How Do New People Integrate Into The "Small Circle"?

There are "circles" one after another in society. According to different interests, people gather together to develop themselves and defend others.

But "people drift in rivers and lakes" always encounter different circles.

Life is fine, but it is not easy to meet new people when working.

Klauk, the German coach of the Chinese youth football team, encountered the trouble of "circle".

Although the performance of the Chinese youth football team has won three consecutive victories in the world youth tournament in Holland these days, all the fans are overjoyed, but the various criticisms surrounding the German coach, Claudius, have been heard all the time.

The strange circle of Chinese football world is obvious to all, while clo Chen's "foreign monk" will only read the football channel, but he has no way to deal with the intricate interests in the circle.

As an outsider who is in a precarious position, he can help the team win unexpected achievements, but he can not guarantee his own credit.

In the past, many of Yang Shuai had eaten the losses of the Chinese circle, and could only be left behind by heroes.

So what should we do to solve the problem of "circle"?

From a realistic point of view, today's society and organizations are actually surrounded by circles.

The most troublesome problem is that almost every issue involving the circle is extremely complicated.

Especially when you try to solve these problems with the identity of "outsiders in the circle" who are newcomers or non mainstream, you will feel more and more deeply.

It is just like Sun Wukong who can not jump out of the palm of Buddha's Buddha. He is a social man. We can hardly jump out of all kinds of circles. Instead, we must jump in and rush to solve a mess.

The quiet leadership of Joseph leadership L, a Harvard Business School professor, has provided us with a reference answer, which is the "quiet leadership" that has been expanding in the business world at home and abroad in recent years.

"Leaders do not speak, calm and resist".

As for the heroic leadership pattern in the eyes of the people, the so-called quiet leadership runs counter to it. It advocates to follow the principles of restraint, modesty and perseverance to deal with trivial matters in daily life, and through unremitting efforts and accumulated achievements, defends all challenges and tests of moral principles and leadership abilities to win the ultimate victory while safeguarding their interests as much as possible.

A cautious and cautious attitude is not the expression of timidity and atrophy.

First of all, do not deceive yourself, blindly think that they know everything about the situation, but through in-depth research, asking for directions, judging the situation and other steps, try to find out the situation as much as possible.

After all, what you are facing is a strange environment. The problems you want to solve and the mingling of all kinds of forces inside and outside the circle involve many unknown factors.

Such an unknown includes "known unknown", including "unknown unknown", and even some things you will never understand.

In such a dangerous environment, careful and cautious attitude is not the expression of timidity and atrophy, but a responsible choice for others.

You can conduct meticulous observation in various ways, explore in the dark, and maximize the information. Then you can balance the advantages and disadvantages of calmly, try best to avoid disadvantages, and even make the choice of "two evils get the best of them".

This truth is known even by ancient Qing officials.

In the case of a public law, whenever a newly appointed county magistrate takes office, the local rich businessmen will welcome the wine to a casual man like a sedan chair or a family member.

Although this method is not formal, it is also effective in ancient society.

In today's workplace, though it is impossible to advocate "micro suit", it is possible for the new official to take over three fires.

Although the public is watching, waiting for the newcomers to make some unusual achievements, but not the moment.

We might as well take up the "heart qi" that is hung up and hold our breath in the office.

Or actively throwing small movements, "to ask for directions" to see what response can be produced.

After a clear understanding of the "circle" context, we will work out a plan.

Take the initiative to find allies in the circle. Secondly, you should try to win some advantages for yourself. They include valuable time for breathing and turning around, as well as political alliances and stakes for political alliances.

You should believe that any circle is not rigid, because everyone's status is not exactly equal to his current needs.

Through keen observation and unremitting efforts, you can always find some allies in it.

The more resources you have, the more chances you will succeed and retain your status.

Harvard professor analyzed the example in the quiet Leadership: a new CEO in a hospital is facing a difficult personnel problem. The vice president who worked in the hospital for many years "committed something wrong".

The new CEO is deeply disgusted at this kind of act and wants to get rid of that guy immediately.

But if he hastily dismissuses him fiercely, as a "outsider in the circle", CEO will probably be dismissed first.

Therefore, she has chosen to prepare enough evidence to disregard the interests and disintegrate and gradually convince the internal core personnel.

Then he gave the vice president a large dismissal fee and forced him to resign automatically.

This practice not only successfully drove the opponent away, but also avoided the offense of other circles in a certain extent, maintained the stability and reputation of the hospital as much as possible, and established his prestige in the circle, laying the first cornerstone for him to stand firmly in hospital.

You also need to create opportunities and take the initiative. Finally, you need to master some flexible tactical skills, such as pushing forward gradually, such as changing rules, such as compromising hands.

Tough and tough means can certainly be caught off guard by the insiders, creating a capable image of "cutting the Gordian knot", but the side effects it brings are rather scary.

Your opponent is likely to have the determination to resist in the face of imminent pressure and unite unanimously, and you will easily fall into a passive position when you are surrounded by encirclement.

Therefore, a gentle and ingenious strategy may be the best solution at this time, and you can save a bit of victory to overcome the difficulties in front of you.

In the final analysis, we can regard the so-called quiet leader as a realist.

In the face of the big and small circles in the real world, we can only face it with a realistic attitude, respond with realistic strategies, and solve them with realistic means.

Perhaps, as an individual, there is no way to choose which circle to jump, but at least we can choose the way of jumping, and strive to achieve our purpose without getting swallowed up and get our true experience.