Nine Killer Of Interpersonal Relationships

In a single unit, or in an office, it is very important to do well in the relationship between colleagues.

A harmonious relationship and a good mood are not only good for work, but also conducive to physical and mental health.

If the relationship is not compatible and even a little nervous, it is not tasteless.

In addition to the contradiction between the major problems and the direct conflict of interest, it is also a reason to pay no attention to the details of his own words and deeds.

What words and deeds will affect the relationship between colleagues?

If you know something, you know, or you have already taken it, sitting there silently, like nothing, and never tell you anything. There are some things that you can take over and never help people.

In such a few times, others will naturally have ideas and feel that you are too sociable and lack common sense and teamwork spirit.

After they know something first, or if something is taken first, they may not tell you.

If this goes on, the relationship will not be harmonious.

If you know your friend, you know, you can't go out for a while or go out for a while. When someone comes to see him, or you just call him, if your colleagues do not tell you, you know, you might as well tell them; if you really don't know, then ask someone else, then tell the other person to show your enthusiasm.

Clearly know, and you do not know through direct access, once known, the relationship between them will be affected.

No matter what the situation is, you must be sincere and enthusiastic, so even if you do not have a practical effect, outsiders will feel that your colleagues are in good relationship.

If you don't tell each other, you have to go out for a while or ask for leave, but you may be asked to leave the office, but you'd better speak to your colleagues in the office.

Even if you go out for half an hour, say hello to your colleagues.

In this way, if leaders or acquaintances come to look for them, they can also let colleagues have a confession.

If you don't want to say anything, when you come in and out of mystery, sometimes there is something urgent, people will not be able to say it. Sometimes you will be too lazy to say that you may be influenced by yourself.

Mutual notification is both a need for common work and a need for liaison. It shows mutual respect and trust between the two sides.

There are some private matters that can not be said, but some personal matters are not harmful.

For example, your boyfriend or girlfriend's work unit, education, age and temperament, etc. if you get married and have children, you will have a topic related to love and children.

In the spare time, you can chat by the way, it can enhance understanding and deepen feelings.

If these contents are kept secret, they will never speak to others. How can this be considered as a colleague?

Without saying anything, it usually shows deep feelings. If you do not speak, you will naturally show the alienation of interpersonal distance.

When you talk about other people's affairs, others will tell you that sometimes you can help each other.

You say nothing, do not let anyone know, how do people trust you?

Trust is based on mutual understanding.

It is right that there are things that refuse to seek help from colleagues.

Because asking people always brings trouble to others.

But everything is dialectical. Sometimes, asking for help can show your trust in others, harmony and feelings.

For example, your health is not good, your colleague's lover is a doctor, you don't know, but you can find it through colleagues' introduction, so that you can quickly and quickly check.

If you refuse to ask for help, your colleagues will know that you do not trust others.

If you don't want to ask others, people will be sorry to ask you. If you are afraid of other people's troubles, people will think you are also very afraid of trouble.

Good interpersonal relationship is based on mutual help.

Therefore, seeking help from others is generally acceptable.

Of course, pay attention to propriety and try not to embarrass others.

If you want to avoid your colleagues' snacks, you should not bring any snacks, such as fruit, melon seeds or sugar, into the office, and eat at rest. Don't feel embarrassed and refuse.

Sometimes, some of your colleagues have won awards or commended titles. Everyone is happy to ask him to buy something to entertain. This is also normal. You can take an active part in it.

You should not sit around and say nothing, but do not want others to give you, but you refuse it, showing a disdainful or uncommon look.

When people are enthusiastic about giving away, you are often cold, but for a long time, people have reason to say that you are tall and arrogant and feel that you are difficult to get along with.

There are several people in the office with one person who bite the ear, and you should try to maintain a balance for everyone and try to stay in the same state as always.

In peacetime, do not always whisper with the same person, do not always go in and out with a person.

Otherwise, the two of you may be close, but there may be more alienation.

Some people thought you were working on a small group.

If you often "bite your ears" with the same person, others will come in and say nothing, then others will inevitably produce the idea that you are speaking ill of others.

People like to talk about family matters, and people will say that they can't talk about it.

Everyone has his own secret.

Sometimes, people do not pay attention to the secret of the heart to leak, for this, do not go to inquire, do not want to ask.

Some people are keen to inquire about everything. They want to know everything. They want to make sure that they are despised by others.

You like to snoop, even if there is no purpose, people will also avoid you three points.

In a sense, it is immoral to love to spy on others' private affairs.

They like to take advantage of their mouths and get along with colleagues. Some people always want to take advantage of their mouths.

Some people like to talk about other people's jokes and make people feel cheap. Although they are jokes, they will never end up with their own losses. Some people like to argue, argue for reason, and argue for three points. Some people, regardless of national affairs or daily life, see that the other side has flaws, so they must not let the other side lose their battle. Some people also want to fight for the problem that they can not understand clearly. Some people often take the initiative to attack.