Remembering These Taboos Will Make Your Contacts More Smoothly.

Words: "what songs to sing in the mountains and see what people say."

Sun Wu has a famous saying: "knowing oneself and knowing oneself, the war is not dangerous."

Can be used as the guiding principle of our interpersonal conversation.

Speaking without looking at objects can not only fail to reach the purpose of conversation, but also often hurt each other.

On the contrary, if we understand each other's situation, even if we make some bold statements, we will not hurt the other party, so that we can achieve our goal.

So, remember these taboos will no doubt let you.

More smoothly.

1. when arguing, do not push the other party to a dead end.

The best way to get into a whirlwind of confrontation is to let it go without arguing.

Tit for tat, aggressive arguments can only bend the population and not serve the heart.

Those who are eloquently pressed by your eloquence often produce complaints and complaints.

Do not expect to change the ideas and prejudices of the other person just by oral argument.

You fight hard and fight, insist on arguing to the last sentence, though you can get the self satisfied feeling of victory on the surface, but you can't make the other person feel good, so in conversation, you must stick to the principle of seeking common ground while reserving differences, and don't impose your views on others.

2. don't play too much of yourself.

Bragging, big talk and "boasting" are often tough and tough, and their purpose is only to arouse people's concern for him to satisfy their vanity.

Friends and colleagues are worth talking about.

If you can't do anything you can brag about, you will have a flashy impression.

Show yourself, show your brilliance and knowledge, and your opponent will be embarrassed. This is also bad for communication.

3. don't whine about and tell others about your misfortunes.

There are worries, grudges, pain, and grievances in heart. Although people need to be told, they can't talk freely to people who are not familiar with it.

One is that the other party may not have much interest; the two is that you do not understand your actual situation, it is very difficult to generate compassion; three, you may misunderstand your own shortcomings and shortcomings, so there is so much trouble, so your frustration is easy to attract the other party's boredom.

Therefore, it is meaningful to keep calm in mind, control oneself and strive to talk with anyone.

4. don't talk about your pride when your friends are miserable.

"When you are in your pride, don't forget your disappointment."

If a friend shows you his loss and pain, he will pour out his heart and soul to get sympathy and comfort. If you unconsciously compare your complacency with your friends' misfortune or disappointment, you will actually stimulate the other's self-esteem. He may think you are laughing at him, and the misunderstanding is very difficult to eliminate, so you must be careful when speaking.

5. don't talk about others in a scolding tone.

The relationship between friends and colleagues is equal, can not be opinionated, condescending, exclusive.

A scolding rebuke will hurt each other's self-esteem. This habit will make you a loner.

Human beings have a commonality: no one likes to accept orders and reprimand from others.

Do not be self righteous, let others have their own face and dignity.

6. don't touch privacy at will.

Everyone has privacy in the bottom of his heart, and there is a territory that he does not want to be infringed upon.

Modern people emphasize privacy very much.

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It's your pleasure to tell your secret from friends or colleagues out of trust.

But if you can't keep a secret, it will make them sad or even resentful.

Privacy is the most sensitive, the most irritable, and the most vulnerable corner of the human soul. It should be avoided either in the face or behind the back.

7. don't do anything rude when speaking.

In order to respect each other's conversation, the first thing to do is to maintain a dignified manner of conversation.

Shaking your legs, digging your nostrils, yawning and so on are impolite actions. Especially don't keep a close eye on other people's eyes. Otherwise, they will feel embarrassed and uneasy. Don't look down too high. Otherwise, they will feel high and high. Don't even glance at them.

8. don't focus on the individual and neglect others.

When talking to many people, never pay attention to one person and neglect others.

It is best to arouse everyone's interest with a topic so that everyone can express their opinions.

9. don't interrupt others' conversation casually.

When someone speaks, a topic is suddenly interrupted, which causes the other person to feel dissatisfied or suspicious.

Think you are ignorant of the time, low level, shallow knowledge, or think you hate, dislike this topic, or think you do not respect people, no accomplishment.

10. don't talk about topics that other people don't understand.

If you don't understand or interest, please leave your mouth open.

If you keep talking about it, the other person will think you are pedantic, showing off and deliberately trying to embarrass him.