How To Cross The Running In Period

Communicative running in period refers to the fact that when different communication individuals coexist in a social circle, it is necessary to pass through a period of social interaction so as to achieve harmony, harmony and close relationship. After reading the following, you will know that communicative individuals are different in personality.

When different communicative individuals share a circle of communication, it is necessary to pass through a period of communication, so as to achieve the purpose of harmonious coexistence, harmonious communication and close relationship. However, communication is not natural. To shorten its process and improve its efficiency, communication individuals should improve their consciousness and initiative. "Grinding" and then can be combined, "sharpening" will speed up faster, and "grinding" can achieve good results.

First, enhance the intensity of running in.

Communication is a necessary phenomenon in communication. For this reason, we sometimes are in the unconscious, or let it be natural. Even some people are playing the bull's lips. They are antagonism, refuse to run in, and refuse to give in. The efficiency of social interaction is low or even abnormal, so we should strengthen the intensity of "grinding". This can start from two aspects:

1. strengthen self discipline. According to needs, wear away the ingredients that are not suitable for communication, suit each other, and adapt to the communication. Each person's personality is different, habits are different, communication characteristics and ways will make the other party unsuited to, even uncomfortable, antipathy. In this regard, we should not insist on ourselves, even flaunt our individuality, even our bad habits and bad temper. In this way, the two sides will not get in well with each other through a long process of communication, or even become more rigid. If we can enhance our sense of responsibility, start from good intentions, make a gesture, and rub ourselves away from the special things which are not suitable for us, and others will easily run in with you. Two will also be affected and actively run in with you. This creates a good condition for social interaction. For example, it takes a long time to talk with people at the beginning, when the two sides quickly run in, creating conditions and atmosphere for conversation. If you are a straight person, you should be modest and modest according to circumstances, which is easy for the other party to accept you.

2. accept the constraints of others. When others communicate with us, they always show some desire or even clear demand. We should accept his influence, obey his requirements and make himself suitable for him. Of course, his wish may not be very reasonable. His request is more stubborn and selfish. But we can start from the overall situation, understand him, understand him and treat him kindly, that is to say, a certain degree of principled accommodation is necessary. If we insist on giving priority to "I", stubbornly stubborn and unwilling to yield, if the other person is a cultured person, we can introspection. If a stubborn or poorly trained person, the relationship between the two sides will become rigid. In fact, accepting other people's restraint in communication reflects our style and culture as well as the need to speed up the running in of bilateral relations. For example, when you move into a new house, your new neighbor is very different from the old neighbor you used to live in. At this time, even if you appreciate the habits and ways, we should transform them from his point of view, not to die hard.

Two. Pay attention to running in mode.

It is necessary to use certain methods and optimize methods for certain objects. In order to adapt to social interaction, we should not only identify the corresponding methods, but also optimize the methods on this basis. Communication is very complicated and delicate. Therefore, communication is more important than method. The basic method of running in is:

1. fine grinding and slow grinding. In order to get along with each other, we should pay attention to communication. Two, we need to know the truth of the other side. We need to observe and run in first. Although social interaction requires strengthening the intensity of grinding and raising the speed of grinding, it does not require us to ignore the facts or take the initiative to change ourselves to suit others and communicate with others. If so, there is bound to be a loss phenomenon, that is, the unnecessary change has changed, and a slight adjustment has been made. As a result, wear and tear instead of collapse. Slow grinding is consistent with the law of communication. It is reliable and realistic, and it can achieve the desired results. For example, to get along with new colleagues, of course, we should adapt to each other and achieve tacit understanding. But this process is achieved through gradual gradual and subtle way. It is neither realistic nor detrimental to change, but it is difficult for the other side to accept it.

