Workplace Confusion: The Person Hiding Behind The Label.

The near state is relatively low, and work feelings are not smooth.

Luckily, a friend who knew a friend was a very good sister who did counseling.

Chatting down is especially inspiring.

One of the most interesting insights is that people unconsciously label themselves to escape their problems.

You must always hear such words:

After the emotional failure, the cock wire sighed: men have rooms and cars, and wives have money. There are women. We have no money and no status, so they are always thrown away.

In the gloom, the remaining women sigh: women are

Beautiful, good shape, someone can catch up with others.

I am not beautiful enough, not good enough, not good enough, so I am not liked.

People who are unhappy in their careers often complain that this is the age of making up their fathers.

Even if you don't spell your father, you have to communicate with each other. If you spell it, you will do something about it. You can't beat it. I'm an introverted, working person who can't do this.

In fact, it is also a good thing to work hard in a good direction. In reality, many examples of success have been found after being stimulated by girls. (see some biographies of famous people); the girl who has turned gorgeous after being stimulated has also been built up repeatedly (for example, the girl in her first love affair).

But there are still quite a few people who have not succeeded without turning around, but when they fail again, they think silently.

Or make a great effort, after gorgeous turn around, still can not get the goddess or Gao Fushuai's gaze, depressed.

Or I find that although I have done my best and turn around, I am not as good as my own child. I am lucky that I am not as good as my own son, but I am very happy. The same introverted guy has gotten a good chance and the business has gone up.

According to the sister of psychology, these are people who label themselves and escape facts.

There are similar cases in the road that few people walk through, such as analyzing the emotional process of a person who has serious interpersonal conflicts and distrust of others, and finds his psychological trajectory is as follows:

Parents often fail to comply with their promises (which cause serious disappointment) - their parents are not trustworthy (their mood is getting better and they no longer take their commitments back) - I can't believe that no one, no one is dependent on it (empathy) - brings more serious interpersonal conflict (which strengthens the recognition of this concept).

But what I'm curious about is that people stick it on themselves.

What is the truth and self?

The result of the discussion is that people want to escape from admitting their own failures.

It's strange, isn't it? However, people are like that.

As in the case of appeal, acknowledges that parents do not love themselves and make them miserable and sad, but if they admit that their parents are all right for everyone, they are not only directed against themselves, but then they are shared. They admit that everyone is distrust and uncommitted to everyone.

Similarly, faced with emotional or practical problems, admit that others do not like themselves, admit it.

It's a painful thing not to succeed.

However, if the label is attached, then the goddess or the target object does not like money, not good enough and not beautiful enough. It is not just that you do not like yourself, you will not be so miserable.

And tell yourself, in fact, everyone is the standard of judgement and selection. He is just a member of all living beings. He can complain about social injustice, unfair fate, and responsibility in them, not in himself, it will feel much better.

However, this is just drinking poison and quench thirst. If we can not face the facts truthful, face ourselves and face similar situations later, we can only deepen our recognition of this concept. It will lower our expectations, give ourselves lower evaluation and even subconsciously lead ourselves to do bad results.

Like Scott.

In his book, Pike said, avoiding problems and escaping pain is the root cause of human mental illness, but the problem is even greater.

Only in face of problems, dare to shoulder responsibilities and dare to face difficulties, can we gain mental health.

So, when you find yourself labeling yourself, please face the fact that your occasional failure is nothing.

When depressed and depressed, tell yourself that I can achieve success. I am worthy of being loved.