How Does "Sweet" Boss Survive?

Qian Long has two arms around him: Ji Xiaolan and arsenic.

They are talented and good.

Does Ji Xiaolan see arsenic?

It must be despised; did Qianlong not know Arsene was flattering?

It must be known, but arsenic is still high. Why?

How does the boss encounter the "sweet" boss?

He is a very good young man. At the age of 29, he returned to China after studying abroad. He went to work in an advertising company. During his work, he made many suggestions based on his experiences abroad and working in the country. The result was not only overlooked but repeatedly denied.

He found that his boss liked to listen to good words, and his colleagues would easily trust him, and the people who had thought so hard about the long-term development of the company seemed to be out of business.

This is not near the end of the year, employees are checking their performance this year, figured that the boss will give him a few points, get the red envelope will be multiplying, but he found that his work is not done less, but in the eyes of the boss is a "problem worker", in the company's position is at stake, the heart is very grievance and injustice.

A year ago, he came to my studio with such a feeling. So far I still remember his anguish. When he spoke, his face was red and his body would swing violently. His chair was dangled dangled by him.

"How do I do that?"

Must we abandon our principles and learn to "flatter"?

Expert analysis: the boss likes, does not mean that you have to change yourself to adapt to the boss, in essence, this hobby actually shows the boss likes what kind of communication way, that's all.

From a career planning point of view, this is usually due to the lack of a good recognition of the rules of the environment and the rules of the game.

The female boss of the advertising company likes to listen to sweet words, whether it is good intentions or reasonable advice. Generally, she is not accustomed to speaking sweet words, and some even reject such a way.

He said he had always been consistent in his words and deeds. In his branch work, his performance depended on his real talent and not on his superiors. Although he knew that it was important to be consistent with his superiors, he was mentally unwilling to become a boss's hope, because he felt that such a change would not be acceptable to him.

In the workplace, they will face various types of bosses, some like to listen to good words, others like to listen to opinions, others like listening to ideas, some like listening to methods, others like to pull ties, others like public affairs; many excellent quality talents insist on their own personality and way of doing things, and face different hobbies boss, they can not actively get along with their boss, and also lose their development opportunities.

In fact, the problem is not serious. Sour, sweet, bitter and spicy is just a way of communication. You are not accustomed to the way your boss likes to communicate. Just remember that you can get along with different types of boss. You just choose the way that he can accept, do not have to change the principle, or even protect your principles well.

"Almost all bosses want you to make money for him, not a good word," he said.

So why do many bosses like sweet spoken employees?

Expert analysis: the deep reason is that the boss thinks "good words = easy cooperation". Nowadays, the most appreciated talents in the enterprise have three characteristics: talent, ability to bring benefits and cooperation to the boss.

With the development of enterprises, "good and cooperation" has become more and more important, but how to show good cooperation?

There are two experiences in the workplace: first, to be consistent with the boss's direction; two, to be close to the boss's work, sweet words do not mean solving problems, but for a "sweet" boss, it is a sign of "cooperation", indicating that your staff members are willing to work with you for a long time.

So you have to remember that the way your boss is accustomed to accepting is actually showing his attitude of cooperation.

"Can I still have a good relationship with the" sweet "boss?

What should I do?

It's not difficult to get along with such a boss. As long as we take the most important part, we can easily handle it. According to the personality characteristics of both sides, try these three strategies: first, learn to sincerely praise his boss.

In the past, because she could not accept the boss's role, it was difficult for her to find the advantages of the boss, let alone praise. In fact, if she had prejudiced her prejudices, she could still see that she had a lot of advantages.

Second, when making a proposal, talk less about the disadvantages and talk more about "more favorable".

Ah Hui's boss is a good face, and he is not willing to accept others' opinions. Therefore, he should pay more attention to language and methods when making suggestions. Do not directly say "I think there are problems in the company's XX, I think how to solve them". Instead, we should replace it with a softer or cunning way. For example, "the original work is done well, but I think a plan can help the company to improve better. When do you have time, I would like you to enlighten me?"

Third, don't give your boss the chance to think you are not doing business.

The first thing to do is to make sure that you finish your job. Only if you do your part first, can your boss think you are really thinking about the company and consider it for him. If you don't even do your job well, then the proposal is nothing but a mess. It will give your boss a bad impression of your dream.

A year after today, the opposite side is calm and dignified. Compared with last year, it is quite different from what I expected last year.

In his communication with his boss, he has been much more comfortable. Many of his ideas and suggestions have gradually been recognized by the boss, which has played a great role in the development of the company. The company has seen a great deal of appreciation.

I asked him, "do you think you lost yourself in this year?"

"His answer is:" not only did not feel the loss of their personality, after getting out of this misunderstanding, I really found that the boss has many advantages, and now I always praise our boss.

"He laughed embarrassed.

The expert said: "with rich knowledge and ability, it is brilliant, but if you are stubborn in form and personality, you will not be able to give full play to it."

Only when we have talent and talent at the same time is wisdom.