How Does A Workplace Girl Have "Popularity"?

In the dormitory of Xiao Yue.

She has no friends.

The reason why she didn't like her was that she got the ping-pong sound when she came back from work in the middle of the night and seriously affected other people's rest. She loved to flock around other people's things and love to peek at other people's letters. She could not control her mouth, often gossiping in front of people; she talked with her boyfriend in the dormitory in the middle of the night, making her roommate change her clothes and sleep at a very inconvenient time; as for leftovers, she threw the most, but she always refused to clean up.

In real life, there are quite a few people who are not bad but have bad interpersonal relationships.

Society is a large group. In this large group, individuals do not exist in isolation but interact with others in a certain way.

The most basic function of interpersonal communication is to pmit information and exchange feelings, and gradually form a more harmonious social relationship.

Personally, communication and communication between personality are important ways and means to develop personality.

The development of personality means that individuals in a specific social and cultural environment form a personality suitable for social and cultural environment, and master the way of behavior recognized by the society.

Generally speaking, the factors influencing interpersonal communication and interpersonal relationship are in the following aspects:

(1) cultural background.

It mainly includes the language of communication, the difference of meaning, the difference of communication attitude, and the differences in educational level, cultural quality and civilization level.

All these factors can cause communication barriers.

This is a clear example of foreign language immigrant who can not make friends in a new environment at once.

(2) social background.

It mainly includes social status, social role, personal identity, age and gender.

In those days, Mr. Lu Xun pointed out that the oil giant in the United States had ever known the bitterness of the old woman who picked up the coal cinder in China.

It can be seen that disparate social differences inevitably affect interpersonal communication.

(3) ideas.

It mainly includes cognition, emotion, behavior and personality characteristics.

Specifically, the mindset, opinion, mood, temperament, personality, interest, values, conduct, ability and problem perspective can influence the depth and level of communication.

Research on interpersonal attractiveness shows that the proximity of communication partners, similarities in personality and attitudes, complementarity in needs and expectations, and superior ability and appearance can enhance attractiveness.

People who are popular with others who are willing to accept and interact with others are called "people in the world" in psychology.

According to foreign studies, popular people generally have the following characteristics: listening more than expressing, respecting others' privacy, but being humble, making bold mistakes and apologizing openly, not making excuses for their misconduct, but being partial to others, cherishing themselves and others.

The personality traits that are not popular with people's personality are obstacles to interpersonal attraction. They are: no respect for others, self centred, too utilitarian, too dependent, jealousy, inferiority, extreme, withdrawal, introverted incompatibility, hostility and so on.

Interpersonal and communication skills and art communication are not only a knowledge but also an art. Only by combining science and artistry can we improve the effect of communication and improve interpersonal relationship.

This knowledge includes norms, etiquette, customs and habits that must be followed in interpersonal communication, as well as communication skills and art of conversation. For example, proper calling should be given to people, courtesy should be called on to visit, festival should be greeted, conversation should be sincere, jokes and humor should be controlled.

In addition, good communication attitude and psychological preparation are also very important.

So, from a psychological point of view, what should be done to improve interpersonal relationships? The answer is four sentences:

One is to "treat oneself as someone else" (that is, to treat oneself with honor and disgrace as a normal mind, to regard one's gains and losses as honor or disgrace as someone else, and not to influence interpersonal relationships due to changes in one's mood).

The two is to "treat others as ourselves".

The three is to "treat others as others" (that is, respecting others, not interfering with each other's privacy, making personal distinction between inside and outside, men and women not offending each other).

Four, "regard yourself as yourself" (which means building self-esteem and self-confidence on the basis of self-knowledge, enhancing strengths and circumvent weaknesses, and getting along with others more mature).

A wise man points out that it is not easy to get the four sentences together, but if you have the heart to do it and try to do it, you will do better.