they have made a good web.

When spiders spin their nets, they have a sequence. First, after weft weaving, once the network is in good shape, spiders are waiting for them to wait for an opportunity at any time. Any small prey can respond quickly once it touches the net.

3. think before you ask others' opinions, but don't talk about those who are calm and steady.

Negotiating with your competitors or your customers, what's the advantage of leaving your words behind?

First, let others speak first, to him is a kind of respect; second, people who speak first, there will be flaws and loopholes; third, when others speak, you can prepare your answers.

Therefore, I would like to give you a piece of advice: don't speak in advance when negotiating and communicating.

Impatient people like to speak first. They do not respect their customers. They are likely to miss the wrong words because they have not enough time to think, leaving behind a lot of flaws and loopholes. Once the opponent returns, the chances of winning are very few.

If you have someone else to speak first, then fight back against the problems exposed by your competitors, so you will have a very good chance of winning.

4. don't nagging your dissatisfaction whenever you have the chance. Women like to talk about families. This is probably because of the different characters of men and women: men are more interested in career and money, and women are more concerned about their husbands and children.

When a woman goes to work, she starts to talk about her family affairs, like criticizing her children in front of others, telling her the contradiction between herself and her husband or her parents in law.

Not only will they not be respected, but they will become the laughingstock of others.

For example, Miss Jiang complained to her colleagues about her husband's affair. What would they say later?

Probably, "I bet you that she will be divorced for more than half a year!"

"How do you know?"

"Just now, she said her husband had a mistress outside.

She's bound to get divorced. You look good!

Don't believe we bet one hundred yuan, how? "

So don't nag your dissatisfaction if you have the chance.

Because nagging people are easy to be regarded as less reliable people.

Besides, when you tell your own misfortune, your feet may become the object of ridicule if you walk forward.

Think, isn't that ridiculous?

5. has decided to negotiate with people as much as possible. At least at night, the important decision is not announced immediately. This is my own personal experience.

I still have a little pain in mind when I think of a past between my eldest daughter.

My eldest daughter is now a doctorate and will soon be an associate professor at the University.

Many years ago, when she was in second grade, because of a mistake that I can't remember now, I threw away a small box of jazz CD in a rage.

My eldest daughter likes to listen to jazz. She has many jazz CD, and my mother and I have bought some for her.

When I threw away CD, she was not there. When she knew that she had rushed out to see, CD had disappeared.

That night, she shed tears when she was doing her homework.

I regret it a few days later. I bought a jazz CD a few days later, and gave it to her: "this is just published jazz, you listen to it."

She smiled and said to me, "I don't like jazz now."

I didn't realize that my punishment had hurt her heart, and she no longer listened to jazz or collected CD in this regard.

I feel a bit sad at the thought of this.

I went to England to see her the year before last, and I had no intention of talking about it during dinner.

I said, "boss, do you remember when your junior high school dad lost your box of jazz CD?"

She became mature and spoke harder. There were only two words to answer: "yes?"

It means: "Dad, don't mention it again!"

I had to lower my head to eat, and there was another sadness.

This matter taught me a great lesson, that is to make a major decision at least overnight.

However, because of this lesson, I got a good result.

On one occasion, I wanted to turn off the deputy director of our company, signed all the personnel orders, and put them in my drawer.

But when I got up on the second morning, I ripped it off.

No one in my company knew that I had to expel him. In fact, the mistake he made was not light, but it was not serious enough to be dismissed.

The mistake he made was very painful for me, but it also caused me to be scolded by the chairman. But if he was expelled, the company would lose a reliable cadre.

A steady person will not make important decisions at once, and will try to negotiate with others first.

Also, remember that a major decision must be released overnight, because you may wake up with a different idea.

6. walking and speaking should not be flustered. Some people walk often touches and knocks. If you are so, I suggest you pay a little attention and try to restrain yourself, because such people are usually very flustered.

Once a person is confused, he will appear to be unstable and will do something wrong.

It is a good idea to use some activities and entertainment programs to cultivate your own stability.

For example, many people like to play weiqi and play chess as a way of training.

This year, the eleventh Samsung Cup world go open tournament, our Chinese Chang Hao defeated South Korea's Li Changgao, won the championship.

Chang Hao won Li Changgao three eyes and a half, and it was a perfect two to nil ban. The third games were no match.

This is really not easy because Chang Hao's opponent is legendary chess king Li Changgao.

Li Changgao's assessment of the outside world is that he is too old to be old and calm and can not be more precise.

The Japanese call him "two waist" - the Japanese often describe him as a go player, and the Koreans call him "stone Buddha" - sitting there like a stone Buddha.

It is true that Weiqi masters are very steady, and they must be trained to the highest level before they can enter the ranks of top class players.

In your family, your company and your surroundings, who do you think is very unstable?

What are your own (less important) behaviors that are not steady enough?

1. is a steady root culture method. Don't show your emotions casually.

2. don't tell anyone about your difficulties and sufferings.

3. think before you ask someone else's opinion, but don't speak first.

4. don't nag your dissatisfaction if you have the chance.

The important decision of 5. is to negotiate with others as far as possible, at least to be released overnight.

6. don't be confused when you walk and speak.