Workplace Does Not Understand Communication, How To Talk About Development.

In the workplace, if communication is not smooth, it will be difficult to talk about development.

(1) the basic problem of communication - Mindset.

(2) the basic principle of communication - Concern.

(3) the basic requirement of Communication Initiative (Initiative).

Factor 1: the basic problem of communication -- Mindset

Many people think that communication is a kind of

It is wrong to say so.

A person's state of mind is not right, his mouth is like a spring, and no use, so the basic problem of communication is actually the problem of mentality.

How can we understand the state of mind? To put it this way, there are three problems in mentality.

The first problem of mentality is selfishness.

One day you lost your way in the city, spread out the map, and stand there and watch it. Maybe no one will come and ask if you are lost. Do you need any help?

But I had a friend's son in New Zealand. Once in Oakland, I opened a map, and in a minute, two New Zealand women asked him, "have you lost your way? Do you want to help?" this case shows that our Chinese taste is within five Lun, and there are no more than five Lun.

What is the five Lun? In Chinese culture, Wu Lun refers to respecting parents, caring for brothers and sisters, courtesy of couples, loyalty and tolerance to friends, and seeking common ground.

This five Lun is close to far, and each "Lun" is coordinated and orderly (the meaning of "Lun" is order).

Other people's problems have nothing to do with me. This is called self.

In our lives, there are so many people who smoke. When smokers smoke, they aim at the wall first to see if they write "please do not smoke".

It is of course not forgivable to write "no smoking" on the wall but pretend not to see it.

The most interesting thing is that when he did not write on the wall, he assured himself that he would light up smoking.

In fact, whether to smoke is not to see whether there is a "no smoking" warning on the wall. The important thing is to see if there is anyone next to you. As long as you are sure that all the people next to you are smoking, including you, then you will suck together, but when the people next to you are mostly non-smokers, if you can not smoke, it is not self.

Many men like to smoke in restaurants. In fact, they never smoke in a restaurant.

You should not smoke at this time.

When the company meets, the general manager smokes a little, which one dare say he can not smoke, but most of the women in the company do not smoke.

At this point, the question arises: why do I have to smoke in front of my female colleagues? Why do I have to go home to smoke and let my wife and children smoke your secondhand smoke? Someone might say, "it's impossible. If she marries me, it will be unlucky, or my child dare not smoke my secondhand smoke.

Perhaps you do not think this mentality is actually a kind of self.

On a business trip, one of my subordinates had acute enteritis.

When I took him to the hospital, my subordinates said to the doctor, "doctor, do you think it is necessary to suspend the brine?" I did not expect the doctor's reply to be very easy. "Is it not easy to drink salt water?"

What do you think is happening in the back? When my subordinates went to the drugstore to take medicine, they got a basket containing twelve bottles of salt water, and they went back to ask the doctor, "doctor, do you want to hang so much salt water?" the doctor said, "don't you like hanging salt water?"

He said this to the doctor, which he would be very sick of. He thought you were a doctor or am I a doctor?

In interpersonal communication, arrogance will appear in all kinds of faces. It is like a stumbling block, causing many obstacles, making people's indiscernment insensitive, and reason can not play its normal function.