Three Tips To Help You Succeed In Social Networking

Gerd said, "man can not live alone, he needs society."

Good interpersonal relationships can not only bring happiness to life, but also help people to succeed.

Therefore, social ability is important for human survival

Although the only child of this generation can receive good education, they are not sociable because of the closed and lonely family.

This should arouse the attention of young mothers.

Some children who are very talented from childhood, because they are "unsociable", grow up and have "never been able to catch up with talent". They feel that "heroes are useless". Not only can they fail to achieve their talents, but also they are always "uncooperative" in their lives. Some people who are good at dealing with interpersonal relationships are welcomed by everyone, so that they can get full play and feel happy about themselves.

No one likes a grumpy and melancholy person. Everyone likes to be with people who are happy and enthusiastic.

How can we help our children develop good interpersonal relationships?

I summed up three secrets from many popular children.

One of the secrets: enthusiasm - your heart.

There are many factors in one's success, and enthusiasm is an indispensable factor.

Enthusiasm is the excitement from the heart. It is a fervent spiritual quality deeply existing in the human heart.

The difference between success and failure in intelligence and ability is usually not very big. But if two people have similar qualities in all aspects, people with enthusiasm will have more chances to get what they want. One person is not competent enough, but with enthusiasm, he usually outperforms those who are strong in ability but lack enthusiasm.

A leader's enthusiasm will affect his subordinates' work mood. A mother and teacher's enthusiasm will affect the mood of children and students.

Rosenthal, a famous American psychologist, has carried out the test of expectancy effect.

He came to a middle school to investigate a very ordinary class. When he left, he told the class teacher excitedly: 18 students in your class have a very good future.

Rosenthal's enthusiasm affected the teacher.

Since then, teachers have been particularly concerned about these students. Their faces are always full of smiles, trying to find their advantages and asking them questions.

After graduating from high school, these students were admitted to key universities.

When Rosenthal came to this school again, he smiled. He told the teacher that he only ordered 18 people at random, and did not seriously inspect them. It was the enthusiasm and trust of teachers that produced the effect today.

This story shows that the enthusiasm of adults can change the fate of children.

So, how do adults convey enthusiasm to their children? Here are three points.

See.

A friendly look from a mother or teacher will excite the child.

Some children feel sad because the teacher does not read him in class but mistakenly believes that the teacher does not like him.

A boy asked me, "what should I do when I am in class?" I told him, "look for a blank sheet of paper, draw a pair of eyes, and regard them as the eyes of" intimate sister "and put them on the desk.

Every time you want to move, you can see that your "intimate sister" is looking at you. You tell yourself quickly that you can't do little tricks in class.

Sure enough, he soon overcame his faults.

His father said, "children always play with things in class, and teachers often complain.

If I beat him, he would not listen.

After using your method, he took charge of himself, and this semester he was also commended on the three good students.

Do you say God is not God? "I said," no, because I trust him. He has the ability of self-restraint, and he controls himself. "

Hand show.

Different gestures express different feelings.

Clap your shoulders. It means encouragement and praise. Spanking is a punishment.

Many kindergartens, primary school pupils, they need parents, aunts or teachers to strok around, so they often surround you. When you touch his head, he will feel very happy.

When he is in high school, when he performs well, you might as well give him a pat on the shoulder to show his approval and trust.

Parents should pay attention to art when educating their children, otherwise it will be futile.

Language expression.

Bring hope to children with the most ardent language.

Words need not be many, one or two sentences can express your love; the voice need not be big, must show your inner excitement.

Babbling is the most annoying thing for a child.

If a child has made a mistake, do not scold him or hit him rudely. Instead, he should go to a room without anyone else, stare at his eyes and solemnly say to him: "mom knows you are making the mistake for the first time, and the last time, is it?" at this point, the child will feel bad about himself, sorry for his parents, and will be determined to correct the mistake.

Parents' enthusiasm for children is passed on to children through their eyes, hands and expressions. Children are encouraged and encouraged to learn how to treat others enthusiastically.

Edison once said, "when a person dies, if he can pass on his enthusiasm to his children, he will leave them with priceless assets."

Tip two: Communication - moving others' hearts

If you want your child to be friendly with others and be popular with others, let them learn to respect each person from childhood, learn to communicate with others and impress others.

The way parents communicate with their children will directly affect their hearts.

There are three principles of communication.

First, do not always criticize, accuse or complain.

Nowadays, there are more than three or three problems in family education: too many shortcomings, too few advantages, too many criticisms, too little encouragement, too much reprimand and too little praise.

Children who grow up in reprimand often condemn others, who are least popular.

Reprimand and accusation often fail to achieve any good results, only to strengthen others' defense against you, and try to prove that you are right; reprimand and accusation will also hurt one's self-esteem, and excessive harm will arouse the resentment of the other person.

Second, genuinely appreciate and appreciate others.

The deepest need of human nature is to crave the appreciation of others.

Everyone is willing to work and live with his own people.

Let children become popular people, we must let children learn to appreciate and appreciate others sincerely.

The boss of a supermarket in the United States is estranged from his son and often criticizes his son.

One day, when he went to his son's supervisor's shop, he found that the shop turned into a profit from losses, and customers and salesmen liked his son very much.

He called his son aside and said, "you have done so well that no one has been able to attract so many customers than you!" unexpectedly, the son of a tall horse had shed tears and said, "Dad, you have never praised me like this before. I am glad you feel that way for me."

The father later said to others, "this is my first real communication with my son after he grew up."

If you want your child and your husband to like you, you must be interested in them. If you want your children to be loved by their classmates and teachers, you must let him thank others for their help in time.

Third, discover others' strengths and not gossip.

A peasant mother is very good at teaching her children to discover the virtues of everyone in the village and the family, and tells the child, "everyone is a grass, and there is a dew on every grass.

Every dew will shine in the sun. "

So her children learned to be kind.

Some of our young mothers don't pay much attention to this. They often gossip behind their back. As children grow older, children can learn to gossip easily.

Gossiping children have the least number of friends.

Here, I especially want to warn girls that they must not pay attention to people behind their backs.

Secret three: self confidence - win the hearts of others.

I interviewed Shen Wen, a farmer entrepreneur. He developed a small mushroom house in a village into a large enterprise in Shanghai, which is a subsidiary company in four countries.

I asked him the secret of success. He said two words: "confidence."

He said, "only if you believe you will succeed, do you have confidence and interest in doing things with you."

I visited the people around him.

A retired veteran engineer said he was willing to help Shen Wengan. Shen Wen was the force. He would succeed with him.

In dealing with people, self-confidence is like the magnetism of magnet, which attracts many capable people.

If you believe you can do it, you will succeed.

Someone said, "people who lose money lose very little. Those who lose their health lose a lot, and those who lose courage lose everything."

But confidence is not conceited.

Those who feel that they can not do anything will never succeed.

Here, I want to give a sentence to my young mother. This sentence is said by Mr. Tao Xingzhi, an old educationist: "dripping your own sweat, eating your own food, doing your own business, and relying on people to rely on heaven for their ancestors" is not a hero.