7 Strokes Skillfully Cope With The Trouble In Work.

1, pain comes from

It is not our job but our heart that we should examine.

"Why do people live?"

This question is more than usual.

Living is not a special reason, as long as it can "live".

So, what is the best way to live?

It is true that all people want to live a happy life without being entangled in pain.

But what about our real life?

People believe that two people are happier than living alone, so they choose marriage, but then they are driven by the desire of marriage.

But is it happy to be single?

No, because people are driven by loneliness.

2, work away from

Every goal and ideal brings vitality and torment.

Although walking on the job market is for money, its meaning is more than that.

Idle life is disdained, because we all believe that a person must have a goal, and only in the process of working towards the goal can he be full of vigour and vitality and forge ahead and benefit from this process.

But each goal and ideal will impose on you endless pain at the same time.

A shop opened with joy, but in the process of running a storefront, it would be entangled with sorrow. Similarly, it was accepted by a company, but then followed by depression.

All situations are good and bad.

What determines the sudden change between heaven and hell?

People pour out all kinds of anguish on me, but in fact, there is only one purpose, that is, "I want to do what I want and do what I want to do."

It is better to be accepted at an interview; if you do enough, you can easily get away; if you want to get promoted, you can get promoted as you wish.

You are unhappy because things are not as smooth as you expected.

The gap between reality and fantasy will surely make you lose.

In fact, if you think about it carefully, you will understand that workplace is neither a paradise nor a hell. It is just a pure workplace.

But it is a paradise for those who want to enter, and it is a hell for those who want to come out.

We regard it as hell and expect to escape every day, but if we think about how to arbitrage every hour at work, then the life of our workplace will be more difficult than that of the three autumn days.

It can be seen that depression is from the heart, not the workplace.

3, work and character is not right!

Trouble and hatred come from your ambition.

What should I do when my work and personality are not in the right place?

In fact, it is only one sentence: why do we still try to make up for what we like when we change our business?

One word: money.

Work and personality are poles apart, but they cannot be allowed to let go. The reason is that they can protect you from food and clothing.

If you do your dream, you may be paid little or nothing.

So, you convince yourself that you can't tolerate it when you read it.

Do many teachers and administrators in Nepal or Philippines come to Han Guolai to do odd jobs? Is it because they are suitable for their personality?

Of course not.

The reason is that although they do odd jobs here, they earn more than they do in their own countries.

Do girls who work in restaurants or bars are really willing to wait for men to go for pleasure?

Of course not. To do this is just for money.

They will not be engaged in these occupations for life. Instead, they look forward to gathering enough money in a short time to develop their talents.

Dear readers, if you go deep into your heart, you will find that your distress and hatred towards the current disks are actually your ambition.

You dream of having such a job: both in your personality and in your remuneration.

But this is not the case.

It's hard to keep up with your current job. You may quit your job today, and look for the job you want.

"We will never change our minds by hiring thousands of gold."

Have you ever had such an idea?

Since you think so, do it.

Perhaps you would say, now that the economy is so depressed, how can I quit my job casually?

Employment is very difficult, but with a little effort, you will not starve yourself.

Even if you go to the cleaners and do a short part-time job, you can guarantee your meals.

What are the reasons for working on complaining?

That is, this job is not bad at all. It is difficult to find a better one.

Although it was hard to complain, it did not leave. It was actually out of concern for your current situation.

The heart is unwilling, but the original hesitation is entirely its own choice.

It is the crux of the problem that the pain is attributed to others after the choice is made by oneself.

Desire should end on demand.

There is no qualitative "me" in the world.

Just like the water without shape, it changes its shape with the difference of utensils.

The highest state of spiritual practice is called "pformation", which means that the followers are flexible in their causes.

Arrange for you to do cleaning, let everything shine up; ask you to sing, you readily promise, low posture, such a life is also comfortable.

People need money, but if they can earn money without becoming slaves, they will always have the master's attitude before they can have fun in labor.

4, work makes me angry!

Right or wrong, the original is inconclusive.

Where does the fire come from?

There must be such a person. His words and deeds are intolerable to you.

Did these words and deeds arouse everyone's anger?

Not exactly.

Some people are hard to accept, but others don't think so.

Only considering your own position, his words and deeds are really hateful.

For example, when Christians express their opinions on certain issues, they are convinced by their partners, but the Buddhists next to them may not be very straightforward.

Some of the policies announced by the president have been shaking their heads in some areas, and people in some areas applaud.

It can be seen that it is not that someone's words and actions have aroused your anger, but it has caused you an illusion when compared with your position.

That is to say, it is not that he makes you angry, but that you are angry when you hear it.

Anger is because you think "I'm wrong with him," so anger is actually a reaction when you are too obsessed with your own opinions or values.

So, if you don't get angry, you can put down the idea that I am right.

The same is true of individuals. When you are a parent, you have a child and a half girl, and then deeply feel your parents' mood. Then you will suddenly understand that when you were young, you were sure that it was inflexible. It was all wrong.

There is no right or wrong in the world.

When you are angry, you should know how to reflect on yourself. I am stubborn again. I think only you are right.

This is a kind of practice.

5, boss is too wicked!

This is a conflict between superiority and inferiority complex.

