Workplace: 11 Strategies To Beat Social Fears

Almost all of us were overwhelmed by sudden social fears at some point. Those energetic political stars also had the sweat of their palms, but the greatness of the stars was that they had overcome the shyness and vacillation of a moment, and once again entered the realm of fish like water, under the eyes of the public.

You can do that.

Fear often comes from the state of losing, depending on the degree of narcissism in the depths of human nature.

It is not because of the old age that people are comfortable, but because they have learned a series of skills of "away from home" as "home court" and learned the ability to manage emotions.

Deep down, in a strange scene, everyone has fear, but some people have better skills to prevent fear.

A new job shows: "first enter the big family" phobia: the 24 year old master joined the planning department of a foreign company. After seven months, he met his first "social Waterloo" in the company's year-end Party.

The main complaint symptoms are: know that the German boss and seven directors will fly to Shanghai to attend Party, consult senior colleagues, but no one will tell you that they will be on Party.

So I decided to dress up fresher, and use assona short sleeved shirt and hemp trousers, and the result was that the scene that I saw with the other three new people, the scene of the clothes and the shadows stirred us up dizzy. As a result, we only had to hide in the corner and work hard to drink, and to wash the air in our hands to avoid the ubiquitous pressure in the "Golden Hall".

Why is office so full of self-confidence that here has become a gloomy inferiority complex?

The psychologist points out: for the first time to participate in the Party of a multinational company, there is always a sense of apprehension about "entering the gate as deep as the sea". This is not surprising, especially for the purpose of "pleasing your boss" or becoming a "star character".

The following principles are adopted: 1, put down the burden of "I must be impressed with the president"; overemphasize the purpose and nervousness will make the performance go out of shape; 2, understanding all social skills to keep calm and relax is the result of training, rehearsal and careful preparation. Maybe prepare some "familiar" topics to chat up with the strangers.

3, don't talk to your boss on Party, and don't bother him with the topic of work. Because what's good for you at this moment?

We can prepare some topics that conform to the rules of Party, such as French movies, red wine anecdotes, golf experience and the latest open roadster.

The 4 and 40% costumes and 95% of the costumes are not enough for the new town. Wearing a pair of trousers to go to the meeting or excessive jewels will be very short.

When experience is not enough to keep you calm, 10% of the costumes are just right. They include simple and intimate little black dress, and ancestral pearl necklace, antique style amber pendant can also show your freshness and beauty.

Don't fall into the habit of diamond size.

If you are 26 years old, a doctor of a foreign dentist clinic is introverted. A year ago, a friend was introduced to Party, including a TV show, a 8 person round table, a blind date, a self driving friend and so on.

The symptoms of complaint: from childhood to study, job search is smooth, and no fear of being chosen.

Always worried about how blind I would be if I didn't have a candidate in the blind date, and I was too frightened to worry about being caught up in the trap of sexual harassment. But if I aim at the target and take the initiative, will the man think I am too westernized and sexually casual?

From the age of 23 to 30, occupational women's fear of social Party is decreasing, while the fear of blind dates is rising.

Especially women who still do not have a deep emotional relationship at the age of 26, are apt to fall into the trap of worrying about their gains and losses. They are accustomed to considering all the worst dating results, and their results are frightened by their own imagination.

It can also be said that the older people are, the more likely they are to turn from "love" to "narcissism", and the depth of narcissism is directly proportional to the difficulty of starting a relaxed relationship.

How do we go into the blind date scene?

1, explain the meaning of your name, help others remember you.

2, show your strong points, especially handicraft works, will win you many impression points; calligraphy, painting, Violin and Piano and other talent shows, you can show your spirit of leisure and beauty, by the way also show your tutor.

3, if you don't go to the TV show, don't bring your friends and family.

If you are a person who often "fails to imagine", why do many people witness your disappointment?

4, you can catch up with men, but don't be so direct. For example, you are a dentist, you can encourage him to do dental treatment. "This will make your smile more charming."

Such an invitation is a clever bait to induce him to say his favorite words if he does not hate you.

Sherlock, 29, an international brand mobile software designer complained of symptoms: when I was at the party, I spent most of my time sitting on a clean toilet, holding comic books, listening to the outside voice, and experiencing inner struggles.

Because I said at a party, "Jazz" was used as the background music of the red light district in New Orleans.

The iron Jazz enthusiasts at that party knocked me down. Finally, one of the men who never said anything said loudly: what does a woman know about jazz?

It's foolish of you to argue with an ignorant layman.

So far, I can't believe that there is a crack in the hole, and then I found this seam, that is to see the relaxing WC, the tender WC.

The psychotherapist points out that there are not a few people who cause social fears in the process of making idiot mistakes.

People who are easily frustrated by misreading a point of view, most of them have contradictions in self evaluation. On the one hand, she wants to lead most of their topics like an omniscient prophet. On the other hand, she forbade herself to make any mistakes, and once she is argued, she is inclined to deny herself completely.

In short, her self-evaluation is entirely based on the likes and dislikes of others, so her heart is always suffering from the inferiority and arrogance of the whirlpool.

Sherlock is a typical example of "borderline social phobia". One step to the left will be self closing, and one step to the right is no different from a normal person.

The following are the recommendations of the psychiatrist: 1, maybe learn a few tricks from the social experts.

For example, how can we pfer topics to areas we know well without any trace?

2, make full use of home advantage.

When you just resume your social activities, you should try to open Party in the circle you know well.

The surrounding scenes, all the preparation details are clear, which is conducive to calm emotions.

3, when you are too nervous, try using abdominal breathing.

Follow your yoga instructor to learn the abdominal breathing and release the pressure by pressing the acupoints, which will bring a more leisurely gesture to your social life.