How To Get Along With Children Of All Ages?

"Growth is always a matter of no hurry." just like reading this article, though it is a popular age, it is still necessary to read it well, every word, every sentence and every paragraph.

Our children also need intensive reading. We need to understand and grow with him.

First, cultivate close relationships with children before they are two years old.

Mother was sick and sick.

No one said to anyone, still insisted on cooking meals for the whole family.

At this time.

But the young daughter followed her mother closely. Her face was full of worry: "Mom, are you not feeling well?"

But this kind of heart and soul is not born.

Before the age of two, the children are very sensitive, and emotional management is relatively easy.

Parents should establish stable relationships and trust relationships with their children, such as playing with their children, living with their children, and letting the children and themselves in bed at night.

This will play a decisive role in maintaining the relationship between children and their parents in the future.

When this intimate relationship is formed, a child's eyes can be understood by a father's action, and the child can understand it.

Now many parents have no way to bring their children, should let the children and other relatives to establish a stable close relationship, such as grandma, grandma, or aunt, etc., this is very conducive to the cultivation and management of children's future mood.

It is worth noting that if a child is brought up by other relatives, rather than being brought up by grandma, and establishing a stable intimate relationship with his grandmother, parents can not attack their grandparents when their children return to their parents.

Because when children are attached to their earlier intimate relationships, this kind of attack of parents will shake up intimacy, so he will be in a state of emotional division.

This will help children grow and grow in the future.

The establishment is very unfavorable.

Two, 2 - 6 years old, let children touch nature.

Every parent wants their children to be smart, so they teach him to read, write arithmetic and recite Tang poetry from the moment they speak.

But parents have thought that such education has strangled the growth of a genius. Genius is not a dead reader, but a keen observer from childhood. It has a keen perception of the structure, color and shape of objects, but the ability of genius is not natural.

Children use before the age of 6

The way to perceive the world.

Many parents in the United States will bring their children to the natural world soon after they are born, and try not to use language to educate their children.

It is to let the children feel the world with their eyes and their hearts.

For example, the understanding of "apple", when the child can not speak, can not be expressed in words, "apple" in his mind is a vivid image of apple.

But when the word "apple" came into his mind, what he remembered was language, not image memory.

The language system is the easiest to grasp and the simplest way to express the world.

When a child learns to express himself in words and words, he will naturally develop the left brain of logical thinking, and the right brain forming thinking will no longer develop. All children's imagination will become simple language, and the development of the right brain will be strangled.

In fact, when children were young, their intelligence quotient was very high. They had a much stronger sense of color and voice than adults. They could distinguish the subtle differences in colors. They were also yellow, and children could distinguish yellow from different colors.

But when the word "yellow" entered his mind, he began to learn to classify, and the perception and discrimination ability of color had no more. This is the violation of the language system to the development of the right brain.

Therefore, before the age of 6, children should focus on the development of the right brain, so that his keen perception has been maintained to adulthood, and the development of rational thinking should be after 7 years old.

Let them recognize a lot of words and memorize many poems. In fact, let us use adult thinking to hinder children's original development.

So how do we develop the right brain of children? The easiest way is to develop the right brain.

And don't let him read or read too early.

Try to communicate with children in form, painting and imagination.

Three, 6 - 10 allowed them to make mistakes.

There is no doubt that children at this stage are beginning to really worry their parents.

They went to school and began to contact the society. Whether they had excellence or not had a clear judgement: academic achievement.

However, children at this stage are also the time to release their nature. Especially for small boys, it may be difficult to sit quietly in the classroom.

They misbehave, do not study hard, let the teacher headache, let the parents face no light.

Do I really need to worry so much?

In fact, the pain of parents stems from his view of children with adult thinking.

For children, these are just a state of his growth, which is not a problem at all.

Each school will have some special children, such as mischievous, they get more attention and criticism from teachers.

We have subconsciously assumed that these children are problematic. But in the long run, are there really individuals with integrity? No, and on the contrary, many successful people are paranoid and grumpy, because the creation of energy requires emotion.

Therefore, we should allow children to commit mistakes at this stage, rather than using adult ideas and thinking to systematically analyze him.

Once we analyze, we will see problems, and increasingly feel that this is a problem, and children will increasingly release this problem.

The problem with parents is that they always say that children have shortcomings, but seldom say the advantages of children. This causes children to not know what their advantages are, but their shortcomings are constantly reminded, and their shortcomings are also increasing.

Four, 10 - 14 years old, facing children with "ignorance"

In our known concepts, good children should study well and achieve excellent results. Such a child can have a good future.

Chaos theory tells us that everything is unknown. If parents can face children with "ignorance" attitude, maybe everything is quite different.

We have no way to make our children the same as other children, because every successful case is unreplicable, each child has its own unique way of development. Who can guarantee that the children admitted to Tsinghua University will have no worries in future? Who can say that children who are not doing well now will have no achievements?

Therefore, parents really do not need to always look for children's troubles. Maybe he doesn't like studying. At this time, do not rebuke him, but let him develop the best in his own interest, so that everyone will be impressed with him. Once the child gets the recognition from his school and his peers, he will develop other aspects easily.

If you force him to give up what he is interested in and not get his approval from his studies, his genius will be obliterated by his parents.

There is an example.

A junior high school student did not like studying very much. His father did not force him to go back to school, but asked him what he wanted to do.

The child said, I want to go to Tibet.

Dad said, well, we will drive to Tibet during the summer vacation.

In this way, the family drove to Tibet and experienced many difficulties and obstacles all the way. Later, mom could not insist on going home, but the child insisted on going to Tibet.

When he got home, he was very excited and felt that he had done a very great thing.

He talked about his legendary experience to his partners, and he got the recognition from his partners. After school, he volunteered to return to school, because he felt that he had done all the hard things in Tibet and was afraid of going to school. Besides, the whole class drove him to Tibet alone.

Therefore, parents should re-examine their children in an "ignorant" way with a sense of identity, so that they can grow up in their own way, instead of forcing all kinds of mainstream views to be accepted by their children.

If you do this, it will be a blessing to your children.

Five, 14 - 18 - year - old children of democratic families have no rebellious puberty

From time to time, the child began to call back to his parents. He began to have a little boyfriend and girlfriend, and began to babble and annoy his father.

Yes, the puberty of the child has arrived. Parents at this time often seem to be enemies. They seem to be ready to compete well with their children.

Careful analysis, the contest of adolescence is precisely the contest between children and parents fighting for the right to speak and fighting for family authority. It is easy to find that the more obedient children are rebellious in adolescence.

This is because parents of small children talk to their children with the authority of adults, educate their children with adult culture, and their children's original age traits and the views they are exposed to are seriously divided.

When he began to think independently, the stronger his sense of division, the more rebellious he was in adolescence.

We also see that children living in a democratic family do not have obvious adolescent rebellion, because he does not need to challenge authority.

Parents always look at children in an open and tolerant way. Children never need to fight with their parents, because there is no so-called "authority" in their homes.

In fact, family should be a place for "making love" rather than "reasoning".

Children's education is a very systematic project. The conscientious parents should be parents who can grow up together with their children.

Parents' psychological "re growth" is very important for children's growth. If their parents fail to complete this kind of self growth, they may lose their chance to establish harmonious parent-child relationship forever.