Workplace Psychology: You Can't Simply Be A Yes Man.

The most important thing we do every day is to choose.

No, no, no, no matter who is good, who do you support?

When we choose the mental state of the two election or choose the best among several closed options, can we encounter every problem like this?

But many times, those seemingly simple decisions are not easy.

In Tongfu Inn, there is always a similar Drama: Tong Xiangyu, a female boss, always likes to discuss with his subordinates when he is in trouble, and strives for democracy. It is very important to know whether Beckham's future is going to be martial arts, who is going to leave or not, who is going to be the only crab to eat.

If there are too many differences of opinion among the participants, there is no way to argue with each other.

When it comes to the need for one person and one vote to make a stand, whether it is Lao Bai, Guo Kuo, Xiu Cai or big mouth, "I" must come out from the background of "we", and face the audience's scrutiny and judgment under the illumination of the lighting, and bear the consequences of the choice.

There is a kind of person who expresses his opinion on the basis of his judgment and feelings at the first time.

They are very temperate, and choose whichever one is good.

Another kind of person, his (her) opinion will always be influenced by others. Even if they feel better again, think about whether others will feel the same way, whether their choices bring unhappiness or trouble to others, or even what others will think about their choices.

In other words, these people's opinions are easy to be influenced by the outside world.

It seems a bit general. Let's catch a few typical stories in the drama.

Bai exhibition hall and Tong Xiangyu, Guo Furong and Lv Xiucai, these two pairs of children are the interests community that can not be separated in the office.

Because of the good relationship, even if it is just because of their feelings, they will have more or less scruples in expressing their opinions.

For example, in the question of whether Beckham learns martial arts, the boss of the Tong who voted against it needs only one look. Lao Bai firmly raised his right hand and became a supporter of her opinion. Xiao Guo, who had advocated learning martial arts, was only lightly coughing.

Love is indeed a kind of pressure. The eyes thrown by friends are full of anticipation, as if they say, "you should be on my side."

This kind of thing is not uncommon in the workplace.

A friend was asked to form a temporary team to tackle the project. In that big team, it not only meant honor, but also directly related to the size of the red envelope at the end of the year.

After repeated consideration, she probably had a list of her own, all of whom were the backbone of the group.

At the meeting, as she read the list, she secretly observed the reaction of her friend Z. Z kept staring at her. Her eyes were full of anticipation, with some blames, as if she were saying, "why don't you choose me?"

At the last minute, she decided to add the name of Z at the end of the list.

Unexpectedly, it is reasonable.

Another example is Li Dazui, who is concerned about how to be consistent with his superiors.

Several votes, no matter what he threw, he firmly stood on the side of the landlady, without hesitation.

There is a word called "establishing consistency", that is to say, as a subordinate, you should know clearly what matters the boss is concerned about and what is particularly important for the work. The boss's urgent handling must be placed in the priority position of your schedule, and the boss's negation will be stopped even if you are not satisfied.

Under the "consistency" rule, many people do not dare to express their opinions easily. They always have an ambiguous attitude and hope to find out the good and evil of the leaders before making a decision.

In reality, some people are well versed in this way.

To give a simple example, the colleagues proposed to go to the Sichuan cuisine hall to have a dinner. The boss just asked "very spicy bar". Some people jumped out of the "current situation" and objected loudly: "I have a stomach upset recently. Let's have something light."

You have to sigh for his astute -- never take the lead in making a stand, but wait for the mainstream idea to come out.

It's a little too complicated to look at people's eyes even for a small meal.

In the relationship between subordinates and subordinates, the independent judgment of the individual has once again yielded. The opinion of the leader is always correct, and the leader's sense of good is really good. The values of the leader determine everyone's likes and dislikes in the team.

In such an atmosphere, if you can master this technology, you may really be able to go all the way and get some success in your career development.

But what if there is an accident?

The development of personal and team development on a certain person is a great risk in itself. It can make your boss go faster and farther on the wrong road. Even though you can get some sweet things in front of you, in the end, if things go wrong, you will eventually lose yourself.

"Workplace Code: Article 1: the boss is always right; second: if you find the boss is wrong, please refer to the first."

This statement emphasizes the boss's absolute leadership over employees, but it does not mean that all instructions issued by the boss to you must be carried out.

Therefore, "consistency" is not simply a leader's voice, but a free expression based on communication. It helps the boss see the opportunities and risks behind a decision and tries to improve it.

Of course, communication also pays attention to skills, and no good advice should be made to lead the public in public.

It is human nature to grasp a good sense of propriety.

No matter whether it is kidnapped by family friendships or succumbed to the relationship between superior and subordinate, it is obvious that some people's opinions and attitudes are easily influenced by external factors.

They care too much about what others think of themselves, and too much on pursuit of harmony between themselves and the environment.