Poor Children, Rich Women, Originally Meant To Raise Such A Thing, But We Have Never Understood It.

Many people don't know.

The real meaning of rich daughters.

Boys should be strict and spend less money. Girls should spend more money on good things.

Look at the following articles with children.

Teach you how to raise a poor son and raise a daughter.

Poor raising a son is an investment in a boy's life; raising his daughter is a cultural investment.

The common point between them is to cultivate their confidence, independence and wisdom.

There are always rich ladies.

So "boys are poor.

"Become the golden rule of traditional child raising.

The real meaning of "poor" raising a boy is:

As a parent, it must be clear that now the son is suffering from "suffering" and will grow up to become a "rich" man and become a real man.

For every boy, whether he is growing or maturing, he needs self-reliance and self-reliance. He needs to shoulder more responsibilities. He needs to face greater difficulties and needs constant self struggle. It can be said that the growth and maturity of a successful man is a process of constantly challenging himself and struggling hard.

Perhaps many people think that "poor" raising a boy is to control children's spending, not to give him too much enjoyment, so as not to spoilt him. This understanding is one-sided, which is different from what we call "poor". We think that "poor" raising a boy is more important in sharpening the children's willpower, quality, character and mentality through exercising their sense of "poverty" and "hardship".

Without such a process, boys can easily form the habit of spending money, enjoy it, be weak and incompetent, be irresponsible, and never know the true feelings of the world.

Just like some urban pupils hear that children in the countryside are fed up, they are surprised to ask, "why don't they eat chocolate when they are hungry?" this reminds me of the history of dementia, Emperor Jin Hui emperor, who is starving and hungry. What he said is: "why not eat meat?"

Sooner or later, they will be eliminated by society.

As the old saying goes, "hardships and hardships will be fulfilled."

If a boy wants to become a talented person, he will not dodge "hardships and hardships".

Let the boy get close to "rich" early and avoid "poverty".

Therefore, boys must be hardened in the necessary "poverty" and "hardship". They should be proud of their hard work and be ashamed of their extravagance and dissipation.

Of course, what we call "poor" raising boys here does not mean that boys should eat bran food, remember their misery, let the boys suffer unnecessary unhuman tortures and sufferings, but let their parents reduce their spoiled habits and replace them with boys, so that boys can have more experience and more exercise from childhood, and cultivate their tenacious and stubborn character.

To sum up, we can understand and grasp the "poor" raising of boys from the following aspects.

The connotation of "poverty" is:

Let the boy have some "bitter days".

Abundant material life and large amount of money for children are the first killer of children.

Some people joked that the child had a lot of money, in addition to the enjoyment of pleasure, ease of life, the heart of comparison, but also bought a prison car and prison.

The economy has taken off, and the parents who drum up their money have spent money on raising their children. This is understandable. They can create good learning conditions and environment for them, but they must never give them too extravagant material comforts.

Otherwise, save the money and wait for him to grow up and have a normal view of money.

For the sake of his son's vigorous progress, in order to cultivate the virtues of thrift and frugality for his son, let him have some "poor days" for his son's lack of warmth.

The connotation of "poverty" is two:

Let the boy experience frustration.

The flowers in the greenhouse can not withstand the storm.

The idea of love with fear in the mouth and holding the hand in fear of pain will encourage the boy not to be strong and bear mental endurance. He will go to extremes when he is not satisfied or frustrated.

Setbacks inspire boys to be courageous and fearless and face difficulties positively.

As a parent, we must let our son suffer setbacks and encourage them to overcome and overcome it.

The connotation of "poverty" is three:

Let the boy learn to live independently.

"Clothing to stretch hands, to open up", "everything arranged", this is a big education.

Many college students can't cook, wash or stack. This is incredible.

Can such a man accept all kinds of challenges in society? Can he be creative? Therefore, parents should teach them as soon as possible and allow them to undertake what they can do independently.

Living alone, doing housework, cooking, and acting independently are the necessity of human beings.

The connotation of "poverty" is four:

Let the boy feel wronged.

Boys must learn to be strong.

If you feel wronged, you will have a deeper understanding of life.

It is necessary for parents to give proper criticism and punishment if their son has done wrong. Even if he is wronged, it is a strategy of educating people.

Such children, after having experienced many kinds of emotional experience, have fewer rebellious psychology, strong psychological endurance and mental health.

The connotation of "poverty" is five:

Let the boy learn to take responsibility.

Responsibility is the badge of men's shoulders.

It is because we dare to take responsibility and not shirk our responsibilities to make men more attractive.

Therefore, parents should educate boys about responsibility from childhood.

So that they can shoulder the dual responsibilities of family and society in the future and become a man of noble character.

The connotation of "poverty" is six:

Let the boy be more optimistic and loving.

Optimism and kindness are essential qualities for a mature and excellent man.

Therefore, parents should guide children through different ways, wipe away the dirt of their children's mind, and eliminate their selfishness in their hearts, so that children can grow up to be optimistic, cheerful, kind-hearted and sincere people.

