Eight Laws Make Good People.

It's strange to be with people.

Some people, enthusiasm, but encounter "hot face, cold butt"; some people are honest, but can harvest many real friends; some people, "smiling face tiger type" cunning, think that you can play other people in the palm of your hand, but are being played with; some people, without a word, but a great surprise; some people are exaggerate every day, but no one is talking about it.

Interpersonal communication is knowledge.

If you despise him, he can sit on top of ten thousand people under one person.

In fact, there are some rules for interpersonal communication. For everyone's own characteristics, we can always find the principle of "survival".

1, the first cause effect: first meeting makes people feel good.

A lot of companies also have a sense of uniformity in their business attire, so that customers can see that the company's behavior and people are unified, resulting in a stronger sense of trust.

2, the law of integrity: enthusiasm is the focus and sincerity is the highest point.

Honesty is the core of human interaction.

People and people both judge and judge their habits and hobbies, but honesty is often "one vote veto".

Being enthusiastic is just a superficial thing. Otherwise, why is there a saying that "the surface is called the elder brother, the fuck behind" is that there is no honesty behind the enthusiasm, so in the end, it can only be separated from each other.

It is not easy to be sincere.

True, it is true, not false, one is one or two is two, do not deceive the superiors, seek truth from facts; honesty, not only honesty, but also loyalty.

Loyal people often gain more friendship and trust.

Mutual trust is the foundation of mutual cooperation. With confidence, we can not be suspicious. We dare to let go and authorize.

Be a real person, be an upright person and be a reassuring person.

3, the law of praise: good praise can win the hearts of the people.

Compliments are free lunches.

Praise yourself first, you must dare to put aside your airs. Do not think that the world is yours. In fact, people in society are more like ants.

This requires a correct understanding of oneself, and a person's personal ability is stronger than that of the team and society.

To put a man who thinks he is super strong in an isolated island is not equal to an ordinary Islander.

Secondly, have the courage to speak loudly and praise.

Many people, secretly admire each other, like a crush on a beautiful woman, but have been unable to drum up enough courage to tell each other, and the result is that beautiful women are not as good as others.

In fact, think of other men have their own advantages, courage is a little better than themselves.

There is a saying, "love is bold enough to speak out"; when I say, praise is always loud and loud.

Finally, we must cultivate and respect others from the bottom of our hearts.

If you do not want to praise, it is often your heart that thinks you are stronger than the other side, and what it means to say something hypocritical. That is to overestimate yourself.

The more capable people are, the more subtle they are.

They often do this to buy people more.

And you are self righteous, watching and watching fewer and fewer friends. There are still some people laughing and laughing around. At the critical moment, they run faster than the rabbits.

It is not easy to get a confidant and willing to give everything to you. Is it easy to die for you like ancient times? What is the biggest difference between Liu Bang and Xiang Yu in starting a business?

4, the law of face: to give face is good communication.

Face is a wonderful thing, almost all people love this, some people are even obsessed.

In fact, from Maslow's hierarchy of needs, it is a respectable and recognized demand.

People live in the world, mostly for the sake of face. He is not hypocrisy, but the real demand accompanied by human development.

Do not despise the face saving people, such people can often do things for themselves; such people are often the people who know the truth, but also the people who are worth trading.

Human communication is a paction in itself.

Then you have to find the right trading partner. Only partnership can sustain the long-term interests.

Just like honesty, it is the foundation of communication between people.

Face saving is also a foundation for face saving.

If you give me face, I will give you face.

Courtesy and reciprocity, coming and going, coming and going, indecent!

5, the law of lies: goodwill lies in helping people to communicate.

Lies can't work for women, but in interpersonal relationships, they are "lubricants".

Some things, if you tell the truth, will arouse contradictions; some words, you have a strategic expression, you can "turn into hostility", that is the charm of language, in fact, the effectiveness of white lies.

Lies must be well intentioned, which is difficult to grasp in interpersonal communication.

When a lie becomes a true lie, you will be deserted and rejected.

Therefore, good intentions are principled, and do not intensify contradictions, do no harm to others, and do not "secretly steal".

If an honest lie, if a frank lie, even to be exposed, can be understood and understanding.

Such lies are powerful, otherwise lies are scourge.

6, the law of tolerance: tolerance can create harmony.

Ancient words: small can not bear to mess up.

This shows how important it is to tolerate at a critical moment.

Zhang Liang told Liu Bang that the banquet must be tolerated, otherwise Liu Bang's little life would be gone.

Often, those who are able to tolerate can achieve great cause.

Women are more tolerant than men, so women insist on staying longer than men in marriage.

Women tend to love one, just like a single flower, a man, love one, forget one, "this mountain looks at the mountain high."

There is also a saying called "tolerance", not only to endure, but also to hide properly, so that people can not find your patience.

Imagine that this is more difficult than your tolerance. You must swallow your pain and smile on your face.

"King Yue" Gou Jian is a typical example, so it will be read for thousands of years.

Tolerance of a moment's atmosphere can create a harmonious atmosphere.

Let others harmony, others will be lost in mind, then ultimately get the real benefit is yourself.

Remember what Zhang Liang said to Liu Bang? Let's make the project happy.

Xiang Yu was so happy that he could not even hear fan Zeng.

So who is the ultimate benefit? It must be Liu Bang!

7, heterosexual effect: men and women are attractive to each other.

God created men and women, hoping that something could happen between them, so there was attraction between the opposite sex itself.

In interpersonal communication, some people are restraining this desire, and properly grasp and handle the relationship with the opposite sex.

Some people, however, are blatant in playing such dubious ways. They often burn their own butt when they are playing big.

Middle aged men prefer such attraction and intentionally or unintentionally such ambiguity.

The young girl can be kept in touch, but she will not be able to last.

But now, young people's "openness and indifference" have given middle-aged men "opportunities".

One is ostentatious, the other is enjoying it, when it will start, and when it will end.

Heterosexual, in interpersonal communication, sometimes will start to "paint the finishing touch", of course, destructive power is also equivalent to "atomic bomb".

How many executives have been sacked, the point of departure is the mishandling of heterosexual relations, and how many families break down from "little three" and "Little Four".

This relationship is difficult to handle and grasp, so some people stay away from it.

When necessary, lease, a project ended, not mutually owe.

This way, this operation is better! Ha ha!

8, the law of reciprocity: let the other party generate a sense of debt.

This is a win-win principle of communication. In interpersonal communication, everyone actually starts from egotism and pays in return.

Only some people look at the rewards lightly and see the rewards far away.

You can't bring benefits to the other person, the other side can not pay for your interests, "there is no such thing as a free meal". Even if your parents need to repay, you will feel cold if you are not filial.