How To Deal With Employees And Leaders Of Narcissism

< p > have you ever wondered why selfish, arrogant and famous people are so charming? These narcissism have a parasitic effect on society.

When they control the enterprise, they will act deceit, combat morale and let the share price fall.

When they dominate the country, the poverty and death rate of a country will rise.

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< p > however, there are many examples to prove that there is indeed a culture attracted by narcissistic non orthodox protagonists.

These typical characters include fictional characters, such as Walter White, Batman and James Bond, including the real world figures, such as Silvio Berlusconi, Steve Jobs, Kanye West, and numerous professional athletes, as well as the synthesis of the above two, such as the so-called "wolf of Wall Street".

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< p > people are often attracted to them even though they are totally immersed in their own world.

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After decades of scientific research, psychologists began to deconstruct the charm of narcissism, explain the secrets behind their charm, and the reasons for their success in all fields. P

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< p > 1., narcissism is good at manipulating people's impression of him.

Such people have a strong narcissistic and self puff character, and are skilled at manipulating people's first impression of them.

They pay great attention to the appearance and the impression that they wear, which not only implies their status but also attracts others.

As Keyser and Craig have recently pointed out in the destructive leadership of the organization, they will "focus too much on themselves and connect the narcissistic character and Charisma".

Moreover, narcissism is eager to present excellent first impressions, so that they can hide their arrogance and self-confidence.

They usually achieve this goal by humor, entertaining people or eccentric behavior.

There is no doubt that narcissism is usually very good at interviewing, and also very good at social networking. Even in social media activities, they can be recognized at the same time, such as having many Twitter trackers, Facebook friends, or even higher influence scores.

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< p > 2, narcissism likes to win the battle.

Shameless self promotion, with the use of innocence and abuse, narcissism can quickly take credit for others' merits and blame their colleagues and subordinates.

As Ben Datne, a professor and psychologist at New York University, points out, the main purpose of a narcissistic manager is to grab personal merit or aura.

When things go wrong or they make mistakes, such managers deny or distort messages, or even "distort history" to avoid being blamed.

The reason for narcissism to specialize is that they are fully convinced that they are really special.

In the words of dartl, "they believe that they deserve the credit, simply because they themselves are not fully connected with the actual contributions or achievements."

Although some people understand political means, they can not distort the facts or morally do not allow them to be suppressed.

But people with narcissism are more likely to become wise people because they think they are important.

After all, when you have successfully deceived yourself, it is much easier to deceive others; when you believe you are innocent, you will not feel guilty any more.

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< p > 3, narcissism is consistent with the traditional leader type.

Because they can accumulate power and influence, narcissism enjoys the most dazzling leading position in the eyes of laymen.

However, the idea that leaders must be overconfident, charismatic or selfish can lead effectively, contrary to reality.

Yes, these traits help them to become leaders, but once climbing to the top, they become the source of their dishonesty and incompetence.

Whether in sports, business, education or politics, effective leadership requires the establishment of high-performance teams.

To build high performance teams, the key to success is ability, not self-confidence, altruism, rather than selfishness, integrity rather than charm.

In other words, the real essence of good leadership is exactly the opposite of what Hollywood suggests.

Unfortunately, before we understand this, we will continue to invite narcissism to be the leader and ignore other more appropriate and sound alternatives.

In eastern and collectivist culture, the ratio of narcissism is low, because society condemns it; the West should follow this pattern.

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< p > the important thing is that narcissism still has a certain degree. Although we prefer to use this name directly, the more appropriate way should be to point out that people are more or less narcissistic.

In fact, some people may show a relatively mild degree of narcissism, and others may have serious mental problems.

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< p > interestingly, temperate narcissism is not necessarily harmful to leadership, at least in American businesses.

A recent psycho analysis indicates that moderate narcissistic managers' performance is not only beyond the trend of highly narcissistic managers, but also superior to those with low narcissism.

This finding reminds us that attention should be paid to the positive aspects of traits related to narcissistic leaders, such as effective communication skills, strategic vision and ambitious ambitions.

It is no wonder that besides themselves, we also feel that narcissistic people are very attractive.

Only if such abilities can be found in people who are not narcissistic, and they do, it will hopefully reduce the risk of doing wrong.

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One of the traits of P narcissistic people is that their charm is not sustainable. Remembering this will help.

It is very similar to the effectiveness of fast click * *, the charm of narcissism can produce strong but short pleasure; unlike others, it is hard for others to become addicted to narcissism.

A potential study in this field shows that the charm of narcissism lasts only 2.5 hours, and then gradually dies away.

Their initial glamour, charm and confidence will soon turn into a conceited narcissism, defensive arrogance and moral alienation.

It is precisely because the taste of narcissism is very short, which makes them keep looking for new fans or victims.

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< p > so when you have to deal with a very attractive candidate, the best rule of thumb is to postpone the decision until you confirm their true appearance, whether you want to hire, promote or select them as clients.

Not all charming people are narcissistic, but many narcissistic maniac are charming. The more attractive people are, the more time they need to see their true colors.

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< p > Thomas kamoro pramzk is a professor of business psychology at University College London and a visiting professor of New York University. He has also taught at the London School of economics.

He is a co founder of metaprofiling.com and an international authoritative expert on personality analysis and psychometrics.

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