Workplace: The Art Of Speaking In The Workplace

Speaking love exposing others' "short children"

Zhang Ting worked as an office clerk in a state office. She was introverted and not very talkative.

Whenever she asks for her opinion on something, she always says "spit", and her words are always exposing others' "short children".

Once, my colleagues in the Department wore a new dress, others praised "beautiful", "suitable" and so on. When people asked Zhang Ting how he felt, Zhang answered directly, "you are too fat to fit."

And even said, "this color is not suitable for you to wear."

Once the words were exported, the parties were very angry, and the people who praised the clothes were very embarrassed.

Because what Zhang Ting said is partly true, for example, the colleague is rather bloated.

Though Zhang Ting would regret her unpleasant words, she often said something that could not be accepted.

Over time, colleagues excluded her from the collective and seldom asked her opinion on something.

Despite this, if she occasionally needs to listen to her opinions, she will not be able to control herself and tell others what she most dislikes.

Almost no one in the company took the initiative to talk to her now.

Zhang Ting naturally understood why everyone had ignored her.

Complain about the boss and get stuck with it all the time.

Sun Li is currently a senior programmer in a computer company in Zhongguancun.

The reason why she left her former company was mainly because she complained to her boss about her boss's ear and complained about the boss's ears.

This is the case.

Once, the boss gave Sun Li a difficult task, and told her in advance that "this is a very difficult matter, you dare not assume, dare to accept challenges."

Although Sun Li understood her strength, she felt that in the company, the boss took the initiative to ask her for advice, indicating that the boss valued himself.

As a result, because the boss gave a shorter deadline, Sun Li did not finish the task on time.

As a result, Sun Li was criticized by the boss and punished by the economy.

But she felt very indignant and angry.

Sun Li thought: since the task is so arduous, it is expected that we can not finish it.

I was so diligently at that time, and it was not a mistake to finish the work.

"The boss is too much for me to work so hard in such a short time. I can't do it, but he must let me do it, and punish me if I don't finish it."

After that, Sun Li complained so much to his colleagues.

Not long after that, the boss gave her new assignment. Fortunately, Sun Li did quite well this time.

When Sun Li was happy, the boss gave him a more difficult task.

And said, "here I am the boss, subordinates only obey, do not complain.

I don't have people who eat white food, I can't adapt to leave.

If you can't finish the task this time, you have to consider whether you should change your job.

Leaders are divided, and truth be told.

Huo Ming works in a well-known foreign company.

Once the project manager told him that he wanted to make a publicity plan for the unit. After discussion, Huo Ming worked overtime according to the meaning of the project manager, and successfully completed the plan.

However, when the plan was handed over to the head of the project, he was severely criticized.

In front of the leader, Huo Ming said that the plan was the result of discussions among all the group members, and their project manager agreed with him that the 60% of the plan was the project manager's idea.

I didn't expect the leader to call the project manager directly to face the confrontation.

The chief executive asked the project manager: "I heard that this is what you think, and this kind of thing can still be called a plan, and it is worth your many people to collectively plan. I think you should not be a project manager."

After coming out of the chief executive's office, Huo Ming was criticized by the project manager again.

The project manager warned him to stir up his mind before speaking and not to say anything.

But Huo Ming thought he didn't say anything wrong, not to mention what he said was true.

Speaking offended the director, he lost the chance to renew it.

Liu Xin is a reporter for a pet magazine. She likes small animals naturally. She is glad that she can choose a very suitable job.

Because she likes to contact with animals, she works hard and enthusiastically.

But a month ago, she did not see her name.

A person who is obviously not as good as her work enthusiasm and work performance is easily promoted and paid for being flattering.

Liu Xin could not think of it, and he told his grievance to a colleague who was grieved by his grievances.

It is not to see who has the ability, not to pay attention to human ability, but to focus on the flatterer.

Soon after saying this, Liu Xin obviously felt that the supervisor was treating her differently and always suppressed her in some cases.

At the end of the year, when Liu Xin's contract expired, the director did not renew her contract with the unit's HR department failing her performance appraisal.

Workplace rookie chews boss's private life

Deng Ying is a very cheerful girl. When he came to the new unit, he became a pistachio in his office.

One day, she and her colleagues came home from work and saw a beautiful young girl sitting in their car.

On the second day, Deng Ying announced her new discovery loudly in the office.

Two days later, the boss called her to the office, telling her to talk less about work after work.

Deng Ying went back to her office in a sullen way. She was sad that no one came to comfort her.

Later, Deng Ying gradually discovered that in fact, apart from her, people in the office rarely spoke of work related matters, let alone mention others or their private affairs.

Thus, as long as Deng did not speak, the office was almost dead.

Deng Ying did not understand why the relationship between people was so cold and careless.

Expert comment

Stand on others' stand and consider things.

Chen Wei, director of information technology leadership training center, believes that how to speak in the workplace should be considered in the following aspects:

From the point of view of organization, enterprises expect their employees to establish cooperative relationship with their colleagues spontaneously and spontaneously in order to achieve the goals of enterprises, and accomplish all kinds of tasks that enterprises must accomplish efficiently and quickly, so as to win customer satisfaction and reasonable economic benefits.

Therefore, in a sense, the interpersonal relationship between enterprises is the relationship of winning cooperation.

From a personal perspective, being good at dealing with difficult problems in the workplace, maintaining and maintaining good workplace interpersonal relationships is one of the essential professional qualities for workplace success.

The first principle of good interpersonal relationship is self-management and win win thinking.

Self management includes doing well in one's own duties and controlling one's own emotions, while win win thinking requires that one can always consider things in others' standpoints, and coordinate and cooperate with each other to achieve the goals of the organization.

From a specific point of view, it is often more effective in practice to replace problems with criticism by giving advice instead of criticizing others.

For several scenarios in the case, Chen Wei suggested:

If you feel that problems will arise in advance, you should take the initiative to make suggestions to your superiors and put forward effective solutions.

(2) the superiors can be arranged downstairs, but accept the task assigned by leapfrogging, be in the position of accepting the duty, and do not jump over the grade when reporting upward.

As for trivial matters in daily life, there is no need to be too serious. Praise and appreciation of others are the embellishment and lubrication of interpersonal relationships, and it is a virtue to sincerely praise and appreciate others.