Harvard Manager'S Communication Etiquette -- Address And Topic (2)

It is the most difficult for ordinary people to talk to each other in the communication field. The first conversation is the most difficult, because you are not familiar with each other, do not know his personality, hobbies and conduct, and are limited by time. You are not allowed to know or consider more, and you can not presume to put forward special topics.

"Today's weather haha..."

This is most commonly used, but not only on deck or beach, but also on other occasions. It is not only too perfunctory, but also lacks content.

At this time, it seems to be relatively simple and suitable for local materials, which is to find the topic according to the circumstances at that time.

If you meet at a friend's home or at a friend's wedding banquet, you can start with the relationship between the other person and his host.

"Your Excellency and a gentleman are probably old classmates?" or "Your Excellency is a colleague with a certain gentleman".

If you ask the right question, you can make a quick decision in accordance with the original question. If you guess the wrong way, you can make a good decision in accordance with the explanation of the other party.

"There are so many guests today." this is a stereotype, but it can cause other topics.

"The auditorium is very well furnished." praise is often the most proper and proper way to start.

If it is the garden party, it will say, "the azaleas on the lake are very bright, and the colors are so beautiful. Have you ever seen them?" or "drinking tea in the garden in summer", you can say, "too comfortable!" the first sentence is to make everyone understand that everyone can exchange views.

From this, we can find out the interest and hobbies of the other person and expand the field of conversation.

If you point to an engraving, say, "really like X." or hear birds singing, they say that there is a lot of flavor in Mendelsohn's music. Unless they know that the other person is professional, they will not only be ingratiate, but will also be scolded behind their back.

In the current environment, if you don't know the other's occupation, you can't ask him casually.

Because there are too many unemployed people in the society, asking him his job is forcing him to lose his job.

He wants to know his career, but only by testing his method: "does your excellency often go swimming?" if he says, "No."

You can ask him if he is very busy and where to spend most of his time everyday. Then he can find out whether he has a regular job every day.

If he says he often goes swimming, he can ask him what time he usually goes and decide whether he has a job or not. If it is Sunday or five o'clock every day, there is no doubt that he has a fixed occupation, otherwise he needn't ask for more details.

When someone else works, he can ask him about his career so that he can talk to him about his work.