What Should I Do If I Quit My Job?

Why quit?

Some companies have analyzed the record of leaving employees' interviews, which are just the following reasons:

1. Personal reasons

2, do not adapt

3, low remuneration

4, lack of development space.

5, and upper / lower levels

Discord

6, others: such as distance from home, marriage, family illness and so on.

Well, when we decide to resign, we need to make a few clear points first.

First, first of all, we need to make it clear that resignation is absolutely a serious matter. The seriousness mentioned here contains two meanings.

1. your real intention is to resign, rather than to resign as an excuse.

Salary.

Taking the resignation as a means to coerce the company to enhance the treatment, even if it succeeds, there will be endless trouble in the future. For a simple reason, employees and companies are naturally unequal. Especially when there is no trade union organization in the country, it is almost impossible for an individual to have an equal opportunity to have a dialogue with the company. (you can see how hard the overseas union is, if you look at the overseas strikes, and you will be able to find it sooner or later by the means of coercion.

But this does not mean that you are completely slaughtered by the company. The specific way to deal with it will be discussed later.

2. you really want to understand your resignation, bite your teeth, stomp your feet and scratch the wall, you must be determined.

Do not you do not want to understand, when the brain is hot, talk to the boss about a bad job. When the boss tells you, you are ready to play chicken blood and do a good job. When you come home, your wife scolds you and changes your mind immediately, and the second day goes to the boss to talk about leaving.

The plot of this dog's blood is entirely the way of Anti Japanese dramas in China: no worst, only worse.

Second, if you are serious about leaving your company, it is normal for company managers to refuse to do so.

You have to understand what the management thinks. They don't care at all whether the company's system is not good. What difficulties can be put forward and the company can help you solve it? Stop it! Let's say that these people are going to survive Lei Feng.

In fact, the manager's idea is very simple:

1., if you leave, you will not be able to recruit people for a while. Who will do the work? Will it affect the development of the company?

2. if you are a key technical post, or if you have mastery of customer resources, will you go to competitors or start your own business as a threat to the company?

If these two items do not hold water, Congratulations, the manager's detainment is entirely polite. You insist and insist on going.

The reason why you can't walk is the two things that make people feel uneasy.

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Generally speaking, in the face of compulsive behavior, we feel very troublesome, hoping to relieve the irrational ideas and behaviors in mind. On the other hand, we also believe that these concepts and behaviors are reasonable and necessary.

So I often say: compulsion is actually doing what we think is meaningless, but not doing inner discomfort, and doing something more entangled in the heart.

Take forced washing.

Compulsion makes us seem to split into two people, one can analyze according to the actual situation, according to the logic of adults, judge the perversion of their metamorphosis, think that washing hands repeatedly, washing clothes, wasting time and effort, and hoping to get rid of it.

The other is that it is necessary to wash several times more seriously if there is a serious infectious disease. This attitude is not commensurate with our actual age and education.

The former represents rational adults, the latter is not rational, blindly afraid, and has immature psychological characteristics of children.

These two people hold their own views, and no one can rule anyone, which constitutes a disease of "knowing what they committed and torturing themselves".

At this time, we must carefully observe our compulsive behavior and recognize the psychological contradictions behind the surface symptoms.

The compulsive phenomenon we see is actually the first thought in our mind (we call it mental compulsion) and then we have the combination of behavior (we call it accompanying ceremony).

Ritual is something that must be done after mental compulsion, temporarily relieving anxiety or guilt or mental behavior caused by mental compulsion.

Suppose we think: "what I touch is polluted" (mental compulsion), then we will do the "washing hands" act.

However, this relationship is not always obvious; for example, if a person with coercive compulsion meets a child whose age is the same age as his child, he will feel that he must continue three times and uninterruptedly turn the 1-10 10 figures back to three times (ritual) because he thinks, "if I don't do this, he will have bad luck".

When we see clearly our compulsive behavior, we can use adult attitude to command our whole behavior and abandon children's behavior patterns.

We can tell ourselves, "this is not me, it is forced to cause trouble", so that I can face up to my compulsive behavior, appreciate it and understand it.

Obsessive compulsive disorder is like a crying child. The more we beat and scold and rebuke, the more psychological it becomes. If we treat him gently, we will understand and listen to him, and things will be different.

So, don't worry about getting rid of your compulsive symptoms, learn to live in peace with the disease.