Confidence: A Successful Vitamin In The Workplace.
Preface:
There are such people around us. They are mentally at the disadvantage of interpersonal interaction. They are afraid of dealing with strangers, not being able to put forward demands simply, dare not to deal with others' challenges, and unable to communicate very well.
In fact, we ourselves will inevitably have such doubts: what kind of person am I? What am I doing? What can I do? What do I want? Is it right for me to do so?
It can be said that when self cognition is perplexed to a certain extent, when one's ideal is far from reality, a person will have great psychological conflict and pain.
All this stems from a person's lack of real self-confidence.
Even in the eyes of some people, he is not good enough, because he does not accept himself.
Acceptance of oneself is a prerequisite for finding a balance, maintaining inner motivation and happiness.
The process of accepting oneself is to set up the process of true self-confidence.
A person's success and happiness will ultimately depend on his self-confidence.
How do you shape yourself? How do you integrate yourself? How do you find your own advantages? How do you not overly care about the evaluation and influence of others? How can you not be controlled by others' psychology? How do you like "me" and "me" and confidently explore "me" so that you can truly become "yourself"?
Professor Hu Yi Fu, a famous business management expert, said
self-confidence
It is the prerequisite to defeat the setbacks and to win the opportunity, and it is also a practical method.
Believe in yourself and believe in tomorrow.
It doesn't matter if you are not confident today. I believe you will be confident tomorrow through your efforts.
Like the index finger "believe in the future".
I believe that the future is not just sitting and waiting, but actively striving to achieve the desired future.
"It is not because some things are difficult to achieve that we lose self-confidence, but because we lose self-confidence, so some things seem difficult to achieve."
At the forefront of the article, let's look at a case first.
Sophia, a famous film star in Italy who is famous for world cinema.
Roland has become the focus of attention.
Movie star
It is inseparable from her affirmation of her worth and her confidence.
In order to survive and love the film industry, Roland, sixteen, came to Rome to set foot in the movie world.
Unexpectedly, the first auditioning failed, and all the photographers said she could not reach the standard of beauty, and complained about her nose and buttocks.
No way, director Carol Ponty had to call her.
Office
I suggest that she cut her hips a little and shorten her nose a little.
In general, many actors listen to the director.
However, Roland, at a very young age, was very courageous and opinionated and refused the request of the other side.
She said, "of course I understand because my appearance is quite different from the famous actresses who have already become famous. They are all outstanding, with good features, but I am not.
I have too many problems on my face, but these problems will be more attractive.
If we have a lump on the nose, I will not hesitate to remove it.
But it is unreasonable to say my nose is too long, because I know that the nose is the main part of the face, and it makes the face special.
I like the way my nose and face look.
To tell the truth, my face is really different, but why do I have to be like others? I want to keep my true colors. I don't want to change anything.
It was precisely because of Loran's insistence that the director Carol Ponty re examined and truly recognized Sophia Roland, and began to understand her and appreciate her.
Roland did not listen to the photographer's words, did not give up her personality to cater for others, and did not lose confidence because of others, so she was able to fully display her distinctive beauty in the movie.
Moreover, her unique appearance and enthusiasm, cheerful and bold temperament began to be recognized.
Later, she starred in the film "two women" has been a great success, and so she won the Oscar best actress award.
Let's look at another case. Mike, the greatest salesman in the United States, used to be a newspaper clerk.
When he first came to the newspaper office as an advertising salesman, he did not pay his salary, he only commissions on advertising fees.
He made a list to prepare to visit some very special customers.
Before going to visit these customers, Mike went to the park, read the list of customers 100 times, and then said to himself, "before this month, you will buy me the advertising page."
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In the first week, he traded with 3 of the 12 "impossible" customers, and in the second week, he traded 5 pactions; by the end of the first month, only 12 of the 12 customers had not yet bought his advertisement.
In second months, Mike did not visit new customers. Every morning, when the store that refused to buy his advertisement opened the door, he went in and asked the businessman to advertise. But every morning, the businessman replied, "no!" every time, when the businessman said "no", Mike pretended not to hear it, and then went on to visit the last day of the month.
Mike, who has been saying "no" for 30 days, said, "you have wasted a month to ask me to buy your advertisement. Now I want to know why you want to do so."
Mike said, "I am not wasting my time. I am in school, and you are my teacher. I have been training my confidence."
The businessman nodded, and then Mike said, "I will admit to you that I am also at school, and you are my teacher.
