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Speaking Manners Of Communication Etiquette

2008/12/18 16:15:00 41910

It is the outward manifestation of the state of mind. It is entirely determined by your own emotions, feelings and interests. A gesture from the heart is not much better than the one thousand rules.

posture

No

clothes

You can change it according to your desires, and you can express it by your inner feelings.

Because posture is a manifestation of the heart, if you insist on training to become a model, it is not only monotonous, but also a laughable move.

Some people hold their hands high when they speak louder and louder.

The more revealing the truth, the more natural the movements and gestures become.

Sometimes, because of a happy mood, he waved his hands in the air. Sometimes he could not help holding his fist and tightly leaning against his chest because of his sad mood. When he was angry, he could not help punching, but this movement and gestures were based on nature and flexibility.

Of course, many speakers, like the clowns of a drama, are very eccentric and ridiculous, but they are all from the heart and inner expression. No matter how clumsy or flexible, we do not have to criticize them. Only one thing we must bear in mind is whether they are created by themselves.

Perhaps you would think that as long as it is a gesture of inner nature, we should not have to pay attention to it. Is this correct? No, it is not. We must pay attention to our posture in order to attract the audience, but posture is not the main subject of eloquence training, it is an Assistant to help eloquence.

Except for speeches, most of them are

Conversation

There's always a chance to sit down.

There are many different ways of sitting. Some people like to sit among people and let everyone sit around them.

Some like to sit in the corner of the meeting room, so that they can not clearly see themselves. Some like to sit outside the audience, mainly because they do not allow others to watch carefully.

Actually, the best place to sit is to listen to the audience, so that everyone can see clearly.

But if you want to sit, you should choose your seat in the middle of the audience so that people can see you clearly.

However, when sitting, the posture should be natural, and keep upright, and must not lean on the chair.

Some of them put up their legs, and others put their arms on the backs of chairs. These are the actions that people despise and must pay attention to.

When a person expresses his opinion, it is also worth paying attention to the placement of his hands.

What should be done with two hands? If possible, it is better to forget them and let them stand naturally on both sides of the body.

But if you find them annoying and feel cumbersome, put your hands in your pockets or put them behind your back.

In a word, your mood must be quiet, and you must not pay too much attention. Your hands will interfere with your movements, not to worry that the audience will notice your hands.

The position of the hand is a question that the speaker does not have to pay much attention to. You should pay attention to the revelation of the true feelings, and both hands are the tools to show your true feelings.

This tool is more appropriate and can be used immediately when it is necessary to apply them.

But you should not learn that kind of dirty person, deliberately cross your hand on your chest, and you can barely force your hand on the table, so that your body can not act freely.

If the two hands deliberately play with their clothes, it will make the audience pay attention. It is a stupid action.

Although our theory can not be regarded as the golden rule, the following principles should be

Be careful

Do not repeat posture. No matter what posture, repetition is always boring.

Second, when making gestures, don't just start from the elbow, which makes people feel your gestures are not natural.

③不要把姿勢(shì)結(jié)束的太快。譬如當(dāng)你伸出手指指向前面，這種姿勢(shì)是幫助你說(shuō)話的語(yǔ)氣，那么你絕不可立刻把手縮回，最好等到說(shuō)完了一句話以后，才縮回那手臂。

4. It is necessary to practice to maintain the natural position of the postures; but this exercise should be painstaking; perhaps some of them feel reluctant to practice, but after a few days, they can gradually become natural.

You have to be careful not to let your movements or postures reduce the audience's attention to you. Many people overact their actions and make the audience pay more attention to his actions.

Speaking is the basic principle of conversational skills. Attitude is not pointing at your actions, but pointing to the speaking itself, so you must pay attention to what your own words should pay attention to.

When you chat with others, you don't have to be very serious at all. As long as everything is natural, there is another way to make your speaking attitude natural. You have to regard yourself as a lecturer, and your speech is just like explaining to ordinary students. Others will respect your opinion, do not have any fear, and do not worry about anything, so that your mind will naturally reveal itself. This way of speaking can be very natural.

Many people learn bird calls very vividly, almost you can not hear that people imitate, but can not move you, but if you hear the birds singing on the tree, you will immediately be moved, feel a kind of unpleasant, this is because of natural and unnatural separation.

You can stimulate your emotions and make your speech natural. Then your speech will be extraordinarily pleasant.

Have you ever noticed that if someone tells you a major idea in a sincere and easily moved tone, your mind will not produce the opposite opinion. So if you are prepared to give a good impression and make people agree, remember that arousing people's feelings is more effective than arousing people's thinking.

Body movement is also a language.

From the eyes of others, until you speak, this time, you are talking, but not by mouth.

Before you speak, your eyes, your actions and your whole body are showing some meaning. What you show will make people ready to listen to you, or do not want to hear you speak, to make people respect or feel bad for you, so pay special attention to this period before opening.

Before you speak, you must use your whole body to listen to people, convey your respect and affection for them, hint the importance of what you want to say, and its basic tone.

This is not only when speaking, but also when speaking at ordinary times.

Even when chatting, you suddenly stand up in the sitting room of your friends, or move your seat closer to the other side, or choose a good place in the crowd, or suddenly take an unusual posture. As long as you do it naturally and appropriately, it will be very helpful for your speech.

Our hands are most likely to speak.

We do not need to sign every sentence, because too much gesture can make people feel unnatural.

But in important places, proper gestures will attract people's attention.

If you can make people listen to you and listen to you, you can hardly worry about the other person's attention and leave you.

Ebb and cry are not words. Dancing is not a gesture.

Unnatural gestures can cause a lot of people's antipathy and cause communication barriers.

Beautiful and moving gestures are often filled with surprises.

Very gentle and warm gestures can be filled with gratitude.

A very determined gesture is like a powerful force.

Some gestures deeply felt his enthusiasm and joy; some gestures were hasty as a hooligan; some gestures were careless; some gestures made people feel complacent; some gestures told him that he was very busy and was about to rush to do an urgent matter; some gestures also told you that he had something urgent to tell you, please wait.

When sitting, shaking hands, conveying objects, expressing tacit agreement, and conducting conversations, gestures can sometimes become part of conversation, which can strengthen the power of our language and enrich the tone of our language. Sometimes, gestures also become an independent and effective language.

A critic said, "we all love to say that we are governed by reason. In fact, the whole world can be pferred by emotions."

If a man tries to be rigorous and sensitive, he will surely fail; but if his words come from the bottom of his heart, he will not fail.

No matter whether he is talking about major political and economic problems or personal travel talks, if he feels that there is a real need to say something in his mind, then his words will be as hot as fire.

A sincere and zealous person who influences the strength of the other side, like an inflated vapor, will not fail even if he has made many mistakes in rhetoric.

William James, a famous American psychologist, once wrote the following passage: "actions seem to follow the feeling, but in fact movements and sensations happen at the same time, so we directly use our will to correct actions, that is, to rectify the senses indirectly.

For example, we lost pleasure. The only way to recover is to sit up cheerfully and to speak voluntarily. Happiness seems to have been with us.

If this method is not yet effective, then there will be no other way.

So when we feel brave, we really become brave.

To achieve our goal with our whole will is to replace your fear with your courage.

However, you must prepare all the actions first, otherwise you will still be afraid.