Workplace Women's Worries: Career And Marriage Dilemma

If a husband is busy and his wife is idle, this contradiction may still be avoided, because we all accept the idea that "men should fight outside their careers, create better living conditions for their families, while women should spend more time in taking care of family affairs". Wives can find various reasons to convince themselves to understand their husbands. Your family is different from traditional positioning because of the role of husband and wife, so the problem will be more complicated.

　 　 Family soft reality

Conventional Marriage The pattern is that men are strong and women are weak. Both in the East and in the west, men are dominant and stronger than women. On the contrary, if the relationship between women and women is much better than men, for example, the wife is a strong woman, the husband is very ordinary, so it subverts the traditional family pattern of the male and female owners, and becomes the female owner and the male owner. At this time, the wife may feel that her husband is too far away from himself to become a self reliant and despise the other person. Or even if his wife does not feel anything, the husband himself often feels lost and has not enough sense of value. There is a psychological gap between the two sides, which naturally affects all aspects of life and feelings. In psychology, there is a special term family soft reality to describe this strong and weak family phenomenon. Your family obviously matches this pattern, so your husband feels lost and powerless.

It is not difficult to avoid the adverse effects caused by the family's soft reality. As long as you rely on and rely on your husband in daily life and family decisions, let him find a psychological balance and create a sense of self-worth. It will be easy to help him restore self-esteem and self trust, and rearrange your relationship to an equal position and close your distance.

　　 Cause The choice of marriage

Other ways to improve your marital status include:

1, encourage her husband to devote himself to developing his own career, or help him develop his hobbies and interests to enrich his life.

2, improve their work efficiency and management ability, and extricate themselves from heavy work.

3, carefully weigh the significance of career and marriage, and redistribute your time. After all, even if your company leaves you, it will still work as usual, and if your marriage is short of you, it will be doomed to fade.

Life is seldom perfect. If you really can't abandon your career and insist on pursuing this path, and your husband can't fully understand you and accept you, then I'm afraid it's not suitable for you. You are more suited to finding a partner who shares your ambitions and is also keen to pursue a successful career, or willing to be the husband of a man behind you in support of your career.