Five Types Of People Who Cannot Be Deeply Acquainted In The Workplace

It's no use complaining when you encounter difficulties in your work. You should have a positive attitude and focus on beneficial things. Know your life goal, mission and long-term plan, list your personal achievements and benefits, and use them for reference whenever you doubt them. In company with people with positive ideals, avoid asking "why" questions, focus on work, and learn to be open-minded.

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Workplace motto:

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1) Those who talk in a simple way should not be intimate:

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When you first arrive at the company, you can communicate with colleagues through small talk to shorten the distance between them. But there is a kind of person who will tell you all his troubles and grievances soon after he knows you. At first glance, this kind of person is moving, but he may also confide to anyone, and you don't have much weight in his heart. 

2) Gossipers should not be intimate:

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Generally speaking, those who love the right and wrong of Taoists must be right and wrong. This kind of person likes to dig for others' privacy all day long, complaining that this colleague is bad, that boss has an affair, etc. A gossipy person may provoke the friendship between you and your colleagues. When you and your colleagues are really unhappy, he will watch the excitement and even applaud. It may also encourage you to argue with your boss. He asks you to say bad things about your boss, but he spreads them to his boss. If your boss doesn't notice, you will have a hard time in the company.

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3) Those who fear that the world will not be chaotic should not make deep friendship:

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Some people are too active and like to spread gossip and create tension. "The company is going to lay off employees", "someone is appreciated by the boss", "how much bonus will be paid this month", "the company has a huge debt", etc., which makes people panic. If such people say such things to you, remember not to believe them. Of course, don't throw cold water on him, just perfunctory: "Oh, is it true?"

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4) Those who are willing to take advantage of others are not suitable for deep friendship:

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Some people like to take advantage of small things. They think that "stealing is not stealing", so they take away the company's property, such as staplers, paper, various stationery and other small things. Although they are not worth a lot of money, the boss will never tolerate adultery. This kind of small gain also includes using the company's time and resources to do private affairs or part-time jobs. I always think that the company pays too little. If I don't use the company's resources to make extra money, I will feel uncomfortable. This kind of small gain seems to be not a serious problem, but once a serious incident occurs in the company, the boss may suspect this kind of person.

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5) Those blacklisted by their superiors should not make deep acquaintance:

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As long as you observe carefully, you can find out who the boss sees as a thorn in the side. If you get too close to the "unsuccessful" person, you may be involved, or you may think that this is too snobbish. But what can you do? Don't you worry that you will be implicated and affect your promotion? However, even if you don't have a deep friendship with him, you don't need to hit him when he is down.

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Avoid deep friendship, but need to communicate with it.

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When you are new to the company, you should be friendly and generous and take the initiative to communicate with others. For example, invite colleagues to have lunch or dinner, look for opportunities to ask questions about work, and express your willingness to cooperate with colleagues. 

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35. Colleagues often get together, or go to sing, or go shopping to see a movie, or get together to play cards. As time goes by, the friendship will deepen, which may form a "small group". 

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If your boss blacklists you as a member of a small group, you will be unlucky. Generally speaking, the boss always holds a distrustful attitude towards small groups and has concerns about people in small groups.

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First of all, the boss will think that the public and private are inseparable in a small group. If a person in the circle is promoted, the "buddy" who is a better colleague may get preferential indulgence, which is not only bad for the company and career, but also unfair to other employees.

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Sometimes, the boss worries about the "infidelity" of people in small groups. People who often get together are congenial. If the boss criticizes one of them or deducts a bonus, if one of them conflicts with other colleagues, these people may unite to deal with the boss or affect the unity of the company. Moreover, even if the boss wants to give a reward or a red envelope to one of them, that person will probably leak it to friends in the circle. It is likely that not everyone has a red envelope, and other colleagues will think that the boss is unfair if they know about it.

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Here are some ways to deal with interpersonal relationships:

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1) Deliberately reveal the clumsy side to make the other party feel superior.

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For example, actors nowadays are young and beautiful, smart, good at singing, and vivid in acting, trying to create an image among the audience and enhance their sense of superiority; However, when a person faces a person who is better than himself, he will only increase the frustration in his heart, which will naturally lead to aversion. According to this principle, some people deliberately show their clumsiness in order to gain popularity. In front of the company's colleagues and superiors, deliberately show a simple side, with its straightforward image, stimulate others' sense of superiority, and take advantage of small losses. However, some subordinates do not hide their strength. They are full of energy and super capable in their work. They don't know that they have attracted envy and suspicion: "If you can do it, you can do it alone. What else should we do?"

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2) Talk about your personal affairs, so as to shorten the distance between each other.

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It is not necessarily necessary to see the mountain when opening the door. Talking about work once you meet will definitely be repugnant. Why not put aside the theme for the time being and talk about common topics or your own miscellaneous affairs first, so as to achieve spiritual resonance. For example, Kennedy once said lightly in his campaign speech for the presidency: "Next, I want to tell you that although my wife and I won the election, we hope to have another child."

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Talking about personal matters with colleagues in the company can enhance the cordiality between them. However, private matters do not include privacy. If you disclose your privacy to others, others may take it as a laughing stock to attack you. If you talk about others' privacy at will, others will also express dissatisfaction with you and take the opportunity to retaliate. 

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3) Listening is your magic weapon to defeat the enemy.

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A man who always wears ears is far more pleasing than a man who only has a mouth. When communicating with others, if you focus on your own chatter, you don't care whether the other person is interested in listening. This is a very impolite thing, but also very easy to make people feel bad

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To be a good listener, you should not only speak by yourself, but also respect others. The effect is much better than what you say. Listening is not simply listening, but listening sincerely and expressing your approval or praise from time to time. When listening, you should smile. It is better not to do other things. You should recognize with expressions and gestures such as nodding your head in time to avoid giving a perfunctory impression.

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Especially when the other party has complaints and needs to vent, listening can ease the hostility of others. Many people complain angrily, and do not necessarily need any reasonable explanation or compensation, but need to vent their dissatisfaction. At this time, listening is far more useful than giving advice. If it is really necessary to explain, it is also necessary to avoid confrontation, and it should be carried out after the other party's anger has eased. 

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4) Narrow the spiritual distance between each other.

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There is always a certain distance between people to build fences to protect themselves and avoid hurting each other. Although "distance creates beauty", if distance is too far, it will create estrangement. According to the principle of proximity, the distance can be narrowed to make it just right.