White Lies Are Also Needed In The Workplace?

"You have a real personality today."

"Long time no see, you look so young!"

"I always want to come over to visit you, but I just can't afford the time."

Perhaps Carnegie's theory is so popular that these "welcome" white lies are floating around every corner of the office building, and we can not help but integrate with our lives.

Every liar tries to please others in exchange for other people's goodwill and reward, whether it is true or false, even a basket of white lies.

Another kind of white lies is "self preservation".

For example, it is easy to forget the time.

A liar is to avoid responsibility, two is to avoid irritating the victim, and three is to lie and become accustomed.

In the dream of Red Mansions, the classic section of Bao Chai flapping butterflies is a classic "self preservation" white lie.

Such white lies, though allowing speakers and listeners to avoid embarrassing situations, are likely to hurt innocent third parties.

For whatever reason, telling a lie to deceive others has long been a skill for many people, not even causing guilt.

Many white lie makers believe that white lies can be harmless and can play a role as a lubricant for workplace relationships. Why not?

But don't forget, cheated people may not think so.

In an interesting questionnaire, you often ask "one thing you hate most". Many people give the answer to "being cheated by others", whether it's a star or a public.

It can be seen that in many people's eyes, "deception" is an intolerable and unforgivable act, whether it is malicious concealment or goodwill concealment.

This leads to a question: why do we cheat others if we don't want to be deceived?

The answer is that people are in rivers and lakes.

We grew up in the story of "golden axe and silver axe" when we were taught to "collect money from ignorance" and actually wanted to be an honest person.

But when your boss asks you to help push an unimportant appointment, what will you do when your coworkers ask you for help and ask for sick leave to go to private appointments?

For a long time, hesitating for a long time, rather than risking the danger of being beaten, it is better to be willing to be a white lie maker.

I heard a passage: employees of a trading company often receive customer calls, and the most common solution is: "the goods are on the way!"

If customers do not ask to check the shipping list, they will say, "the accountant went home to have children."

On one occasion, the customer said angrily, "in the past few months, you told me that the accountant had gone home to have children."

Is she a difficult labor or something? "

The employee was in a hurry and said, "Er, er, that accountant has finished her life and has sat at home."

Such a lie is obviously not only for "self preservation" but also for malicious concealment.

Shopping centres win love field, and who wants to trust each other wholeheartedly is a fool.

The workplace treasure teaches us to master the necessary lie skills so that we can preserve ourselves at the crucial moment.

However, temporary preservation does not mean long-term stability.

If you want to stay steady and build a personal brand in the workplace, it is best not to abuse white lies.

In other words, do not tell lies, do not say, if not lying can not be done, but also to tell the lie.

As far as I am concerned, for the "flattering" lies, scorn, except for genuine praise.

In this year, fifteen to fifty of the body - looking women can be called "beautiful women", and cheap compliments are becoming more and more untrue - it's better to try to pretend than to please.

For "self preservation lies", we should treat them differently.

If the situation is forced to protect itself, it can be done without prejudice to the third party.

If lying or lying doesn't change the result, it's better not to lie, but also to get a good reputation for being honest and frank.

Almost forget, there is also a "comfort type" lie. The key word is "you are really good", "we can see your efforts", "everything will be better", usually used to comfort poor or bad performance colleagues and friends.

This is not limited to any use.