How To Kill Potential Enemies In Your Career

< p > there is a Western Fable: two hungry lions arrive at the same place where they drink water on weekdays.

No one will give up the two lions. Everyone wants to drink the first saliva.

The conflict quickly escalated, and the two lions finally fought.

Suddenly, the two fighting lions found a group of Coyote surrounded them, waiting for the loser to fall.

Then the two lions suddenly realized that they had stopped fighting and walked away.

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< p > have you ever lost control or lost your mind at work? The field of work is really a breeding ground for anger. Think about how much time you spend in the workplace. Think about how many different colleagues, partners and customers we will encounter in our work. How much misunderstanding, rumor and contradiction can be caused by competition and cooperation in the workplace? If you lose your cool in your work and control your anger, you may bring bad results: loss of credit, bad interpersonal relationship and increased pressure, all of which are potential enemies of your career.

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< p > < strong > source of anger < /strong > < /p >

< p > in the following scenario, you are most likely to lose control: < /p >

P is isolated -- you are not being accepted by your own group, so you get angry, which will greatly affect your work efficiency and mood.

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P, a fussy boss, the boss is always finding fault. What is worse is that when you are wronged by your boss, you can't even express it. You can only swear in your heart, which will make your relationship with your boss worse and worse.

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< p > mediocre boss -- facing the mediocre boss, we will sigh the unfairness of fate, and the wrong decision of mediocre boss will make you angry, because it is easy for you to waste your energy and time.

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< p > did not get the deserved promotion. In the face of such unfair treatment, many people took a passive attitude, secretly angry or began to slow down.

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"P" was badly slandered by colleagues - the power of defamation is very strong. If you are unfortunate enough to be the protagonist of a rumor, you will suffer a great blow in spirit and career.

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< p > in our long career, we always encounter the situation of "injustice without complaint".

Anger will be our first reaction.

So how do we deal with our anger? Professional experts believe that letting anger rise, you may be able to "take a chance", but the consequence may be interruption or delay in your rising career.

However, if we go to the other extreme and think that any injustice is reasonable, and strive to suppress ourselves, bear with it, and finally fail to feel even anger, the consequence is likely to be a loss of opportunities for development at work and a devastating blow to our career.

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< p > < strong > are you a good tempered person? < /strong > /p >

< p > < strong > selfishness and conceit < /strong > < /p >

< p > because of selfishness and conceit, you will feel that no one should be superior to you, more valued than you, and your opinion should not be denied by others.

Just because you expect too much, so many normal situations, you will feel unfair and angry.

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< p > < strong > perfectionism < /strong > < /p >.

< p > when you are in control of perfectionism, you will be angry all the time, because no one, including yourself, can achieve the perfect state.

In the end, poor perfectionists are likely to be resentful because we are not living in a perfect world.

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< p > < strong > paranoid < /strong > < /p >

< p > in the workplace, the most agreeable colleagues are those who are flexible and able to accept others' opinions.

People who are controlled by bigotry are always fighting against their boss or colleagues on small issues. They are not only angry but also annoying. Why? /p

< p > < strong > war to anger > /strong > /p >

< p > the advice of professional experts is to tell oneself, "this situation is very bad, but I will learn how to deal with it".

You need to learn to find a workable solution. The basic principle is to control yourself and fight against anger on the premise of retaining work.

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< p > anger is just a kind of emotion. You can control it. < /p >

< p > in many cases, we are afraid that anger will control ourselves, so we erroneously believe that dealing with anger means only killing anger by killing it.

As a result, anger can't find its exit, it accumulates, breaks through the defense line you built, and makes a decision that makes you regret.

We should understand that we can be angry, but we do not have to show it.

Even when we are angry, we can make wise and correct choices.

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< p > < strong > clarify your choice < /strong > < /p >.

< p > Yes, you are very angry and angry, but don't forget to ask yourself: do I need this job? Is the meaning of this job far greater than the pain I feel at this time? If the answer is yes, then it is not too difficult to calm down.

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< p > < strong > humor instead of anger < /strong > /p >

< p > after the initial anger has passed, you have calmed down.

At this time, nothing was done, so that he was treated unfairly.

A little humor and irony of "Ah Q" can not only make your anger find a better outlet, but also make laughter bring you better popularity.

Psychologists believe that humor and anger can not coexist psychologically, so humor can effectively drive anger away.

Therefore, when you feel anger, you may as well go into silence, and let those initiator feel your wisdom and magnanimity.

Learn to forgive. When you are wronged, the last thing you want to do is to forgive those hateful initiators.

But even if they are not worth your forgiveness, once you forgive them, you can win psychological advantages and support for others.

When you learn to forgive, you will no longer be confined to your own grievances, anger and disappointments, and you will be able to get out of it quickly and be stronger.

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< p > < strong > from body and mind to anger, /strong > /p >

< p > emotional -- crying.

A sobbing cry will make anger disappear with tears.

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< p > psychologically speaking your anger.

Maybe tell a friend, or talk to yourself, your anger.

Of course, in the end, don't forget to give yourself some confidence: I will not be controlled by anger.

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< p > spiritual meditation can help you.

Ignite the essential oil, calm the heart full of anger, forget all the unhappiness and put down the trumpet to fight with people. Now you just need to pay attention to your breathing, relax the tension string and relax a little.

In a few minutes, you will be able to analyze the crux of the problem calmly and objectively.

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< p > physiological -- vent anger.

You can punch a pillow, or you can find other punching cylinders, for example, you can break up the waste that you want to lose. It will be great.

However, a more economical and positive way should be to exercise and keep fit.

Run for half an hour on the treadmill, and let anger flow from the body with every step.

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