Praise Yourself If You Know How To Praise Yourself.

Case study:

East China is a marketing executive. He hates people who flatter people, and sees them feel vulgar and despise them. But all the benefits seem to have been gained by those people, so they are even more indignant.

At the sight of those people upset, there was a kind of melancholy which could not be said.

Analysis:

Flattery has always been regarded as filthy, but from a psychological point of view, flattery is a compliment to others.

In consultation, I found that those who hate flattery generally praise themselves very little, and often punish themselves and deny themselves.

When East China first participated in the company's early meeting, there was just a small step for everyone to learn to praise himself, such as "I am a very responsible person", "I believe in my abilities" and so on. These words are not very exaggerated, but he is very uncomfortable. He is very embarrassed. He feels so embarrassed and can not say it at all. In his own words, "thick skinned people say that", "these words need not be said out".

East China's dislike of flattery is a projection psychology, a person who can't praise himself, seldom praises others.

It is of course not pleasant to see those flattering people, just like praising themselves.

When others praise East China, he is very uncomfortable and feels that he is not so good. He even thinks others are sarcastic. When others say his shortcomings, he always thinks that he is very accurate.

He is always critical of others because he is not satisfied with himself.

The psychological crux of East China is self abased psychology. Inferiority can lead to behavior withdrawal, and the work is inflexible.

I suggest that East China should learn to praise itself, write its own merits or successful experiences on a beautiful card, read it regularly, encourage itself, turn a blind eye to what you thought previously, and create a good atmosphere of self suggestion.

East China doubted the effect of this method. I told him that self suggestion would work. In fact, his inferiority complex was the result of negative hints, but now he has changed the direction of hints.

Hint is a means, like a knife, can harm people, can also do surgery.

There are not many advertisements for melatonin, but it has made a profit of several hundred million in just a few years. The psychological reason is the effect of repeated hints, changing the way of advertising, appearing every day, forming a strong external hint atmosphere.

The influence of hints on a person's behavior is very large. It is the influence that happens imperceptibly.

Learn to praise yourself before you praise others.