How To Deal With The Best People In The Office

When he first saw this pale, acne prone guy, he would hold out his hand to give you a handshake like a wet dead fish, and immediately began to think about how you complained about how the company had dealt with him. He worked hard all day to the full strain of the cervical spine.

His motto of life is to "quickly save me from pain."

You must avoid such a thing at any cost.

Contact, because pain is contagious, and he will not let go of any opportunity that makes you feel down.

Perhaps you could consider putting some Prozac capsule in his coffee?

At first, the sixty or seventy year old old man who was returned from work looked as friendly as his father or grandfather, but you will soon find that the old guy who can match his grandfather at that age is not honest.

Even if he was not subjected to his shameless harassment (for example, "would you like to go for a cup of coffee with me in the afternoon?"), the ear must have been injected into the cocoon by the commonplace conversation decades ago.

You have to take action against this type of colleague.

The way.

If you are not in one

Now, thank God, you must avoid him.

If you have to face him every day, you must keep a safe distance from him.

Office white-collar workers in their daily work, will inevitably encounter difficulties, or interpersonal difficulties, or institutional obstacles, such as the provisions of certain statutes, companies or units of internal rules and regulations to restrict your work, or lack of resources, or lack of professional ability, etc., all kinds of subjective and objective difficulties will be in front of you.

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Generally speaking, in the face of compulsive behavior, we feel very troublesome, hoping to relieve the irrational ideas and behaviors in mind. On the other hand, we also believe that these concepts and behaviors are reasonable and necessary.

So I often say: compulsion is actually doing what we think is meaningless, but not doing inner discomfort, and doing something more entangled in the heart.

Take forced washing.

Compulsion makes us seem to split into two people, one can analyze according to the actual situation, according to the logic of adults, judge the perversion of their metamorphosis, think that washing hands repeatedly, washing clothes, wasting time and effort, and hoping to get rid of it.

The other is that it is necessary to wash several times more seriously if there is a serious infectious disease. This attitude is not commensurate with our actual age and education.

The former represents rational adults, the latter is not rational, blindly afraid, and has immature psychological characteristics of children.

These two people hold their own views, and no one can rule anyone, which constitutes a disease of "knowing what they committed and torturing themselves".

At this time, we must carefully observe our compulsive behavior and recognize the psychological contradictions behind the surface symptoms.

The compulsive phenomenon we see is actually the first thought in our mind (we call it mental compulsion) and then we have the combination of behavior (we call it accompanying ceremony).

Ritual is something that must be done after mental compulsion, temporarily relieving anxiety or guilt or mental behavior caused by mental compulsion.

Suppose we think: "what I touch is polluted" (mental compulsion), then we will do the "washing hands" act.

However, this relationship is not always obvious; for example, if a person with coercive compulsion meets a child whose age is the same age as his child, he will feel that he must continue three times and uninterruptedly turn the 1-10 10 figures back to three times (ritual) because he thinks, "if I don't do this, he will have bad luck".

When we see clearly our compulsive behavior, we can use adult attitude to command our whole behavior and abandon children's behavior patterns.

We can tell ourselves, "this is not me, it is forced to cause trouble", so that I can face up to my compulsive behavior, appreciate it and understand it.

Obsessive compulsive disorder is like a crying child. The more we beat and scold and rebuke, the more psychological it becomes. If we treat him gently, we will understand and listen to him, and things will be different.

So, don't worry about getting rid of your compulsive symptoms, learn to live in peace with the disease.