Should The Boss Be Friendly With His Employees?

Recently I saw an article entitled "should employers be compatible with employees?"

First, we need to figure out what is "affinity".

This is the key to the problem, otherwise the affinity will be regarded as vulgar and pedantic.

What is affinity? The core word is: kindness, kindness, affinity and harmony.

Its synonyms are: close, dear and friendly.

The sense of affinity gives people the feeling of sunshine, fraternity, warmth and comfort. Why can't the boss be compatible with employees?

Two, we need to figure out what is "affinity".

The word "affinity" is pplanted from other disciplines to modern management. Great! The correct explanation of "affinity" should be: the interaction force between two or more than two substances when they are combined into compounds.

It can be imagined that in the enterprise, bosses and employees are two kinds of material that take on two different roles and responsibilities. If they want to realize the value and vision of an enterprise, they must be combined into a "compound" through interaction. Only in this way can we form the "win the same desires" in Sun Tzu's art of war.

The key here is "interaction", and the force of interaction is "affinity".

May I ask: is there no affinity between employers and employees?

Three, we need to figure out what is called "affinity motivation".

Affinity motivation refers to the drive to interact with people on the basis of society.

Generally speaking, social psychology has three explanations for affinity motivation: first, moderate arousal level theory.

Two is the theory of instinct.

The three is the theory of conditioning.

Among them, the instinct theory holds that human beings are born with an affinity instinct, which is the driving force for generating ties and communication behaviors.

With her, the interpersonal relationships within the enterprise are harmonious, otherwise, they are nervous.

Taking infant and mother's relationship as an example, the primary driving force of a baby's attachment to its mother is hunger and thirst. When the mother breastfeed the baby, the infant connects the mother with the warm and comfortable feelings, and the infant is connected with the happy situation for countless times.

Through this conditioning process, infants gradually learn to "love" their mothers, and then gradually extend their love to other people. Finally, the motivation to associate with others, to associate with others, and to be accompanied by others becomes a habit.

And this "habit" helps the team form in the enterprise.

Four, we need to figure out what is called "affinity management".

The so-called "affinity management" is close to the friendly and friendly management.

This way of management varies according to industry and enterprise.

But the essence must be "affinity".

The puzzle that once puzzled the United States and Europe was: Why did the post-war economic recovery and development in Japan become so fast? After investigation and research, they were shocked by the fact that their secret was "family affinity management".

Five, we must figure out what is "management authority".

Some people have written articles against the compatibility between employers and employees, and even have given a big reason to push them far fetched.

For example, "affinity will lead to a retrogression of the company, which is not conducive to the implementation of the company's system."

Also said: "boss and staff affinity, will lose management authority."

Wait.

After hearing this, do you believe it? I don't want to do more theory. I just want to give an example to illustrate it.

Wu Qi, a general during the Warring States period, shared the same clothes with the lower ranks of soldiers.

When sleeping, they did not spread mats. When they marched, they did not ride their horses. They personally carried away the dry food, and shared the pain with the soldiers.

On one occasion, a soldier had an abscess on his body. In order not to inflamed the wound of the soldier, Wu Qi, who was commander in chief of the army, personally used his mouth to suck pus and blood for the soldiers.

Wu Qi is very popular in the army because he loves soldiers and soldiers, which is a major aspect of his army. But this does not damage or impede his authority and his strict laws.

In one battle, a soldier fought bravely without receiving orders, and seized two heads of the enemy.

The officer in charge of the military law said, "general, we must not kill. This is a valiant soldier."

Wu Qi said, "a valiant soldier is not false, but if he does not obey my commands, he must be executed."

Wu Qi's love of soldiers and strict laws enable soldiers to be grateful and serve, enabling the army to command and fight more effectively.

Six, we need to figure out what is "relative affinity".

Everything has two sides, the boss is friendly with the staff, and the implementation of affinity management is no exception.

If "affinity" goes too far and loses its due degree, good will become bad.

The so-called "relative affinity" is the exclusion of "absolute affinity".

The principle of absolute loss of affinity can interfere with orderly and systematic work, avoid conflict and competition, and sometimes form sects.

Therefore, the promotion of "affinity management" must also pay attention to the possible negative effects.

Only by making such questions clear can people have a clear understanding of the question of whether employers should be compatible with their employees.

This helps the management of enterprises.