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Experts say they may suffer from a mental disorder called workplace autism.

What is workplace autism?

Because of the fast pace of work and life in modern society, many people suffer from "autism" phenomenon in the workplace due to environmental and pressure reasons.

Its main performance is: usually alone, do not like to communicate with others, just like a person to head back to stay, whenever any social occasions feel awkward.

Because they are not good at words or too low key, they are easily marginalized by their colleagues. They are also struggling with communication and communication with their leaders. It is even more difficult for them to interact with their customers.

Make a personal example as an effective means of convincing others:

Isolated as "pparent people"

This time we invited Ella, a media business, Yu Kai, a communications company, and Sofia, who worked in a joint venture, to talk about the topic of "autism".

They all belong to the type of "silence is golden", and they do not deny that they have the tendency of "self closing".

Question 1: why do not you like to communicate with others in your work?

Ella: maybe it's because of "half a word".

There are many outsiders in the Department, and the age gap is also very large. I am never interested in the topics they discuss. They will also feel puzzled by what I say. As time passes, I simply stop talking.

Yu Kai: in the office, I am not deliberate. This is the way I am.

Apart from work, I am the standard "otaku".

Sofia: the bottom is not enough. I'm afraid there are more mistakes.

I entered the company for about half a year, and everyone in the company was very powerful. I was ashamed to have several exchanges of work. Even when I walked, I used to lower my head.

Question 2: will "autism" bring trouble to work?

Ella: Yes.

It was "marginalized".

They won't be able to attend to meetings, attendance and attendance. They won't even tell me about entertainment and entertainment arranged by the company.

Yu Kai: it is certain that leaders are not popular. This is true. Leaders like people who are talkative. Like me, they can't hide from leaders. Naturally, they do not get favors. Their performance is good, and the speed of promotion and salary increase is very slow.

Sofia: once, they became "pparent people" in the eyes of their colleagues.

The Department solicited opinions on a project. I was very prepared for that project, but I didn't even have the chance to speak freely. I was directly ignored.

proposal

The four trick is to teach you to get out of the autism.

Coup 1: examine yourself for reasons

Yu Xiaoqian believes that when you find yourself starting to have "autism" tendency, first of all, you need to have a closer look at why you have such a situation.

Awareness is the first step in change.

Looking at yourself, is it too much pressure or inferiority complex?

Or is there any dissatisfaction with work?

Then do some processing and adjustment.

Coup 2: raise your mouth and smile at others.

Learning to smile is a very effective way.

"If a person hangs on the face of a person who owes his money at all times, he will be cold to the person, which will make the people around him feel inrespected. It is not polite and self-cultivation in everyday life or at work."

Yu Xiaoqian said, "therefore, if it is difficult to communicate with colleagues enthusiastically, it can at least change the radian of the corners of the mouth and smile at others all the time, so that others will easily feel intimacy and gradually increase their interaction and communication."

Coup 3: find jobs that match your character.

"In fact, everyone can get on with their talents. It is a mistake to challenge their weaknesses."

Yu Xiaoqian said.

If a person with introverted character sells jobs like that, he will feel uncomfortable and not easy to do well.

If it is a person who is good at thinking, or likes to express himself in words or pictures, doing the work that suits his character can not only make himself comfortable, but also find people around him who are similar to himself. The way of communicating with each other will be similar and easy to get along with.

Coup 4: relax and accept yourself.

Yu Xiaoqian said, like to use words and other ways to communicate, can be said to be introverted personality characteristics, there is no problem, does not mean that this is the autism.

Introverted characters like quiet, like to be alone or with a few close friends, and speak less in public, but this does not mean self closing.

Introverts and extroverted personalities are natural tendencies. Each has its own advantages and disadvantages, and there are no good or bad points.

It is only when we are too introverted, or even avoid normal and necessary contacts, can we become autistic.

Viewpoints

"Workplace autism" can lead to "sub health" in body and mind.

Yu Xiaoqian, a psychologist at Beijing's epples consulting, believes that workplace autism is mainly related to personality.

One is a person who does not trust too much. Because of their unpleasant experience in growing up, they lead to a lack of sense of security, or because they have experienced some injuries in interpersonal relationships, so they are too vigilant and distrust to others, and try to reduce contact with people. It is very difficult to open their hearts and communicate sincerely and openly.

Another kind of person is because of inferiority complex, he feels that his character or ability is flawed, and he does not want to be deeply acquainted with others. He is afraid that the deep friendship will make others aware of their own shortcomings and thus close themselves up.

High pressure can lead to self closing.

Some external influences can also lead to autism.

"For example, because of the great pressure of work, a person can only immerse himself in daily tedious work everyday, especially in some frequent and close service occupations. If there is high pressure or negative emotional experience day after day, energy is used to cope with the mental stress brought by work, and because of the protection of self energy, it will be alienated or indifferent to the people around."

Yu Xiaoqian told reporters, "there are still some people who are bored with their work, such as job weariness because they are not suitable for work. They often respond to their interpersonal relationships in a passive and passive way."

In addition, if a unit's overall working environment is bad, interpersonal relationships are tense, or mutual trust is lacking, it can easily lead to reluctant communication among colleagues.

Self closing or inefficient work

Yu Xiaoqian believes that workplace autism will affect personal health first.

Because a person who seldom exchanges with others is difficult to understand and support others in their work or in emotion. It may be difficult to get rid of difficulties and pressures in time, so they may be in a state of sub-health.

In addition, when a person avoids direct communication with colleagues or leaders, poor communication leads to inefficient work.

When a person treats his colleagues coldly, it is a discordant factor in the whole group, and may even affect the overall working atmosphere.