You have taught me to stick to this lesson. For me, it is more valuable than money. In order to express my gratitude to you, I want to buy an advertisement page for you as the tuition I pay you.
Hu Yi Fu, a famous business management expert, often sees such confidence in his lectures and videos on some training lecturers: "self-confidence is to believe in yourself" and "tell yourself that you are the best!" you will be the best! "" you feel you can do it, you can do it; you feel you can't do it; you really can't do it! "And" always believe that you are the best! "And" if you believe you can succeed, you will succeed ".
Wait.
At first glance, these words are very encouraging.
Under certain circumstances, they can really inspire our confidence.
But I don't think this is true self-confidence.
So, what is real confidence? Let's look at a story first -- the story of selling an ax to the president.
The Bruce Institute, famous for its outstanding salesmen, will design a topic that best reflects salesmen's abilities when they graduate.
During Clinton's administration, they had a question: Please sell a pair of briefs to the incumbent president.
In the past 8 years, countless students had racked their brains, but finally failed.
When President George W. Bush was in office, Bruce learned to change the title: Please sell an ax to the incumbent president.
Faced with this problem, many students quit, but a student named George Herbert met with difficulties.
He wrote a letter to President Bush. He said, once I had the pleasure of visiting your farm, I found that there were many chrysanthemums and some of them were dead. You must have an axe to cut it down.
Now I have an axe left by my grandfather, which is very suitable for your physical strength to cut down dead trees. If you are interested, please remit 15 dollars to the address of this letter.
He succeeded, and the president remitted 15 dollars to him.
People asked him why he dared to do it. He said, I know the president and his farm, so I have this confidence.
Hu Yifu, an expert in business management, believes that the above student's letter can not be said to be very high, and skills can not be said to be wonderful. Bruce's ability to learn is not the best. So what leads to his success? I think the main factor is self-confidence.
On the contrary, the common drawback of poor salesmen is their lack of confidence.
Without self-confidence, there is no courage; without courage, business is cold; business can not be done, but less confident.
How do you do it, Hu Yifu suggests: improve your mental state, and customers will greet you with anticipation.
At this point, the salesman's success has come.
Therefore, to be a salesperson is to build self-confidence, mainly from the following aspects to build self-confidence.
1, self confidence
Learn to feel the sense of achievement in the dribs and drabs of your work.
Only when you realize your achievements every day can you have the confidence and courage to go on. Self-confidence is not pride.
It is completely different from the arrogant feeling of empty stomach and heavy weight. Self confidence is rooted in the sense of knowledge, ability and strategy.
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2. Professional confidence.
Salesperson is not a humble occupation, it is a noble and meaningful occupation. It is a kind of occupation that provides convenience and convenience for the customers. It is precisely because of the hard work of salesmen that people have more time to feel and enjoy life.
We should have a correct understanding of the salesperson's occupation and have full confidence in this profession.
3. Confidence in the company
I believe that the company is a promising company and a company that always provides customers with the best products and services.
4, confidence in commodities
In the entire sales process, do not have doubts about the products you sell, and believe that the goods you sell are excellent products.
Some poor salesmen blamed the cause on the merchandise.
However, any company or any commodity has sales outstanding salesmen, each company has a sales champion.
As a qualified salesperson, there are many things to learn. The so-called attitude decides the choice, chooses the decision behavior, the behavior decides the reward, the reward decides the life.
To build up self-confidence, Hu Yifu advises friends to exercise the following six aspects, believing that you will find the source of self-confidence.
1, communication (Communication):
Have the ability to express yourself in order to get what you want, what you need and deserve.
2, concept (concept):
Pay attention to yourself and your life.
3, ability (competence):
Take an active part in activities that bring talents and good feelings.
4, contribution (contribution):
Through some actions, I feel that I am influential and have made some changes.
5, management (control):
He can dominate himself and his life.
6, courage (COURAGE):
Have the ability to overcome your fears and make some wise adventures.
Every day shouting "I can be better than others" and "I most flatter" are not real self-confidence.
Confidence builds on the basis of proper positioning, strengths and weaknesses, and has become the best belief and belief of oneself.
Hu believes that how self-confidence is made:
Believe that life is good for me.
Do what you like and do;
- let positive and open mind dominate;
Self confidence has also become a habit.
Finally, Mr. Hu sent a sentence to every student: self-confidence is the "vitamin" of success in the workplace.
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