Every parent loves his son, but he loves the difference between "little love" and "great love".

The way to indulge his son's favor is "little love", and the practice of raising a son by "poverty" is the real "big love".

Love is boundless. Only under this kind of education can a boy grow into a man of health, happiness and excellence.

The true meaning of "rich" raising girls

The main meaning of a girl's enrichment is to cultivate her temperament from childhood, broaden her horizons, increase her ability to read the world and enhance her knowledge.

The "rich girl" is very knowledgeable, independent, opinionated and intelligent. She knows very well what she wants and what is really worth pursuing.

When she reaches the age of flowers, she will not be tempted by all kinds of prosperity and vanity.

The first thing that a girl should develop is to be considerate. She has a good personality, can control her emotions, and is grateful to those who give her help. She is an elegant lady.

Connotation of "rich"

Encourage - encourage, not humble.

There was a letter from a girl's mother asking me: there are too many ways to educate girls, too complicated. Is there any "best", "simplest" and "easiest" way to get girls to grow up to be an excellent woman?

My answer is this: not "encouragement".

One of my students, a 13 year old girl, once wrote in her diary:

Whenever I encounter difficulties and hesitation, my father will always stand by my side and tell me: "children, in the eyes of your father, you are the best. Dad believes you can make it!" thanks to my father, I can develop an independent and strong character.

Compared with boys, girls live in a world of relationships. They need approval and recognition from others, and need others to push her behind.

For them, the recognition and recognition of others and the help of others are the source of their confidence, independence, strength and pursuit of excellence.

In the process of girls' growth, more words of encouragement and more encouragement can create a miracle of education.

Of course, "encouraging to raise" rather than "modest" means asking us.

Often say:

"Daughter, father and mother love you very much."

"Mom and dad believe you."

"In the eyes of your parents, you are the best."

When her daughter was sad, she held her in her arms; when her daughter was timid, she patted her on the shoulder; when her daughter was melancholy, she often gave her a beautiful smile; when she was free, she often whispered something quietly with her daughter.

Do not say No:

"Why do you always do something wrong?"

"You are so far behind."

"Such a performance really does not depend on your future."

The connotation of "rich" is two:

Love - love and support rather than doting.

The second "rich connotation" of girls' healthy growth is love, which stems from the love of their parents.

But, parents, friends, I want to ask you: do you choose the right way to love? Let's test our love degree with such a small story.

Doting Stories:

The daughter and the neighbor's family were in conflict. A mother said to her daughter, "hated XXX, blame him, make my baby hurt, and never play with him again."

Love story:

The daughter and the neighbor's family were in conflict. A mother said to her daughter, "let's forgive him. He shared your toys with you the other day."

What is the real "love"? What is too much "love" - doting? The same thing happens to me and how I deal with it. I think every parent now has her own answer. If you don't want to cultivate a "little princess" who is fragile, unreasonable and even arrogant, you should put an end to "spoiling".

Then, what kind of love is "love"?

In my opinion, love means using light, warmth, conviction and optimism.

These happy words, to occupy the girl's original, weak and simple mind, turn them into the belief of a girl's life, and make her world full of love and happiness.

The connotation of "rich" is three:

Responsible for raising responsibly instead of letting nature take its course.

One of my 10 year old female friends often complained to me about their mothers:

From small to big, my mother doesn't care.

When my sister married, she said, "I don't agree with this marriage. I regret not coming to me, and don't blame me."

When I was in college, she was also saying, "whatever you like, you don't have to ask me."

As a result, my elder sister is unhappy in her marriage life. She hates her mother most. I think of what she says, and I also want to love it.

Every time I think of my friend, I think deeply about the question: why should I be a more intimate and intimate daughter to my mother? Why do I have no feelings for my mother? I have to admit the fact that my parents have done something wrong.

Parents are wrong in the wrong way, the child's breeding too "take the course", and the lack of a "responsible" attitude.

What is this responsible attitude? That is, you have to do a little bit for the growth of your daughter.

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Girls are introverted and even self abased.

(parents "help": bring your daughter to communicate more, encourage her, praise her, give her confidence.

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Girls have few hobbies and no special skills.

(parents help me): take your daughter to the musical instruments and dance schools, guide and cultivate her hobbies.

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The girl faced a major choice and was in a dilemma.

(parents help others): analyze their advantages and disadvantages to their daughters, innuendo and influence them.

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Negative parents go with the flow; active parents create "nature".

In life, there are too many opportunities to help girls create nature.

To sum up, it's not your responsibility to care for your children's food and drink.

In charge, you are responsible for the development of children's abilities; responsible for the growth of children's physical and mental health; responsible for their children's life blueprint; responsible for their children's future.

Whether it is responsible or not determines that the girl will grow into a person who is useless and dependent on others. He is also strong and independent.

I think this is the true meaning of a rich girl.

Conclusion: all of the above views seem to be in love, but we conclude as follows: whether poor or rich,

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Parents, whether they are boys or girls, cultivate their self-confidence, self-reliance and wisdom.