A 35 year old woman asked me how to get along with her female boss.

"The female bosses of a company are unpredictable in their mood and do nothing in their work. They only follow their own temperament and never worry about other people's feelings."

But what really distressed her was, "but it seems that the bigger problem is on me.

I was hoping that she would recognize my ability and pay attention to me.

I can't even stand her attention to other colleagues.

If I can't see her after work, I will also think, "yes, she is just one of the senior and all day long wandering beings."

She needs me to recognize and love poor people.

"It seems that I can understand her irascible temper, but as soon as the company sees her, she looks at her eyes and acts in a confused way, and makes mistakes repeatedly.

"To analyze this woman's question, first of all, she thinks her boss has problems, and thinks that he wants to behave himself in front of the boss.

In fact, she was mistakenly thinking that her boss was a problem, and that there was no need to worry about her boss's opinion.

First of all, we must take off the colored glasses, and know that no matter what unforgivable things this person has said, what is unforgivable is only a few words and actions.

In fact, you are using your own values to measure whether someone else's life is tilted.

It is not that she is torturing you, but that you are judging others' right or wrong and torturing yourself.

No matter what she says or does, it is her own life. You have to realize that you are interfering in other people's life.

Your daughter can't grow up according to your expectations, and what about your boss?

Secondly, "we must believe that everyone is a noble and precious existence. We should look at it with dignity and live with dignity."

This sense of self-esteem will make you respect others, understand and accept others.

The reason why you regard your boss as a bad person is the conclusion that you are entangled in "me".

It is arrogant to judge the world with your own thoughts.

If a person has pride, he will eventually go to the opposite side, humble.

People who are obsessed with money will despise people who have no money, but people who are richer than themselves will become humble.

It's like two sides of copper coin.

Everyone has a sense of superiority and inferiority complex.

People will produce "exaggeration and delusion" because of their sense of superiority, because of their inferiority complex, they will produce "delusion of victimization".

These two kinds of psychology often follow each other. Many people commit suicide under the alternation of two kinds of psychological problems. At the same time, they are prone to cynicism. They often make arbitrary killing and arson and shoot innocent pedestrians on the street. This is a more serious mental illness than physical illness.

Cleft lip children can not see their own appearance, they could have had a good time, but everyone who saw the child frowned and said, "how does this child look like this?"

From then on, the child gradually realized that he was flawed and his inferiority complex came into being.

If people are not able to go to primary schools and run into mountains and forests, it is not a problem to read illiterate. The former high school graduates can also straighten their waist. But in the trend of everyone reading the University, people who do not read the University have a sense of inferiority. So what will happen to everyone after studying abroad?

In fact, there is no distinction between good and bad in objective existence.

6, there is no future goal.

Don't give life too much meaning.

A 35 year old unmarried woman has been very uneasy because she feels that she has no definite plans and goals for the future.

My suggestion is to observe the natural world. The earth moves around the sun. What is the purpose of its pursuit?

The answer does not need to be explored, because the earth has turned this way.

Let's look at the living things on the earth again. What is the reason for this?

What are the elk and rabbit jumping up and down?

Why do lions and lions live?

There is nothing mysterious, but this is only their way of existence.

Human beings are the same. From the standpoint of animals, they are also interpreting their way of existence.

Even if we live without thought, there will be a slight deviation from the natural order and the inevitable process of the life circle.

This is not the degeneration of human dignity, nor the collapse of natural order. Even if your life has no goals, there is no need to panic.

Too much meaning and expectation for life is bound to become restless.

Just this morning, I enjoyed a delicious breakfast. What else do I have to worry about?

7, I am really tired.

Everything must be moderate.

It is a pity that health will be slowly damaged, and it is a pity, but it is not a good thing to do without fruit.

The word "life" in the Korean language is strictly said to have come from the word "use".

If some of the utensils we use can't be used again, it means to end up, and the so-called life, that is, can be used.

Life must be used for society and others.

If you don't play your part in the company, you assume an inactive role.

So we must give full play to our value, but we must have a degree.

Why does workload increase inevitably?

Because you have a huge salary, you have to bear the corresponding amount of labor.

A lot of work is arranged by your superiors. If you do not create the corresponding value, you will be fired.

A person's ability is limited, but his desire is boundless, and he always yearns for more than his ability. Therefore, although he has entered a large enterprise, he can not undertake the work corresponding to this salary, resulting in tremendous pressure.

Others are low on you, which may make you feel uncomfortable, but if you listen to a lot of exaggerated praise, you will gradually bear the pressure.

In order to deserve the praise, you have to work hard to complete the work beyond your abilities.

Being overrated in the workplace, you have to worry about how to live up to expectations.

In fear, he was afraid to expose his true strength, and his face was still bluffing and confident. This kind of inconsistency was disturbing, so there were not many people suffering from mental illness.

If doctors provide free medical care for patients, will he have any pressure?

The answer is that it will be refreshing to work for 20 hours because he has no worries at all.

But if you accept tens of millions of Yuan's medical expenses, you will never be able to relax your heart. If you get rid of the fetters of money, "doctors are just doing everything and listening to destiny."

If you want to open it and put it down, you can feel safe and efficient.