High EQ In The Workplace Is Useless.

6 months ago, I met Collie for the first time.

At that time, she had already started her own business.

She is smart, charming, and very considerate.

Her 20 employees also admired her.

She knows how to win and always encourages teamwork.

I think, great! This is the so-called female management Charm: higher EQ and less confrontation.

This is also what a successful company should be like in the future.

3 years later, I saw her again.

This time, she looked very difficult.

She told me that she was too much in the life of employees, and for those who did not perform well, she could not regulate or quit their jobs in time.

She was tired of making herself a pleasant leader.

"Now, I don't care if they like me.

I am in power. They must know this.

I only care about one thing. My company is going to survive. "

Cole has learned to become a hard leader.

In order to survive and succeed in business, you need to be tough.

In the struggle between the heart and the brain, the brain should be the winning side.

But this is not the way we are accustomed to success.

In the past 15 years, the dominant theory of success is that those who are successful are not necessarily the smartest, but they must be the highest eq.

But is it true?

Adrian Furnham, a professor of psychology at University of London, said: "it turns out that those who are bad tempered are more likely to become good leaders.

The biggest lie in the workplace is that EQ is more important than your IQ.

A German study found that those who are good tempered women earn less than 40 thousand euros in their lifetime than those with more masculine traits.

It may even be said that emotionally insensitive is a trait to be proud of.

Not long ago, one of London's most famous entrepreneurs: Jon Moulton said that the most important trait of helping him succeed was insensitivity.

He is right. Being insensitive at work is a very powerful asset.

The greatest trait of high EQ is empathy.

However, empathy may be the biggest stumbling block to your career success.

Suzy Welch, a former editor of Harvard Business Review, said: "too much compassion is deadly.

Especially when you have to make very difficult decisions or give feedback to others.

This is especially true for women.

They always want to appear in the image of a good mother, and the problem is planted in the garden where they work.

Another trait of high EQ is self-awareness.

And this is also very dangerous.

Furnham believes that those who are successful are arrogant and narcissistic.

This is also a negative factor for women.

Studies show that men are more likely to overestimate their abilities; however, women are the opposite.

They underestimate and doubt themselves.

Welch said, "we want to have a doubt about ourselves.

"Those successful managers seldom doubt themselves.

Rather than talking about them, they prefer to talk about sports.

At home, the high EQ index is not excessive; but at work, EQ is not too high.

If you want to succeed, you should know when to use your EQ and when to show your strong side.

Welch said, "for me, high EQ means only maturity.

If that's what it means, it's so high.

Of course, it's a good thing. "

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How do you use your EQ properly?

1. in the work, neither be an ice queen nor a mother earth.

Obviously, the former is better.

But it's best not to do both.

Ability and effectiveness are the most important.

2. never cry in a workplace.

3. if you are not too confident.

Then you do something you are afraid of.

You will find that they are not so scary.

The 4. is to work with people who are opposite to you emotionally.

If you are tough, find a compassionate person.

If you are soft, go for a tough one.

Don't forget to remind them when you are too emotional.

5. if you want to do something cruel (expel employees, give negative feedback), remember to do it for the first time.

Don't delay! Bad news is best given at the very first time!

6. don't spend time studying yourself, try to understand your own behavior.

Think about where your strengths are, and then work hard for them.

Don't criticize yourself too much.

7. try to understand what role you play in your team. If there are difficulties, do not let anyone find it with you to solve this problem.