Cultivate 10 Great Speaking Skills That Are Full Of Charm.

1. Two basic principles should be maintained in the process of speaking.

1, the point of view is right and wrong.

The easiest mistake we make when we speak is to judge each other's opinions in our own mind. In fact, everyone's viewpoint is only a different view of things. It is difficult to judge who is right or wrong. The reason why we should judge is that in our own mind, we have a set of values or methodologies that deal with things and discriminate right and wrong. It can not represent others, nor can it represent truth.

If you judge by listening, you will freeze the speaker in your heart, and you will inevitably have emotional and verbal bad performance in the conversation.

As the saying goes, all roads lead to Beijing. Only by listening attentively to what they say, will they know the origin of the matter and the viewpoint, make the correct analysis and judgment, and perhaps the other party can bring you a completely new idea or creativity.

Listening to the mindset of discovering the new continent, he (she) will be delighted.

2, full respect.

Kong Shengren said, three people must have my teacher.

As there are no two identical leaves in the world, people have different ways of thinking about things. They have a learning attitude to communicate with people. This is the basis of respect.

Respect can maintain your good posture in communication.

Respect can let the other person feel your sincerity and respect.

Respect can show you the deepest part of your soul.

Let others respect themselves, first of all, they must respect others.

Two, try not to use negative words.

Psychologists have found that using negative words in communication is better than using negative words.

Because the use of negative words can give people a sense of command or criticism, though it clearly illustrates your point of view, but it is even more difficult to accept.

If I don't agree with you going to Beijing today, let's put it another way: "I hope you will reconsider your idea of going to Beijing today".

In communication, many problems can be expressed by affirmative words.

Three, from a different angle, it is easier to accept.

Chinese is one of the most complex languages in the world. This complexity also shows its richness and variety. The same view will have many ways of expression.

For example, what we want to say is that a lady is very fat.

A way of saying: "you are really fat and need to lose weight".

Another way of saying, "you used to be a very slim person."

There are many kinds of expressions, and if you are the lady, what kind of statement would you like, of course, the second.

So, we might as well think for three seconds when we want to express our views, and maybe create a better and more interesting language.

Body language includes all kinds of actions that various parts of the body cooperate to express their views.

Words, intonation and body movements constitute an expression system for human communication. Only when each part is perfectly matched can the best effect be achieved.

Studies have shown that the roles of words, intonation, body movements and so on in communication are different, with 7% of written language, 38% of intonation and 55% of body movements (Language).

If we only look at the word "this is one million yuan", you may be very difficult to make a correct judgement, do not know what it means, but if you add words and expressions, it will be easy to understand what it means to express.

For example, when we say, "this is one million yuan", with a surprised expression and intonation, it will make people feel very suddenly. If you add angry expressions and intonation, you will have a feeling of great disaster, and there will be many meanings to express.

Five, hope is more effective than order.

The command language can give people a sense of discrimination and disrespect. This feeling will weaken people's enthusiasm, and sometimes it will make people feel sick and feel this way. Naturally, it will have a bad effect on the result.

You must finish the work in five days.

It turns out that "according to your ability, I believe you will achieve our goal in five days."

This kind of expression and communication is the most significant effect in work. To develop such a task or work habit, you will not only reduce your authority but increase your charm.

Six, a word hurts most.

Speaking is the most basic requirement, but many times when people speak, they expand and deepen their meaning.

For example, when the child accidentally broke the cup when pouring water, the parents sometimes said, "you are born a black sheep."

If you think about it, breaking a cup will characterize the person as a black sheep. What is the difference between this cultural revolution and the Cultural Revolution?

In other words, "it doesn't matter. After that, you can pour your own water to show that you are growing up. We are very happy."

Remember, don't give a conclusion to anyone from a conceptual point of view; don't give a conclusion to anyone in language.

Things are changing, people are changing. Everyone has a good side. Every thing has positive factors.

Intelligence is quite low when people are emotionally unstable or excited or angry. Psychological studies have shown that intelligence is only 6 when a person is highly unstable.

When emotions are unstable, what is often expressed is not their original intention, reason is not clear, words are not clear, and decisions can not be made.

In life and work, there is an endless amount of instances of revenge and even murder.

Eight. Humorous utterance.

Some people are humorous, giving people lots of joy in communication, but humor should be used at different times.

Li Shimin, the king of the Tang Dynasty, was a master of Ming Dynasty. But he was killed by a minister.

On one occasion, Li Shimin received a secret report saying that the king of the border area and the king of might be rebellious and negotiated with several officials of the court. At that time, the Minister Li was anxious. Because of the urgency of the matter, Li Shimin and several heavy ministers began to deliberate on the Countermeasures. When everyone was uncertain, Li came back from the toilet. He came back to see that everyone was very serious. He wanted to have a humor and activate the atmosphere.

But Li Shimin did not think so. He thought Li Zhan was letting him kill Wang and he said, "according to the Qing," Li also said, "the emperor is holy."

After the investigation, Wang did not oppose heart.

Nine, love is an endless force.

Speaking on the basis of love and expressing your opinions from the perspective of love, people will be able to generate strength.

We often make such a joke. When children make a mistake, parents will beat their children in a rage, and they will also say, "am I not good for you?" are you sure your child will understand your behavior as him?

If the subordinates have problems, the leaders will rush ahead and make a final statement: "this is for you to remember, but also for your good!"

No one will like a person who takes advantage of his work. People often prefer encouragement and giving results, which is mainly a result of wisdom.

For example, when we are discussing the solution of a certain problem, sometimes we think of it when we are prompted by ourselves. Then we need to say, "you are creative, you can try it."

Instead of saying, "I have inspired you."

Speaking can make people like, not only a question of expressing skills, but also a habit of learning and observing. We should constantly restrain ourselves and practice ourselves. We must constantly reflect on what we have realized before we become truly ourselves.

A good word, three winter, and bad words hurt June, and cultivate your own language charm.