2., replace the mill. Communication is generally required to "grind" to oneself, which is not suitable for communication and is not suitable for each other. But this is only one aspect. On the other hand, we can take all the things of the other side and enrich ourselves and fill ourselves in order to gain recognition and achieve the running in of the relationship. Some of the differences between us and others are unreasonable, some should be persisted and affect the transformation of the other side. Some of them are reasonable, but from the perspective of communication, they will affect or obstruct the smooth running of both sides. This part can complement each other and form common points. It can enrich itself and transform others, and at the same time, it can speed up the two sides running in.

This is a positive way of running in. For example, a couple of newly married couples. New people The male likes watching the ball game, the woman likes to watch the romantic family drama, produces many contradictions for watching the television two people. But there is no need for the two sides to change themselves. Men may learn to watch romantic movies, and women may learn to watch football matches, so that both sides can speed up the running in and harmony.

Three. Adjust the direction of running in.

Social interaction does not mean passively accommodating each other. It has definite directivity. When we make efforts to run in, we can't just bury ourselves in work and not look up. Relatively speaking, it is more important to recognize the direction. It can lead the running in to the right direction and promote the communication relationship to run on the right track. We should aim at two directions:

1. establish harmonious and harmonious relations. Harmonious and harmonious communication is the goal of communication. communication All plans and actions that run in should be directed towards it. The result of running in will lead each other to this ideal situation. Generally speaking, the result of running in is such that the so-called "harmony" is harmonious and harmonious. But in fact, sometimes we even run in harmony, but we just want to face each other's peace or not. The result is superficial and fails to achieve normal communication. This should be taken seriously. For example, some people deal with people just to cope with or temporarily constraint themselves, in order to obtain the warm and harmonious surface, but this relationship is false and superficial. It seems that they soon get in touch with each other. In fact, the obstacles and differences between the two sides are far from being resolved.

2., make communication more healthy and positive. The relationship between the two sides is different in nature. Some relationships are vulgar, some are mediocre, some are elegant, others are positive.

This relationship is different from friends, family relationships and colleagues. This reflects the level of bilateral relations and has a direct impact on communication, life and work. Communication should be adjusted to the healthy and active relationship between the two sides, so that it can be developed to the corresponding level through running in.

For example, two new colleagues, the two sides run in a lot of directions, there are general hobbies, temper, friendship with each other, there is a special hobby, but this should focus on doing a good job, and strive to go up this level. In this way, both sides will form a good relationship that you can help me, coordinate with each other, improve and develop together.

Four, adhere to the principle of running in.

Communication is a way of eliminating one's unsociability and not suitable for each other. However, in order to adapt to the temporary communication, it is not suitable for the unreasonable factors of the other side, but it can not be removed or even a positive communicative element. That is to say, running in is a principle. The following two principles should be specially adhered to.

1. do not compromise, get into a smooth way. If it does help communication We should transform ourselves into ourselves. However, the only effect of running in is not to see whether it is healthy and active, to indulge too much on the other side, and even perfunctory for a while. This running in attitude has two major hazards: first, it has damaged its image; although the other party is happy for a while, it will later sniff and report the same attitude; and two, it will lead the bilateral relationship to the surface of hypocrisy.

Although we have a strong desire to run in, we stand upright and stick to our principles and do not give in to people. This is reliable. For example, facing the new boss, we have many differences with his work style, way of thinking and even his living habits. But don't give in to him, not even to the other. Is it smooth or allowed to enter into a good relationship with the boss quickly? But is it necessary to exchange this principle for this situation? Is this situation normal, positive and reliable?

2. grinding and keeping, maintaining individuality. A person has his own personality. His personality is what he wants to maintain, and the other side should be respected. Social interaction requires us to remove some of our undesirable things, including some special ingredients. But these are not suitable for communication. Two, there is no need for existence or negative. In any case, in pursuit of efficiency and strength, we must not wear away our individuality. If you wear away your personality, you will have no distinctive features.

For example, a passionate, energetic person who gets along with an introverted and calm person must go through a running in process before he can get along well and establish a harmonious relationship. But if you don't even have your own personality, you shouldn't. Enthusiasm and bold and steady are valuable qualities. Even if they can be put into operation for a while, they will lack vitality and charm.