Without The Internet, College Students Can Not Communicate With Each Other.

　　 Speak on the Internet and remain silent under the net. 　　

After entering the sophomore year, Xiao Zhou, a student in a university in Beijing, suddenly found himself increasingly reluctant to speak in public. "I feel tired to speak in front of everyone, and I am too lazy to go to campus activities. I always find those activities boring." Xiao Zhou said.

But at the same time, Internet social networking The small week in space is another expression. In Renren, micro-blog, WeChat and other social space, he frequently interact with others, and often talk about hot topics. Xiao Zhou said that in reality and virtual world, he is totally two, introverted and extroverted. Reporter survey found that, like Xiao Zhou line, the "split" state of the university students, a few.

　　 Realistic communication is too tired and addicted to online social networking.

Before entering the University, Xiao Zhou was all kinds of networks. Social tools Loyal users. Only high school academic stress, he can only steal micro-blog, chat WeChat. After entering the University, there was a lot of idle time and no regulation from teachers and parents. Xiao Zhou began to spend a lot of time on the Internet. "There are seven or eight hours in a day to soak in the Internet, sometimes in class, too." Xiao Zhou said he did not play online games, and the Internet was mainly social networking.

Xiao Zhou admits that he is more willing to communicate with people online than the real world. "As soon as I get online, I am very open and active in thinking, and I often have a pleasant feeling." He said, "but in real life, I am a very introverted person. I am almost a listener in the dormitory every night, and occasionally I can insert one or two sentences."

Why is there such a contrast between inside and outside the network? Xiao Zhou thinks that the catalyst that encourages him to indulge in social networking is a bit of a quarrel with others. At that time, Xiao Zhou was a member of the college student union. He often organized activities and had frequent contacts with strangers. Sometimes the work is not well coordinated, and both sides are young people. After several times, Xiao Zhou felt very tired. He felt pointless to quarrel with people for these trivial things.

"But on the Internet is not the same." Xiao Zhou said, "in fact, the curse on the Internet is much more powerful than the real person. It's very vulgar, but you feel annoyed that you can delete the other person and never have to deal with him again." In addition, Xiao Zhou believes that in the network, we can not think about the identity of the other person, what can be said, which is impossible to achieve in reality. "I do not want to be too tired and do not want to spend too much energy on the human world, so I have little escape from communication in the real world." Xiao Zhou said.

　　 Internet social interaction is poor and should be exercised in real life.

When interviewed by some universities in Beijing, reporters found that the situation like "Xiao Zhou" under the Internet is quite common. There are many reasons why they hide into the Internet world. If someone is not good at communicating with others, some poor students are from inferiority and do not want to communicate with others. They will seek security in cyberspace.

Huang Biaowen, a faculty member of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, said that Network society The concealment of personal identity is an important reason for college students to seek social networking. However, college students' long-term social networking with the Internet is very harmful to their growth. "Cyber social interaction is no substitute for real social life. College students always graduate to go to the society. If they return to real life, lack basic interpersonal skills, lack the basic ability of finding problems, analyzing problems and solving problems, it will be very difficult to get a foothold in society. Huang Biao said.

Xiao Yang felt deeply about this. Poor economic conditions, less contact with the outside world before entering school, makes Xiao Yang feel like he can't blend in with his classmates after school. Once anxious, he used Internet social networking as a platform for self training. "What I thought at that time was that if we can develop confidence in communication on the Internet, it will be more successful in reality." Xiao Yang said. However, after a period of time, Xiao Yang found himself unable to express himself fluently in public, and every time he spoke in class, he was very nervous.

Huang Biaowen said that from the point of view of communication, communication between people is not only as simple as language and language, but rather with rich body language and facial expression. Internet communication is basically based on text and has an anonymous protection mechanism, which makes the training of network communication skills greatly reduced. "College students still need to practice communicative competence in practical communication. It is necessary to have such a state of mind: to make the appearance of oneself out of school is not going to make a spectacle in society. Huang Biao said.

　　 In addition to interpersonal communication, counselors should communicate more with students.

Yang Cankun, a teacher at Capital Normal University, believes that the "split" state of college students online and offline reflects the acceptance of students from small to large. Interpersonal communication Lack of ability training.

"Interpersonal communication ability of college students is positively related to family background. Parents are cheerful and active, but their children are not able to go anywhere. On the contrary, children often have problems in interpersonal communication. School education should have made up for this, but the current situation is not satisfactory. Yang Cankun said.

Yang Cankun suggested that Social skills Training should move forward, and the corresponding curriculum should be set up in primary schools, junior high schools and high schools. "Some people say that this kind of course is not too late to set up in universities, but because there is no strict management system in primary and secondary schools, students can't see the teacher after class. If they suffer from setbacks, it will be difficult for teachers to discover that courses will not work." Yang Cankun said.

According to the survey, nearly 60% of college students believe that the most important task for counselors is to communicate with students. Zhang Shiqin, a student counselor at Zhengzhou University, believes that this phenomenon also poses a greater challenge to university counselors. "Communication problems are psychological problems in the final analysis. Counselors should be the closest people to college students. They should not only grasp the students' psychological changes in time, pay attention to the students' emotional fluctuations, but also have the professional knowledge of psychological work to put their work into practice.