How To Create The Best Way Of Conversation

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2, the spirit is concentrated in conversation, and all parties want their opinions to be accepted by the other side, so in a sense, it is not difficult to say "one side", but it is difficult to be "listening".

The ancients felt this way: "the fool speaks well, the wise man listens."

The side of the "listen" shows the spirit of concentration in the conversation, which is the greatest respect for the "said" side.

To achieve this, we should pay attention to the following three points:

(1) the expression should be serious when listening to each other. It is necessary to look at each other, concentrate on it, concentrate on it and concentrate on it.

(2) actions should be coordinated with others when they are superior to others. If they agree with themselves or coincide with themselves, they should express their support and affirmation by smiling, nodding, and so on, or "have a heart to understand."

(3) if the language is to cooperate in the process of "speaking", it is possible to use "hum" or "yes" to indicate that they are listening carefully.

When the other side needs to understand and support, it should echo with "right", "right", "really the same thing" and "I have the same feeling".

When necessary, you should also quote the views that the other side has just published, or consult the other party directly.

All of these are based on language and cooperation with the parties.

3, euphemism should not be directly stated in the conversation, which makes the other person unhappy or disgusted.

If necessary, we should strive to be implicit, euphemistic and pleasant to listen to, and leave room for understanding. This is called euphemism.

For example, if you want to go to the bathroom while eating, you should not say "I'll go easy", but say, "I'll go out", "I'm going to do something", or "I'll make a phone call".

The visitor stays too long, thus affecting himself, and I need to ask him to leave. It is not appropriate to say "you should go", "you have stayed too long", and you should say, "I no longer occupy your precious time" and so on.

In conversation, euphemisms can be applied in the following ways:

(1) beat around the bush.

(2) metaphor.

(3) indirect hints.

(4) first affirm, then negate.

(5) using the question sentence without using imperative sentences.

(6) there is room for expression.

4, courtesy of the other party in the conversation, we must strive to take the other side as the center, everywhere comity, respect each other, especially to avoid the following kinds of rude people.

(1) do not monologue, since conversation is about two-way communication, then we should have some people in the conversation, courteous people, and give more chances to speak to others, so that everyone can have communication opportunities.

Don't be a monologue, talk freely, "dominate the world", just enjoy yourself, and never give others the opportunity to open your mouth.

(2) do not allow the cold field to go to another side in conversation, that is to say, keep silent from beginning to end, so that the conversation will be in a cool way and destroy the atmosphere of the scene.

No matter whether the topic of conversation is related to yourself or whether you are interested in it, you should enthusiastically invest in it and actively cooperate with it. In case of a conversation, you should "shut up" because of the cold weather of others.

It can pfer old topics, lead to new topics, and make conversation unimpeded.

(3) do not interrupt to respect others. When speaking to others, try not to interrupt halfway, highlight them and plug them in without permission.

This approach not only interferes with each other's thinking, destroys the effect of conversation, but also gives people a sense of self righteous and overwhelming.

It is necessary to make personal comments or make supplements, which should be finished by the other party or after the other party's approval.

However, the number of interruptions should not be long and the time should not be long. Strangers are never allowed to interrupt or interrupt.

(4) do not carry the bar. It means to argue with others, love stubbornness and love words.

In general conversation, we should allow each speaker to express his opinions and freedom of speech without making any conclusions.

If you take pride in yourself, you think you are always right. You have to argue for three points without any reason. You must be unreasonable. You must fight for a red face.