How Do Women Get Good Jobs?

It's strange that my colleague BNET author Penelope Trunk gets such bad advice from older women, which makes me feel very sad. She must have asked the wrong person. But suggestions can be difficult to deal with. We will seek advice as a way to explore and even find our own way. We often appreciate those who give us advice. The best advice I have received is to accept only those suggestions that are meaningful to you. This has nothing to do with the source of the proposal, whether it comes from men, women, experts or strangers on trains. Almost all of the proposals are for their own service, that is, what it tells you is more about the experience of the person who advises, not the person who seeks advice.

Many people ask me for advice. Some people even have to pay for my advice. But when I make recommendations, the condition is that the beneficiary must be able to reject my proposal at any time. This is my advice, but life is your own. No one knows what you like to do, no one can foresee the future.

The best way to get good advice is to ask the right question -- the answer to the old or the young, the male or the female. How big should there be children? The Statistics Institute gives you a widely representative demographic answer, but it does not help your personal decision. Should we report sexual abuse? It depends on the environment and people. Should we read business books? You should read as widely as possible. But there are many good business books from women. My first book integrates many women's advice from all over the world, and readers will pick out useful suggestions for them.

The most successful men and women I know are widely seeking advice. If we don't do this, no one will be successful. Some people even have the so-called personal board of directors: they want to get personal and professional friends and relatives who are successful. In my opinion, just as an enterprise can not succeed without a diversified board member, so is the individual. Over the years, many of the suggestions I have gained from men and women, young people and elders have helped me to make many shortcuts. Many of these suggestions may have been forgotten. Some I remember in the chest and even forget where it came from. But the following recommendations are among the best of three:

1. your child will need you more when you grow up. This suggestion came from my sister, who was just thinking that she was attacking me unconsciously. At that time, my child was young, and her children were in their teens. I think she was just comparing me to my sympathy. But now my baby is in her teens, and I realize she is right. Many people can take care of children. But once your child starts to fall into the world of sex, sex and exams, only parents' advice and supervision can help them. This has a real connection with how you conduct your career. As for me, when I was a child, I worked crazily, partly because my career was on the rise and I didn't want to stop. My success at that time enabled me to have more flexibility when my children were in urgent need of me.

2. money is very important. Women hate to earn wages. We like to work because we love them. But money is not everything, but it can bring freedom and autonomy. I have always ensured that I have the money of "running away" - enough to ensure that I do not have to spend more than a second on any unnecessary work relationship or family relationship. Low overhead and large savings can change our choices. This suggestion came from my mother, who had suffered all the time to realize this.

3. things are not right. Women are not valued in terms of salary, promotion and recognition, which is due to the reasons of system and history rather than personalization. If you blame these problems on individuals, your ability to deal with them will be discounted. When I found that my salary was only half of that of my male colleagues, I thought it was only a mistake and corrected it overnight. Do I really believe this is just a mistake? This is not important. Correcting this mistake is really important. This recommendation comes from the discovery of this difference in female human resources leaders.

As for my advice to women? We are more united than singles. No one can succeed alone.