Master The Refusal Of Etiquette

　　 refuse That's not acceptable. Since it is an indirect effect on other people's wishes or behaviors. negative Then we should consider not to say anything but to give others a step.

In general, rejection should be decisive and not ambiguous. When others ask themselves for help, and this is too busy to help, it should be clear on the spot. At that time, he took his chest, and then procrastinate and hide. What's the difference between cheating and cheating?

In terms of language skills, there are four ways of refusal: direct refusal, euphemism, silence refusal, avoidance and rejection.

To refuse directly is to say clearly the meaning of refusal. The importance of this method is to avoid rigid attitude and bad language. In general, direct rejection of others requires the reason for rejection. If possible, you can also express your gratitude to the other side, expressing your understanding of your kindness to show you are reasonable.

Some people do not pay enough attention to the excuse for refusing. reason 。 If it is someone else who gives you cash as a gift, you can't accept it according to the rules, but you can't ask the other person to "use your heart". You may refuse to give a gift with a gentle tone. If you can say, "a gentleman, I really want to thank you for your kindness, but we do not accept gifts from others. I'm really sorry. I can't accept your money. " So the other side is not good enough to force others.

Euphemism is to express rejection in mild and tortuous language. Compared with direct refusal, it is more acceptable. Because to a large extent, it takes care of the dignity of the rejected.

For example, a gentleman gave underwear to a lady in general. If the lady retorted, "did you buy it for your mother?" it turned into a bitch. Rather than politely refuse, say, "it's beautiful. But this style of my boyfriend has bought several pieces for me. I'll leave them to your girlfriend. In other words, it implies that he has already known the "famous flower owner" and reminds the other person to pay attention to propriety.

Silence refuses, in the face of difficult questions, temporarily suspend "speeches" without saying a word. When other people's problems are very difficult or even provocative or insulting, they can be immobiliated by silence, silent and quiet. This refusal to say "no" is often expressed in a strong psychological deterrent.

Although silent rejection is effective, if it is not used properly, it will inevitably hurt people. Therefore, we can try to avoid and do not answer, "Wang Gu left and right to talk about him" method, that is, "evade rejection".

　　 To avoid refusal is to avoid the truth and not to say "yes" to the other, or to say "no", but to put it aside and turn to other matters. You can use this method when you meet other people's demanding or difficult questions.